Ahh lovely ENFP's. You astound me.
I've been dating an ENFP for a month and a half now. We met online. The first date was absolutely amazing and things have progressed slowly and quite nicely. We both are on the same page about not having expectations and letting things happen naturally without forcing it. We've both been burned before so this is exactly the pace we need. She has two daughters, 3 and 8, whom she's fiercely protective of due to a seriously traumatic childhood of her own. Last weekend I finally got introduced to her 8 year old (who has been quite eager to meet me too!). She's extra protective of her 3 year old because she says she doesn't want her getting attached to someone who may or may not be in her life for a long time. I can understand that but I also think a child needs to learn some things without being coddled. Anyway, she has an agreement with her ex to not introduce significant others to their daughter for a while and I respect their wishes. Usually this results in me leaving her house early before her ex drops the little off before he goes to work in the morning.
It's a little complicated but I like this girl and I like what she stands for. She's very resilliant, honest, strong and loving. But this week has thrown me off in a really big way. She's had a best friend in town so I don't know if that has something to do with it or the fact we've had a discussion about miscommunication through written words...I've barely talked to her all week. I'm almost out of minutes on my cell phone so I can't really call her even though that's what she would prefer. Neither one of us is made of money!
She had a bit of a freak out about two weeks ago after I drove her to the doctor for a medical procedure. Her mom has bipolar and did a complete 180 when she already agreed to watch her kids while the medication wore off. I heard the fight on the phone. In addition to that, her ex planted doubts in her mind making her think she was a needy person, even though I don't think that in the slightest of her! After the phone call she was crying and she told me I should run because "this is the time when everyone steps out". I was able to calm her down and reassure her she hasn't scared me away. I told her not to assume my thoughts about her or her relationships. I said if we like each other, which we do, we should keep going. So all is well, right?
But now, in the silence, I'm having doubts about what she's thinking. I don't want to be clingy but I do shoot her a couple texts a day on random thoughts or happenings, even if she doesn't respond. Now, I know from experience, all my xNFP's have a habit of secluding themselve for certain periods of time.
Am I panicking for no reason?
ENFP's: Your thoughts?
I've been dating an ENFP for a month and a half now. We met online. The first date was absolutely amazing and things have progressed slowly and quite nicely. We both are on the same page about not having expectations and letting things happen naturally without forcing it. We've both been burned before so this is exactly the pace we need. She has two daughters, 3 and 8, whom she's fiercely protective of due to a seriously traumatic childhood of her own. Last weekend I finally got introduced to her 8 year old (who has been quite eager to meet me too!). She's extra protective of her 3 year old because she says she doesn't want her getting attached to someone who may or may not be in her life for a long time. I can understand that but I also think a child needs to learn some things without being coddled. Anyway, she has an agreement with her ex to not introduce significant others to their daughter for a while and I respect their wishes. Usually this results in me leaving her house early before her ex drops the little off before he goes to work in the morning.
It's a little complicated but I like this girl and I like what she stands for. She's very resilliant, honest, strong and loving. But this week has thrown me off in a really big way. She's had a best friend in town so I don't know if that has something to do with it or the fact we've had a discussion about miscommunication through written words...I've barely talked to her all week. I'm almost out of minutes on my cell phone so I can't really call her even though that's what she would prefer. Neither one of us is made of money!
She had a bit of a freak out about two weeks ago after I drove her to the doctor for a medical procedure. Her mom has bipolar and did a complete 180 when she already agreed to watch her kids while the medication wore off. I heard the fight on the phone. In addition to that, her ex planted doubts in her mind making her think she was a needy person, even though I don't think that in the slightest of her! After the phone call she was crying and she told me I should run because "this is the time when everyone steps out". I was able to calm her down and reassure her she hasn't scared me away. I told her not to assume my thoughts about her or her relationships. I said if we like each other, which we do, we should keep going. So all is well, right?
But now, in the silence, I'm having doubts about what she's thinking. I don't want to be clingy but I do shoot her a couple texts a day on random thoughts or happenings, even if she doesn't respond. Now, I know from experience, all my xNFP's have a habit of secluding themselve for certain periods of time.
Am I panicking for no reason?
ENFP's: Your thoughts?