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UGH! Just spent more than half an hour typing a post, only to have the site go down and find the entire post *poof* gone. Now, have to re-type all of it, to the best of my memory...
Have you read the book, Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type: Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron-Tieger: 9780316845694: Amazon.com: Books ? If not, I'd highly recommend it. I found mine at the local library. It looks at different romantic relationship needs and styles of the 16 MBTI Types.
The authors created a survey and used more than 1000 responses from individuals of all different Types. They asked each person to score the following 22 aspects on a scale of 1-3 (most important, important, less important) to determine which are most crucial to folks of different Types. The choices were:
1. Intimacy
2. Companionship
3. Sexual Compatibility
4. Shared Values
5. Communication
6. Similar Parenting Styles
7. Shared Interests
8. Security
9. Trust
10. Fidelity
11. Mutual Respect
12. Humour
13. Mutual Support
14. Being Listened To
15. Spiritual Connection
16. Spending Time Together
17. Accepting Each Others' differences
18. Mutual Commitment
19. Shared Religion
20. Financial Security
21. Intellectual Stimulation
22. Having Fun Together
I've discussed the results of this survey in another thread, but if you've read it, please don't bring up the results at this point. I'll write another post, further in this thread, about the findings but first I'd like a discussion of what you (ENFPs and non-ENFPs visiting this thread) think about these "aspects."
*Please do not simply re-copy the list and highlight those aspects you find most important. I'd like a CONVERSATION about this subject, not a thread full of copy-and-pastes.
A few of my thoughts on this topic include:
Have you read the book, Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You've Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type: Paul D. Tieger, Barbara Barron-Tieger: 9780316845694: Amazon.com: Books ? If not, I'd highly recommend it. I found mine at the local library. It looks at different romantic relationship needs and styles of the 16 MBTI Types.
The authors created a survey and used more than 1000 responses from individuals of all different Types. They asked each person to score the following 22 aspects on a scale of 1-3 (most important, important, less important) to determine which are most crucial to folks of different Types. The choices were:
1. Intimacy
2. Companionship
3. Sexual Compatibility
4. Shared Values
5. Communication
6. Similar Parenting Styles
7. Shared Interests
8. Security
9. Trust
10. Fidelity
11. Mutual Respect
12. Humour
13. Mutual Support
14. Being Listened To
15. Spiritual Connection
16. Spending Time Together
17. Accepting Each Others' differences
18. Mutual Commitment
19. Shared Religion
20. Financial Security
21. Intellectual Stimulation
22. Having Fun Together
I've discussed the results of this survey in another thread, but if you've read it, please don't bring up the results at this point. I'll write another post, further in this thread, about the findings but first I'd like a discussion of what you (ENFPs and non-ENFPs visiting this thread) think about these "aspects."
*Please do not simply re-copy the list and highlight those aspects you find most important. I'd like a CONVERSATION about this subject, not a thread full of copy-and-pastes.
A few of my thoughts on this topic include:
- I don't know how all of these aspects are defined. For example, what do you consider "intimacy?" Or "spiritual connection?"
- Did you know that a totally unrelated study found that both men & women list "sense of humour" in their top traits they want in a mate? This makes them sound as though they're looking for the same quality. However, with further questioning, it was discovered that women define sense of humour as "the dude is funny" whereas men define sense of humour as "the chick laughs at my jokes." Something seemingly so straight-forward can be understood quite differently by different folks.
- Out of the 22 qualities listed, most of them would be "highly important" to me. I think that at least 10 of them would be in my absolutely required list in any romantic relationship.