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Why do I feel constantly tested by an ENTJ?

Well, actually, Im pretty sure I've worked out my ENTJ friend reasonably well. I can even predict what he is about to do. Although I don't agree with him making others feel uncomfortable for his own amusement, I appreciate his humour and I see right through that too. haha

It's bizarre to me, though, that he seems to be constantly trying to work me out. And never with much success. He has even told other people how Im not predictable, and that is something he thinks he is good at. I can see by his facial expressions that he is clearly trying to read mine when i respond to his questions or his jokes that try to make me feel uncomfortable. I usually always PLAYalong and never take him seriously (if i did, i'd probably cry). I hate how this test is just centred around me. He could easily work me out by just being a real friend... doing real things together and not questions or jokes purely to read me. Feels fake.

Why? Why entjs? Why the stare and the constant test?
 

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.. How old are you (and him)?

Also, for consideration :
- ENTJs are (actively) open to changing their minds/ judgement about other people/things,
- It's probably not personal, and
- You seem to be taking it personally.

I hate how this test is just centred around me.
How do you know?
 

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I'm not sure I'm following completely, but I think you're trying to make sense of his attempts at getting to know you??

I've always been kind of bold in this aspect...with anyone. If I can tell someone is trying to figure me out, I will do things like ask "Why? Do you think that's weird or something?", in a friendly way...usually smiling at least, and sort of laughing at myself in a way. This continues the conversation and encourages it to grow because the person's comment is being investigated further, which reveals more on both ends. If that makes sense. I don't know, I kind of use a silly approach, yet I'm also serious..it's hard to explain. I've been told by many people that I have a "disarming" personality though. Idk.
 

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I'm not sure I'm following completely, but I think you're trying to make sense of his attempts at getting to know you??

I've always been kind of bold in this aspect...with anyone. If I can tell someone is trying to figure me out, I will do things like ask "Why? Do you think that's weird or something?", in a friendly way...usually smiling at least, and sort of laughing at myself in a way. This continues the conversation and encourages it to grow because the person's comment is being investigated further, which reveals more on both ends. If that makes sense. I don't know, I kind of use a silly approach, yet I'm also serious..it's hard to explain. I've been told by many people that I have a "disarming" personality though. Idk.
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