There are certain things in life you know you aren't good at nor are interested in, certain things in life you can be good at but must work on and cannot be avoided, and then there are certain things in life that you are bizarrely naturally good at and feel oneness with. you feel so good and natural doing it that it's almost hard to believe how easily it comes to you.
That is how i feel about being a dad- just like i felt about teaching and social care before i'd even done them- to find them strangely fitting and even exhilarating once i'd experienced them. since i was probably 16-17 i've felt in my heart that being a dad would be the best thing to happen in my life and the best achievement i could have, i don't know how i know but it's there in my gut. the day i can truly be fulfilled is the day i have a child with a woman i love and start a family. it might be strange to express that feeling at the age of 20, and don't get me wrong i don't feel i'm anywhere near ready in terms of life experience, and indeed right now i would be scared crapless by a commitment anywhere near that scale, but it's one of those steps in life that you know is there, and when you are ready and it arrives it's going to be just the most wonderful thing. i don't have complacencies about parenthood but i certainly back myself to be the best possible dad- i know it's something which i will have a natural instinct for.
Even these days, living under my mother's roof whilst i study i find myself giving my mother parenting advice ABOUT ME (my mother being not the most worldly person of middle-age)- and that is a frustrating experience.
how do other ENFPs feel about parenthood? what are your experiences? how do you feel about the job your parents did?
That is how i feel about being a dad- just like i felt about teaching and social care before i'd even done them- to find them strangely fitting and even exhilarating once i'd experienced them. since i was probably 16-17 i've felt in my heart that being a dad would be the best thing to happen in my life and the best achievement i could have, i don't know how i know but it's there in my gut. the day i can truly be fulfilled is the day i have a child with a woman i love and start a family. it might be strange to express that feeling at the age of 20, and don't get me wrong i don't feel i'm anywhere near ready in terms of life experience, and indeed right now i would be scared crapless by a commitment anywhere near that scale, but it's one of those steps in life that you know is there, and when you are ready and it arrives it's going to be just the most wonderful thing. i don't have complacencies about parenthood but i certainly back myself to be the best possible dad- i know it's something which i will have a natural instinct for.
Even these days, living under my mother's roof whilst i study i find myself giving my mother parenting advice ABOUT ME (my mother being not the most worldly person of middle-age)- and that is a frustrating experience.
how do other ENFPs feel about parenthood? what are your experiences? how do you feel about the job your parents did?