At the risk of making you completely disregard this post due to a utter cliche..."it takes two to tango."I think I suck as a mother. My ENFP daughter tonight told me she only respects her dad who is not even around. So there you go. Somewhere along the way, I just flat out failed.
Aw, thank you. That was very kind of you to take the time to write those encouraging words.At the risk of making you completely disregard this post due to a utter cliche..."it takes two to tango."
If you care that you've failed, you haven't failed. In no part of the most common version of the Person Handbook does it tell you how to love, and it's even harder to get your hands on a copy that tells you how to accept love. Turmoil inside a person will almost always lead to hurricanes striking at everything they know, and more importantly, everything they love. Of course she'd say she respects her father more; if he's not around, he's not in her path and can not feel the devastation. However, you can. We always hurt the ones we love, especially when we have a problem that is beyond their fixing.
I am FULLY aware that I don't know the situation and I could be on Uranus while this situation is occurring on Mars. However, my intuition tells me that you're doing the best you can with what you've been given. If you have yeast and no oven, of course the bread will come out odd. But just because it is mildly defective and possibly poisonous, it is still whole. In my opinion, the only reason you can fail as a mother is if you give up. Maybe I'm a little too idealist in this department, but I firmly believe that. I pray and hope for you and your daughter, as I'm sure you're both a mirror image of beauty in different lands with the glass as a barrier. Good luck- I believe in you.
Seems like it'd be easy to "respect" the one who is rarely around. They don't have to set rules and boundaries.I think I suck as a mother. My ENFP daughter tonight told me she only respects her dad who is not even around. So there you go. Somewhere along the way, I just flat out failed.
I have 3 close ENFP guy friends and only one of them became a father. The other never had children, even though they would have made exceptional fathers. But it's awesome because they do make the world's best "uncles". Kids LOVE them. Actually my ENFP daughter has never given up hope that I'd marry one of them. But that would be like an amusement park in our house.ENFP father, where re u guys ? :frustrating: I'm gonna be a future one so I wanna hear your opinions. roud: