Yeah, the 8s and sometimes 1s can be more overbearing. I think 5s can seem softer. Albeit disappearing acts and the typical "cold" judgment.No, no. But INTJs come in different flavors. I'm sure it's due to enneagram. But most INTJs here are not like my ex. There are some. But most seem to have a softer edge. I do think the forum would collectively find him to be an "asshole" as well. I don't think he could really hang on a forum. He cared very little what others thought.