Oh yes. I understand you completely.
My dad is an ESTJ who rules with an iron fist, takes no BS from anybody, and still works 20-hour days. My mom is an ISFJ who just gets depressed and emotional whenever I do something considered "unorthodox." when they get together, they often like to play a game called, "whose turn is it to pester the hell out of Robinson?"
dealing with 2 SJs growing up was not pleasant or fun.
all i can say is, I'm 24 now and about to move out, just as soon as I hear back from the companies I interviewed with. I had some pretty big fights with them growing up. Usually about my future and how I couldn't make up my damn mind about anything. I tell them I need space from them to explore my talents and find out what I was born to do. They look at me like I'm 5 years old and as if I had just stuck a finger up my butt and licked it clean.
It was hard, but I eventually learned that I can't expect to get any emotional support from them for the things I want to do in life. And I can't make any of the rules living at home under their roof.
So I've made financial independence a top priority of mine this past year and have been working night and day to find jobs...without telling my parents. I often felt like a POW digging his way out of his cell every night while his jailers suspected nothing. If you've found a way to reconcile SJ parents with NF children, I'd love to hear it. Personally, I think the Jews and Palestinians will establish ever-lasting peace long before my parents and I see eye-to-eye.