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I found a couple of articles on enneagram 4 spirituality and I thought I'd share it with you all. :happy:

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Type 4, The Individualist

Triad (Corner): Heart (image, feeling)
Core Issue: Shame
Personality runs on: Frustration
Values: Emotional Reactivity
Style: Withdrawn
Passion: Envy
Virtue: Equanimity

Description: Creatures of emotional extremes, fours are awash in a stormy sea of emotions. They are all about relationships and seem to be always beginning, ending, or analyzing relationships. They feel frustrated in their search for connection to others. As children, they didn’t feel like the parents really understood them or were there for them emotionally. Whether or not this was really true is beside the point. They feel like they were born into the wrong family and continue to seek out people who will nurture them, mirror them, and rescue them from their suffering.

Fours are not content with the ordinary, in any sense of the word. They like to look stunningly beautiful or completely unique. Their living quarters must be tasteful or artistic. Ordinary emotions won’t do, they like to have the highest of emotional highs and lowest of lows. They live their lives moving between ecstacy and despair.

The passion of the Four is envy. Ironically, they envy certain qualities of other people, such as their happiness or their relationships, while at the same time feeling disdain for those same people’s ordinariness.

Fours are so identified with their feelings that they believe they ARE their feelings. They believe that they are flawed, different or special and form their identities around these feelings. They tend to view people of other types, especially 3s or 7s, as shallow, and themselves as deep. The problem is that fixated fours don’t really feel their feelings. They create all the drama precisely to avoid feeling the real pain of their lives, and so are as shallow as every other fixated type.

Fours withdraw from others, often with high drama, so that others come and find them. They also withdraw to protect themselves from getting their feelings hurt. When unhealthy, they are so reactive that others feel they need to walk on eggshells around them. They also can become overly helpful and intrusive, like average to unhealthy Type 2s.

When healthy, fours learn to stay with the ordinariness of their real feelings – to actually feel the real pain, grief, sadness that comes with living. As a result they are also able to feel happiness and joy. Healthy fours learn to stop identifying with their feelings, gain some objectivity, and be ordinary. As Don Riso said in a recent workshop, referring to his nine levels of development of the types, “A four at level 3 (healthy range) can shop at K-Mart. A four at level 4 (average range) can’t.”

When fours stop identifying with their pain, and start feeling it and letting it go, they become extremely gifted at seeing the beauty in all of the raw emotions of life. If they have an artistic streak, they use their understanding of emotion and their aesthetic sensibilities to create works of art, and are able to put those works of art out there for others to experience.

At their best, Fours find dry land on which to stand, incorporate objectivity into their psyches, and gain wisdom like a healthy 1. They learn to ground themselves in present reality instead of dwelling on past suffering. They achieve equanimity. And when 4s incorporate the healthy side of 2, they can be magnificent therapists, helping others navigate through their own difficult feelings.


Examples of this type: Johnny Depp, Nicholas Cage, Anthony Hopkins, Cher, Frasier, Judy Garland, Sylvia Plath, Prince, Bob Dylan, Edgar Allan Poe, the Goths, the Drama Queen, France.

An exercise for Type 4: Notice when you move from reality into fantasy. What is in your fantasy world that is not in your real world? What emotions do you feel there? Spend some time in your imagination.

Now breathe deeply into your belly. Feel your body. Pay attention to your feet, your legs, how your body is supported by the floor or the chair. Now breathe deeply into your chest, into your heart space. What emotions do you feel now? Try to discern your real feelings from your imagined feelings.


Enneagram Personality Type 4: The Artist

Enneagram Type 4:
Individualist, Artist, Over-Analyzer, Mystic or Melodramatic Elitist

Overview
You want to be gifted, intuitive, original and unique. More importantly, you want to be passionate, true to your feelings and uniquely authentic. You see yourself as sensitive, expressive and spiritual. You would like others to see you as idealistic, emotionally deep and compassionate. Your idealized image is that you are accomplished and special.

Motivated by the need to understand and to be understood, you desire experiences that are rich with feeling and meaning. You may find it easier to deal with painful emotions than to deal with the tedium of daily routine. You have the temperament of an artist and long to freely express yourself. You feel your emotions deeply and are not afraid to go emotionally where others fear to tread. This includes having an exquisite, intuitive ability to distinguish between subtle emotions that others often miss. Painfully self-conscious, you are often overly focused on how different you are from others. A true humanitarian, you have a natural passion for protest. At times intense and contrary, you are not afraid to think for yourself and voice your point of view.

Nostalgic by nature, you often focus on past experiences. This can lead you to deeper insights or to downward spirals of melancholy and/or painful unresolved feelings. Craving ideal circumstances or love, you often ruminate on what is missing and perceived to be important. Your tendency towards self-absorption is both an asset and liability. It can lead you to deep personal insights that can benefit everyone while feeding your self-deprecating sense of humor; but it can also make you appear to be self centered and disinterested in others. Feeling your own inner world so powerfully, it is good to remember that others’ experiences are just as real for them as yours are for you.

When you step out of the river of your emotions, you can bring forth your many talents into the world and express them in a way that is extraordinary and original. You are like the lotus flower growing in the mud that is able to transform emotionally painful experiences into fertilizer for personal growth. Attuned to feelings, you have an uncommon sensitivity when it comes to dealing with suffering. You are not afraid to hear about someone else’s troubles, and you can be a great friend to anyone in emotional pain.

Need
You need be seen as artistic, gifted and accomplished. You focus on your individuality and on carving your own distinct image. You need to express your deep feelings and want others to validate your emotions. Whether you are organizing your living space to reflect your refined tastes or engaging in an artistic pursuit, it is essential for your sense of well being that you express your creativity.

Avoid
You avoid feeling lost, disorientated and without personal significance, meaning or direction. You also avoid appearing inadequate, defective or flawed. Most importantly, you have a hidden fear of being emotionally cut off and abandoned. You avoid affectation and anything dull, ordinary, ugly, vulgar, inauthentic or distasteful.

Virtue
Your greatest strengths are your deep intuition, creativity and ability to transform painful life experiences into opportunities for profound growth and healing. This enables you to identify what is missing, and like a knight on a quest, you search until you find it or create it. Astute about human nature, you believe that everyone is an individual and that all emotions have value. Profound and insightful, you have an uncanny knack for transforming the dull and the ordinary into the exciting and extraordinary. You are able to see and appreciate what is truly unique, special and rare.

Vice
Your vice is envy. You’re always worrying that others may have gotten a better deal than you or are being recognized while your talents are being overlooked. Hyper-sensitive, you can be moody, haughty and overly emotional, always seeing the grass as greener and the glass half empty. You can be self-absorbed and temperamental, and tend to over-personalize all life experiences and interactions with others. Capable of being emotionally manipulating or overly critical, you are often unaware of the impact your emotional nature has on others. Remember, that you are like a mystic who sees ‘the river beneath the river’ and are not just the swamp of your emotions.

Attention
Your attention goes to searching for meaning, noticing what is missing, feelings of melancholy and nostalgia, and longing for the unavailable. You appreciate the special, the humane and the beautiful. You like to put your personal signature on everything that you do. Your refined tastes make you a great critic and someone who appreciates the truly exceptional.

Spiritual Path
Your spiritual journey is to connect to original source and create true meaning. Spiritual growth will come to you when you are able to balance your emotional nature with temperance and equanimity. Keep your powerful emotions in check, and you can create the kind of life that you want.

Mantra
Don’t dwell on the past, and remember to enjoy the pleasure that can be found in each moment. When you have gratitude and the courage to move through your fear of rejection and share your talents, others will honor your original and creative contributions.

Wing
If you are the Enneagram Type 4 with the 3 Wing, you desire to appear genteel. You see you yourself as fiery, passionate, expressive, energetic, beautiful, and kind.
If you are the Enneagram Type 4 with the 5 Wing, you desire to be avant-garde. You see yourself as original, sincere, mysterious, subtle, artistic and independent.

Famous 4s
Francis Bacon, John Barrymore, Ingmar Bergman, Peter Bogdanovich, Marlon Brando, Jackson Browne, Raymond Burr, Kate Bush, Mary Chapin Carpenter, Prince Charles, Eric Clapton, Kurt Cobain, Judy Collins, James Dean, Johnny Depp, Neil Diamond, Isak Dinesen, Bob Dylan, Judy Garland, Martha Graham, Billie Holliday, Lena Horne, Julio Iglesias, Jeremy Irons, Michael Jackson, Jewel, Angelina Jolie, Janis Joplin, Harvey Keitel, Charles Laughton, T. E. Lawrence, Vivien Leigh, Rod McKuen, Thomas Merton, Joni Mitchell, Jim Morrison, Morrissey, Edvard Munch, Liam Neeson, Stevie Nicks, Anais Nin, Nick Nolte, Laurence Olivier, Paris, Edith Piaf, Pink Floyd, Sylvia Plath, Edgar Allen Poe, Prince, Anne Rice, Percy Shelley, Simone Signoret, Paul Simon, Meryl Streep, James Taylor, Spencer Tracy, Vincent Van Gogh, Orson Welles, Tennessee Williams, Kate Winslet, Virginia Woolf.
 

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I loved reading this. I always find it so fascinating to read about things that other people have mentioned about me and even criticized. They can suck it, because a lot of it is just who I am! :) Haha. I don't really mean that - just being facetious. :laughing:
 

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i'm new to this typing....I love it though and have found the descriptions of 4w3 - which is what i came out as - very accurate!!! How does it all differ to MBTI?
 
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I found a couple of articles on enneagram 4 spirituality and I thought I'd share it with you all. :happy:

Enneagram-Spirituality
joyrjw,

I want to thank you for posting this website. Spiritual pursuits take up most of my days. And I was looking for answers about Dark Nights of the Soul, and about The Void. I feel I go there sometimes, but my physical body resists that type of travel, due to my attachments.

It is also a pleasure reading up on Type 4, many INFJs are Type 4 from what I understand.

i'm new to this typing....I love it though and have found the descriptions of 4w3 - which is what i came out as - very accurate!!! How does it all differ to MBTI?
beanz,

I would like to tell you too, that I love your posts! I will be more specific in the INFJ Forum. Thank you so much for sharing.

I thought to write this as I am passing through Enneagram Forum.
 
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joyrjw,

beanz,

I would like to tell you too, that I love your posts! I will be more specific in the INFJ Forum. Thank you so much for sharing.

I thought to write this as I am passing through Enneagram Forum.
thank you!! :happy:
 
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