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I have seen patterns between types and couples and I would like to know if other couples fit the pattern I have seen of compatibility between the types. Does anyone have anything to add?

Here is a rough draft of who is most compatible between the types:

1's with 2's or 5's.
2's with 1's or 7's or 3's.
3's with 5's or 2's.
4's with 6's.
5's with 1's or 3's
6's with 4's.
7's with 2's.
8's with 9's.
9's with 8's or 6's.
 

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Why 6 and 4? I mean I like 4s got nothing against them, but I don't see the logic in a 6 finding security in a 4.

I would think 9s would be a good stabilizing influence for a 6 (I like 9s), that certain kinds of 3s would appeal to certain 6s because they can be successful (which again, provides security financially or socially) or popular (providing security socially) ...or a 6 could lean on the "image" of a 3 being a leader in their chosen group or community (I had a six year relationship with a 3).

2s also would make the more traditional or conventional phobic 6s feel secure. However, a 2 might make a counterphobic 6 feel a little too...doted on.

I can also see 1s and 3s together.
 

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Fore sevens:
4's (we always attract each other)
9 (they fallow our planes and most of my friends are 9’s)
3 (I’m attracted to their ambition and their attitude)
5 (we make great team)
I thinks the worst match for me would be dominate 6 (they worry too much for a seven) and dominate 8 (they love to control but I'm attracted to them).
 

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I think I could be attracted to 4s when I was younger, I don't think I could go with a main-type 4 now.. I agree with 3s, possibly 9s, healthy 2s but it might not be an initial attraction, phobic 6s, agree with the attraction to 8s but it might be too much
 

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I'm a Five and could see myself with a One or a Seven.
I'm with a Six right now, but the match isn't really natural. We have a good amount of difficulties.
I don't see where three came from [for a 5]?
Threes are the type I can relate to the least. I see us making a horrible match.
 

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I think any type would work with me (a Type 5) as long as we were both mature and healthy enough. But based off of my curiosity and the readings I've done, I wouldn't mind if I met a Type 8 individual and see how we would work in tandem. That is, if both he and I are at very healthy levels and were serious about trying each other out. Healthy Type 8, where are you? I'm reaching my healthy 5 levels, yo! ;D
 

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I think any type would work with me (a Type 5) as long as we were both mature and healthy enough. But based off of my curiosity and the readings I've done, I wouldn't mind if I met a Type 8 individual and see how we would work in tandem. That is, if both he and I are at very healthy levels and were serious about trying each other out. Healthy Type 8, where are you? I'm reaching my healthy 5 levels, yo! ;D
I've also thought a type 8 would probably be a good match. I find healthy 8's extremely charismatic and attractive.
 

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Fore sevens:
4's (we always attract each other)
9 (they fallow our planes and most of my friends are 9’s)
3 (I’m attracted to their ambition and their attitude)
5 (we make great team)
I thinks the worst match for me would be dominate 6 (they worry too much for a seven) and dominate 8 (they love to control but I'm attracted to them).
One quick question.

How do you all know what type a person is if they don't take the test?
I'm guessing you get your friends to do the tests...eh?

I wish I knew some of the people's type before I befriend them! ugh...life would be so much better.
 

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One quick question.

How do you all know what type a person is if they don't take the test?
I'm guessing you get your friends to do the tests...eh?

I wish I knew some of the people's type before I befriend them! ugh...life would be so much better.
Enneagram type isn't usually something that can be very reliably tested. Most authors of Enneagram theory will tell you to type yourself by reading and researching all types.

Some friends of mine are interested in the Enneagram, and others I've typed from a distance based on my own knowledge. However, if someone thinks they are a type either than what I've suggested, then I'll respect them. Even though I feel I can type people fairly reliably, the only one who can truly type you is yourself.

As well, there's such a huge variation of personalities within each type, so even knowing a persons type beforehand won't necessarily help you.
 

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i am sorry but a 2 for a 6 is not the best deal,sixes eventually feel that they need to get busy with their thoughts and a 2 would almost never let them dive into their inner world trying to help them out even when they need no help and also kind of damaging their privacy,a 4 would not only respect more the space of a 6 but they would also understand the pain of a 6,i agree though with the fact that a 9 would be good for a six,maybe i think like that because of my tritype i dont know(6w7,9w1,4w5),anyways i identify with fours and nines.
 

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I notice no one's mentioned same-type pairings...
 

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i suppose that good matches for like all types would be:9 and 7,1 and 3,2 and 7,3 and 1,4 and 6,5 and 1,6 and 4,7 and 9 and 8 and 4(it is harder to find types that comine well with twos,fives and eights,anyways i think those are mostly good matches).
 

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I'm a 9w1 with a 1w9, and it works out really well, except occasionally when we try to work together on a project and her solid perfectionism clashes with my latent perfectionism... Usually I can back off though, since my perfectionism is short-lived and lets me go after a while (I just stop caring).
 
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