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radiant altruism
selfless empathy
appreciative nurturance

demonstrative sentiment
intrusive intimacy
sanctimonious vainglory

manipulative blame
coercive hysteria
parasitic victimization


Type two people care more than most about goodness and kindness. They can become trapped by compulsive goodness, either by giving too much or by demanding too much of others. One of their talents is an intuitive ability to sense what is needed, and lovingly supply it.

Except in rare cases, people of type two show a flavoring from one of the two adjacent wing points, so we can say they are two with a one wing (2/1) or two with a three wing (2/3).

Like all humans, twos also come in three instinctual flavors: social (2sc), sexual (2sx), or self-preserving (2sp). In addition, twos also experience nine distinct levels of mental-emotional health (briefly described by the phrases at the top of this page). Therefore, it is possible to distinguish fifty-four distinct subflavors of type two.


two with a one wing


general description

Average 2/1 combines oneish judgment with twoish people-pleasing. 2/1s are tighter and more rigid than 2/3s, but less exacting than 1/2s. They regulate their behavior carefully, in order to stay polite and proper. Overall, they want to put on a happy face, but because of repressed anger (from the one-wing) and repressed personal needs (from the two), their happy face is sometimes pinched with tension. They are less interested in appearing sexy and glamorous than 2/3, and they are more interested in becoming indispensible than 1/2.


balanced and transcendent states


Healthy 2/1s almost always find that their true calling involves helping others grow, often children. They become able to help themselves as wisely and lovingly as they help others. They enjoy watching people find their own calling, accepting the delightful differences among us. Sevenish joy from one's integration combines with fourish depth and empathy from the integration of two. The result is tolerant, patient celebration of growth and diversity.

Advanced 2/1s are in contact at the same time with deep love and inspired wisdom. They are especially good at helping those who are in the most desperate possible situations. They plunge boldy into terrifying scenes and bring glorious hope, love, and healing with them. Usually it is the least self-sufficient who benefit the most from their endless charity.


unbalanced and unhealthy states

Unhealthy 2/1s lose the ability to sense their own needs, and become more likely to actually speak their negative judgments of others. Their increasing self-criticism usually gets repressed, because the vainglory of the two is more powerful in them than the guilt of the one. Their inner conflict is as dangerous and powerful as that of the 1/2, but less visible because it is heavily repressed by self-deception. The most obvious sign of the escalating inner struggle might be increasing facial tension.

Eventually, the breaking point is reached. When two goes to eight, violence erupts. In the name of love, manipulation turns into physical coercion. Self-deception reaches amazing levels as destructive acts are rationalized into hard love. Fourish guilt is submerged and converted into further denial. I am doing this for your own good, and it hurts me more than it hurts you. In the end, "loving confrontations" may generate such hatred and fear in others that psychotic 2/1 may become the target of violence, as well as the origin.


physical appearance

Most 2/1s prefer to dress conservatively, but stylishly. Neatness is important. Nothing too bold or outrageous. Elegance and poise, quietly distinctive with maybe a sparkle of jewelry or a colorful tie. Like 1/2, they hold themselves carefully erect, and sometimes seem to be looking down their nose. They might have a tendency to be a little more formal than is really necessary.


callings


Some 2/1s find work that helps them take care of other people while also teaching. Hosts of children's TV shows, TV chefs, kindergarten teachers, professional nannies, museum guides, school principals, authors of children's books. Disciplined helpers like nurses, dental aides, secretaries, telephone operators. Others find fulfillment by being helpful wives or husbands, managing their homes with firm correctness. There are 2/1 actors, doctors, flight attendants, and comedians. Of course, 2/1s can also be found doing many other kinds of work.​


two with a three wing


general description


Average 2/3 is more outward than 2/1. The ambitious vanity of three combines with two's desire to be loved, and the result is someone who is not afraid to step into the spotlight. 2/3s usually have a seductive, playful side, unlike the more serious 2/1s. The three-wing gives them a showy, mainstream kind of appearance-consciousness. The twoish desire to please others is stronger than the threeish desire to be admired, although both desires are present.


balanced and transcendent states

Healthy 2/3s get beyond the immediate desire to please. Image-consciousness and pride drop away and they become able to experience real, heartfelt love. They no longer need the constant reassurance of someone else's admiring gratitude. Two integrates to four, opening up new realms of creative expression, while the three goes to six, bringing in a deeper appreciation of the value of belonging to a real community of friends. They become genuine, loving companions.

An extremely awake 2/3 is someone whose generosity is so continuous and so genuine that it seems to be an inseparable part of the personality. Never is there even the tiniest hint that anything is expected in return -- in fact, extremely advanced 2/3 sometimes becomes so good at giving that the recipient never finds out where the help came from (or even that it has happened). 2/3 saints somehow encourage the universe to shower gifts on others. Generosity comes through them, not from them.


unbalanced and unhealthy states

Unhealthy 2/3 becomes less able to restrain repressed desires. In a misguided attempt to get others to meet their (unspoken) needs, they manufacture more and more imaginary needs to fill for others. Their intrusive, self-satisfied help causes others to move away. 2/3 may hide the resulting loneliness and anger behind an outwardly carefree appearance, but others can usually see that there is hypocrisy involved.

In the end, very unbalanced 2/3 may break down under the stress. Suddenly the truth will pop out from under the increasingly strained wrappings of self-delusion, and in a desperate effort to paste over the uncomfortable vision, they may fly into an eightish homicidal hysteria or sink into nineish psychotic withdrawal. The repressed feelings of a lifetime might spew out in days or weeks. Relationships that have lasted for years might be discarded like used tissue, leaving others desolate and grief-stricken.


physical appearance

2/3s put a lot of energy into looking good. Many American females wear makeup in almost every public situation, and the males take care to be well-dressed and groomed. Their clothing is usually quite attractive, but not necessarily unique. They like a well-dressed, socially approved kind of sexiness. Some of the most attractive people are young 2/3s, of both sexes. Many 2/3 females, and a good many of the men as well, seem to become rather heavy as they get into their thirties, and some become large well before that time. It is common to see older 2/3 women whose weight is concentrated below their waist. Maybe it has to do with the way twos like to feed others (and thus, themselves as well).


callings

Some 2/3s find work that puts them in the spotlight while allowing them to help others. Restaurant headwaiters, hotel managers, executive secretaries, clothing designers. Others build families of close friends and cater to their needs. Massage therapists, cosmetologists, florists, prostitutes, and thousands of career housewives. They might become media stars. Singers, dancers, sex-stars. There are 2/3 retail managers, business leaders, physical therapists, celebrity interviewers, and spouses of powerful people. Of course, 2/3s can also be found doing many other kinds of work.​

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Is it possible to have balanced wings?
I feel like I exhibit the 2w1 traits
"Overall, they want to put on a happy face, but because of repressed anger (from the one-wing) and repressed personal needs (from the two), their happy face is sometimes pinched with tension."
Guilt and self-criticism are overpowering in me.

But i'm very playful, and very vain

So 2w1, or 2w3?
 
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radiant altruism

selfless empathy
appreciative nurturance​

demonstrative sentiment
intrusive intimacy
sanctimonious vainglory​

manipulative blame
coercive hysteria
parasitic victimization​


Type two people care more than most about goodness and kindness. They can become trapped by compulsive goodness, either by giving too much or by demanding too much of others. One of their talents is an intuitive ability to sense what is needed, and lovingly supply it.​

Except in rare cases, people of type two show a flavoring from one of the two adjacent wing points, so we can say they are two with a one wing (2/1) or two with a three wing (2/3).​

Like all humans, twos also come in three instinctual flavors: social (2sc), sexual (2sx), or self-preserving (2sp). In addition, twos also experience nine distinct levels of mental-emotional health (briefly described by the phrases at the top of this page). Therefore, it is possible to distinguish fifty-four distinct subflavors of type two.​



two with a one wing


general description

Average 2/1 combines oneish judgment with twoish people-pleasing. 2/1s are tighter and more rigid than 2/3s, but less exacting than 1/2s. They regulate their behavior carefully, in order to stay polite and proper. Overall, they want to put on a happy face, but because of repressed anger (from the one-wing) and repressed personal needs (from the two), their happy face is sometimes pinched with tension. They are less interested in appearing sexy and glamorous than 2/3, and they are more interested in becoming indispensible than 1/2.​


balanced and transcendent states

Healthy 2/1s almost always find that their true calling involves helping others grow, often children. They become able to help themselves as wisely and lovingly as they help others. They enjoy watching people find their own calling, accepting the delightful differences among us. Sevenish joy from one's integration combines with fourish depth and empathy from the integration of two. The result is tolerant, patient celebration of growth and diversity.​

Advanced 2/1s are in contact at the same time with deep love and inspired wisdom. They are especially good at helping those who are in the most desperate possible situations. They plunge boldy into terrifying scenes and bring glorious hope, love, and healing with them. Usually it is the least self-sufficient who benefit the most from their endless charity.​


unbalanced and unhealthy states

Unhealthy 2/1s lose the ability to sense their own needs, and become more likely to actually speak their negative judgments of others. Their increasing self-criticism usually gets repressed, because the vainglory of the two is more powerful in them than the guilt of the one. Their inner conflict is as dangerous and powerful as that of the 1/2, but less visible because it is heavily repressed by self-deception. The most obvious sign of the escalating inner struggle might be increasing facial tension.​

Eventually, the breaking point is reached. When two goes to eight, violence erupts. In the name of love, manipulation turns into physical coercion. Self-deception reaches amazing levels as destructive acts are rationalized into hard love. Fourish guilt is submerged and converted into further denial. I am doing this for your own good, and it hurts me more than it hurts you. In the end, "loving confrontations" may generate such hatred and fear in others that psychotic 2/1 may become the target of violence, as well as the origin.​


physical appearance

Most 2/1s prefer to dress conservatively, but stylishly. Neatness is important. Nothing too bold or outrageous. Elegance and poise, quietly distinctive with maybe a sparkle of jewelry or a colorful tie. Like 1/2, they hold themselves carefully erect, and sometimes seem to be looking down their nose. They might have a tendency to be a little more formal than is really necessary.​


callings

Some 2/1s find work that helps them take care of other people while also teaching. Hosts of children's TV shows, TV chefs, kindergarten teachers, professional nannies, museum guides, school principals, authors of children's books. Disciplined helpers like nurses, dental aides, secretaries, telephone operators. Others find fulfillment by being helpful wives or husbands, managing their homes with firm correctness. There are 2/1 actors, doctors, flight attendants, and comedians. Of course, 2/1s can also be found doing many other kinds of work.​



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First of all, thanks so much for this post. =) This is very, very helpful. =)

I am an INFP 2w1. What you've posted here has really helped me understand why I act the way I do. I have always put on a face at school or around my family so others will be cheerful, even when I'm not. Yes, I enjoy children (yummy! lol :happy:), but I don't actually want to be around them as a career. I have also noticed that I have some of the unhealthy traits as well. I tend to forget about myself to the extent that I end up hurting everyone around me in trying to help them.

Thanks again, for this post. Is there anyway for a a slightly unbalanced 2w1 to have other wing traits?
 

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First of all, thanks so much for this post. =) This is very, very helpful. =)

I am an INFP 2w1. What you've posted here has really helped me understand why I act the way I do. I have always put on a face at school or around my family so others will be cheerful, even when I'm not. Yes, I enjoy children (yummy! lol :happy:), but I don't actually want to be around them as a career. I have also noticed that I have some of the unhealthy traits as well. I tend to forget about myself to the extent that I end up hurting everyone around me in trying to help them.

Thanks again, for this post. Is there anyway for a a slightly unbalanced 2w1 to have other wing traits?
you'd have a tri-type. if you had 9 in your tri-type, it could disintegrate to 3, and you'd show the 3 influence. i don't think you can have 2 wings or balanced wings. that is just based off lack of insight on one's tri-type, imo.
 

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I related better to the 2w3 then 1. If I didn't have my values I could see where I could have chose prostitute. It wasn't however the only career mentioned. Plus it doesn't really matter what career a person chooses these are just examples of where they might end up.
 

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I related better to the 2w3 then 1. If I didn't have my values I could see where I could have chose prostitute. It wasn't however the only career mentioned. Plus it doesn't really matter what career a person chooses these are just examples of where they might end up.
Did you write this post?
 

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Hmm.. still after reading this, I still believe I am a pure 2.
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A rare specimen! *Fluttershy yay*
 
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I related better to the 2w3 then 1. If I didn't have my values I could see where I could have chose prostitute. It wasn't however the only career mentioned. Plus it doesn't really matter what career a person chooses these are just examples of where they might end up.
I am feeling a great need to explain this because I suspect it is being highly misunderstood. I never said I had a desire to be a prostitute. I can't imagine anyone would. However, with no self-esteem, being a rather sensual person and being broke, IF I didn't have a really strong religious background I very likely could have become one. Luckily I do have that strong religious tie.
 

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I am feeling a great need to explain this because I suspect it is being highly misunderstood. I never said I had a desire to be a prostitute. I can't imagine anyone would. However, with no self-esteem, being a rather sensual person and being broke, IF I didn't have a really strong religious background I very likely could have become one. Luckily I do have that strong religious tie.
Your response just seemed like you were offended for some reason, or defensive of the post. I think some twos here didnt relate to that part...or just thought it was odd how it was placed so casually between wholesome "Florist" and "housewife." I get the point it could be a two at their worst...but funny to see it just sorted and placed under a title labeled "Callings." Was well written to that point in my opinion. I think you are right some two's are more sensual, and I believe it has to do with what their personality type is as well. I am not very sensual to be honest, and have many pits of sin I fall pray to...just not that. No one is better than anyone else, just couldnt relate. So, when I read your post...it just seemed kind of raw like you were offended or something and I wasnt sure if you had written it or why you would be upset. I think it's great how honest you are, and you are aware of areas that could be your pit fall.
 

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Average 2/1 combines oneish judgment with twoish people-pleasing. 2/1s are tighter and more rigid than 2/3s, but less exacting than 1/2s. They regulate their behavior carefully, in order to stay polite and proper. Overall, they want to put on a happy face, but because of repressed anger (from the one-wing) and repressed personal needs (from the two), their happy face is sometimes pinched with tension. They are less interested in appearing sexy and glamorous than 2/3, and they are more interested in becoming indispensible than 1/2.


That hit the nail on the head describing me. :proud:
 

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radiant altruism
selfless empathy
appreciative nurturance

demonstrative sentiment
intrusive intimacy
sanctimonious vainglory

manipulative blame
coercive hysteria
parasitic victimization


Type two people care more than most about goodness and kindness. They can become trapped by compulsive goodness, either by giving too much or by demanding too much of others. One of their talents is an intuitive ability to sense what is needed, and lovingly supply it.

Except in rare cases, people of type two show a flavoring from one of the two adjacent wing points, so we can say they are two with a one wing (2/1) or two with a three wing (2/3).

Like all humans, twos also come in three instinctual flavors: social (2sc), sexual (2sx), or self-preserving (2sp). In addition, twos also experience nine distinct levels of mental-emotional health (briefly described by the phrases at the top of this page). Therefore, it is possible to distinguish fifty-four distinct subflavors of type two.


two with a one wing


general description

Average 2/1 combines oneish judgment with twoish people-pleasing. 2/1s are tighter and more rigid than 2/3s, but less exacting than 1/2s. They regulate their behavior carefully, in order to stay polite and proper. Overall, they want to put on a happy face, but because of repressed anger (from the one-wing) and repressed personal needs (from the two), their happy face is sometimes pinched with tension. They are less interested in appearing sexy and glamorous than 2/3, and they are more interested in becoming indispensible than 1/2.


balanced and transcendent states


Healthy 2/1s almost always find that their true calling involves helping others grow, often children. They become able to help themselves as wisely and lovingly as they help others. They enjoy watching people find their own calling, accepting the delightful differences among us. Sevenish joy from one's integration combines with fourish depth and empathy from the integration of two. The result is tolerant, patient celebration of growth and diversity.

Advanced 2/1s are in contact at the same time with deep love and inspired wisdom. They are especially good at helping those who are in the most desperate possible situations. They plunge boldy into terrifying scenes and bring glorious hope, love, and healing with them. Usually it is the least self-sufficient who benefit the most from their endless charity.


unbalanced and unhealthy states

Unhealthy 2/1s lose the ability to sense their own needs, and become more likely to actually speak their negative judgments of others. Their increasing self-criticism usually gets repressed, because the vainglory of the two is more powerful in them than the guilt of the one. Their inner conflict is as dangerous and powerful as that of the 1/2, but less visible because it is heavily repressed by self-deception. The most obvious sign of the escalating inner struggle might be increasing facial tension.

Eventually, the breaking point is reached. When two goes to eight, violence erupts. In the name of love, manipulation turns into physical coercion. Self-deception reaches amazing levels as destructive acts are rationalized into hard love. Fourish guilt is submerged and converted into further denial. I am doing this for your own good, and it hurts me more than it hurts you. In the end, "loving confrontations" may generate such hatred and fear in others that psychotic 2/1 may become the target of violence, as well as the origin.


physical appearance

Most 2/1s prefer to dress conservatively, but stylishly. Neatness is important. Nothing too bold or outrageous. Elegance and poise, quietly distinctive with maybe a sparkle of jewelry or a colorful tie. Like 1/2, they hold themselves carefully erect, and sometimes seem to be looking down their nose. They might have a tendency to be a little more formal than is really necessary.


callings


Some 2/1s find work that helps them take care of other people while also teaching. Hosts of children's TV shows, TV chefs, kindergarten teachers, professional nannies, museum guides, school principals, authors of children's books. Disciplined helpers like nurses, dental aides, secretaries, telephone operators. Others find fulfillment by being helpful wives or husbands, managing their homes with firm correctness. There are 2/1 actors, doctors, flight attendants, and comedians. Of course, 2/1s can also be found doing many other kinds of work.​


two with a three wing



general description


Average 2/3 is more outward than 2/1. The ambitious vanity of three combines with two's desire to be loved, and the result is someone who is not afraid to step into the spotlight. 2/3s usually have a seductive, playful side, unlike the more serious 2/1s. The three-wing gives them a showy, mainstream kind of appearance-consciousness. The twoish desire to please others is stronger than the threeish desire to be admired, although both desires are present.


balanced and transcendent states

Healthy 2/3s get beyond the immediate desire to please. Image-consciousness and pride drop away and they become able to experience real, heartfelt love. They no longer need the constant reassurance of someone else's admiring gratitude. Two integrates to four, opening up new realms of creative expression, while the three goes to six, bringing in a deeper appreciation of the value of belonging to a real community of friends. They become genuine, loving companions.

An extremely awake 2/3 is someone whose generosity is so continuous and so genuine that it seems to be an inseparable part of the personality. Never is there even the tiniest hint that anything is expected in return -- in fact, extremely advanced 2/3 sometimes becomes so good at giving that the recipient never finds out where the help came from (or even that it has happened). 2/3 saints somehow encourage the universe to shower gifts on others. Generosity comes through them, not from them.


unbalanced and unhealthy states

Unhealthy 2/3 becomes less able to restrain repressed desires. In a misguided attempt to get others to meet their (unspoken) needs, they manufacture more and more imaginary needs to fill for others. Their intrusive, self-satisfied help causes others to move away. 2/3 may hide the resulting loneliness and anger behind an outwardly carefree appearance, but others can usually see that there is hypocrisy involved.

In the end, very unbalanced 2/3 may break down under the stress. Suddenly the truth will pop out from under the increasingly strained wrappings of self-delusion, and in a desperate effort to paste over the uncomfortable vision, they may fly into an eightish homicidal hysteria or sink into nineish psychotic withdrawal. The repressed feelings of a lifetime might spew out in days or weeks. Relationships that have lasted for years might be discarded like used tissue, leaving others desolate and grief-stricken.


physical appearance

2/3s put a lot of energy into looking good. Many American females wear makeup in almost every public situation, and the males take care to be well-dressed and groomed. Their clothing is usually quite attractive, but not necessarily unique. They like a well-dressed, socially approved kind of sexiness. Some of the most attractive people are young 2/3s, of both sexes. Many 2/3 females, and a good many of the men as well, seem to become rather heavy as they get into their thirties, and some become large well before that time. It is common to see older 2/3 women whose weight is concentrated below their waist. Maybe it has to do with the way twos like to feed others (and thus, themselves as well).


callings

Some 2/3s find work that puts them in the spotlight while allowing them to help others. Restaurant headwaiters, hotel managers, executive secretaries, clothing designers. Others build families of close friends and cater to their needs. Massage therapists, cosmetologists, florists, prostitutes, and thousands of career housewives. They might become media stars. Singers, dancers, sex-stars. There are 2/3 retail managers, business leaders, physical therapists, celebrity interviewers, and spouses of powerful people. Of course, 2/3s can also be found doing many other kinds of work.​

type two
Jeeze...bad breakup with 2w3 much?!
He makes us sound really mainstream and uninteresting...
 

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I try to take these things with a grain of salt. I believe I'm failing because I found a weird connection under 2w1 "Callings". When I was a little girl, I always pictured myself authoring children's books. (Ha, what did a seven year old know at the time) ;-).

Now, I really see myself on fire in this new career path, training to be a Child/Adolescent Psychologist and Post-Secondary Professor. It's not just a few years of school to go here, but upwards of 6. Excited about this process.
 
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