ENTJ male and INFJ female - How does it work?

@Ionna
Goodness! I wouldn't know one personally, but I can use famous INFJs as an example. Rooney Mara is very beautiful actress. Right off the bat I can tell that she's introverted. She just has that look. I love these quotes about her: "I'm kind of obsessive and a perfectionist." And, "I'm someone who overthinks everything and really needs to investigate every part of something before I'm ready to do it."

However, I dislike this quote by her: "It's easy to let people walk all over you ... because you don't want to be difficult." You have to be the person who wants to take charge and tell the world to screw themselves. I'm sorry but it's hard to see myself as a "nice guy." Rooney sounds like a nice girl, but her introverted and feelings are very alien to me. Carey Mulligan is another cute INFJ.

Anyway I can say that INFJ females are a very rare breed of women. On one hand I like they can very structured, imaginative, and creative, but on the other hand they're too reflective, reserved, and emotional when it comes to people. It would be interesting going on a date with one, just to see if we click.

Ionna said:

I am very eager to find out how you ENTJ males perceive INFJ females? Did you ever consider them weak for not always expressing their opinion or inadequate because of lack of Te that domineers you? Do you feel like you master over them or are they too mysterious and rebellious for you? Please tell me experiences. I know an ENTJ male and am curious about the general idea.

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I haven't interacted with INFJs enough to determine whether we could have a thriving relationship, so take what I say with a grain of salt.

Depends on the particular ENTJ and INFJ. I find many INFJs to be adorable, the kind I'd want to cuddle on a fall afternoon, but there are things that make me step back. I need somebody who gets fiery when they see people mistreating others, and I get the feeling that most INFJs are the type to 'mediate', even when there is a clear victim and aggressor. On things that really matter (and for me that is morality), I believe that there is no wiggle room.

Do I feel like a master? No, but I feel like sometimes (emphasis on "some"), they hear me say a few wise-sounding words, and start putting me on a pedestal. Too rebellious? Pfft, no! Too mysterious? No, but ya'll tend to keep quiet when there are important things to share, especially heavy feelings.

Te vs Fe? That can be an issue. I think this is where my idea of flexibility comes. Te/Fi and Ti/Fe don't get along very well, IMO. The INFJ may wonder why the ENTJ can be extraordinarily unyielding at times, and the ENTJ may wonder why the INFJ is extraordinarily wishy-washy at times. The ENTJ will viciously tear at people's throats, while the INFJ will accommodate too much in exchange for social safety/calmness. Now how does this affect a relationship? I don't know. Perhaps the best result is that they learn from each other and grow into stronger individuals as they grow closer to each other.

EDIT: Here's an interesting look from the Socionics side of things -- ENTJ/ENTj is the "supervisor", while INFJ/INFp is the "supervised". The description accurately portrays my interaction with some INFJs.

http://www.socionics.com/rel/sp.htm