ENTP males:: Would you be straightforward when...?

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serenityy

Discussion Starter · Mar 17, 2012

Hi there,

This is my first post to PersonalityCafe.
I was wondering if you (ENTP males) would be straightforward to admit to your "former crush" that you were not into her anymore?
Or, would you be hiding your true feelings?
If you like a girl, would you always try to get connected to her regularly (cross-continental communication)....or you might choose to have a long break in communication (while still being attracted to her)...any clues guys?

Thanks a lot, folks!
You guys ARE Princes Charming, I must add!!!

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omar_aziz

· #2 · Mar 17, 2012

straightforward, I would say

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serenityy

Discussion Starter · #3 · Mar 17, 2012

omar_aziz said:
straightforward, I would say

Thanks Omar! [I am not sure how to operate the 'thank' button...I keep pressing that, but nothing seems to be happening!]

Scarecrow793

· #4 · Mar 17, 2012

Uhh, I never have any idea how to talk to women. I just be myself and treat them the same way I do guys, and occasionally they're attracted to ME, but it's far too frustrating and confusing an endeavor to actively pursue someone first; It's like trying to lift an unknown heavy object in a dark room using only a toilet plunger taped to your ankle while a loop of fran drescher's laugh plays.

And I'm very nerdy and verbal, so if I like someone, I want to talk to her constantly. If not, then I won't talk to her. I've never let someone down like that though, I guess. They've just kinda gotten the hint.

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Jabberbroccoli

· #5 · Mar 17, 2012

Straightforward.

TAHTGUY

· #6 · Mar 17, 2012

Straightforward of course, when I'm into somebody I'm very cautious and not trying to overwhelm the person, just occasional chit chat, light conversations.

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omar_aziz

· #7 · Mar 17, 2012 (Edited)

sometimes I make her think it's her idea not main

LimeDegree

· #8 · Mar 17, 2012

serenityy said:
Hi there,

This is my first post to PersonalityCafe.

Welcome.

serenityy said:
If you like a girl, would you always try to get connected to her regularly (cross-continental communication)....or you might choose to have a long break in communication (while still being attracted to her)...any clues guys?

Open lines of communication are the most important part of a relationship for me. If I'm separated from a woman I love, I will phone her whenever I believe we will both have time to talk uninterrupted, and in the case where she doesn't have a phone (Like being in basic training in the military), I will write letters, probably close to one letter every two days on average, usually making sure the letters are at least two pages long.

serenityy said:
You guys ARE Princes Charming, I must add!!!

I believe the Prince Charming's are over in the NF section. We're not exactly sticklers for etiquette over here.

Armed Politicker

· #9 · Mar 17, 2012

serenityy said:
Hi there,

This is my first post to PersonalityCafe.
I was wondering if you (ENTP males) would be straightforward to admit to your "former crush" that you were not into her anymore?
Or, would you be hiding your true feelings?
If you like a girl, would you always try to get connected to her regularly (cross-continental communication)....or you might choose to have a long break in communication (while still being attracted to her)...any clues guys?

ENTPs do what we feel like doing, so if we lie there's a good(to us) reason for doing so. If I were dishonest about my feelings for a woman I'd have some kind of motivation.

I would personally not hide my feelings because I just don't see why I should. Whether he thinks he should, I can't tell. But by default, if he has no motive to lie, he doesn't lie.

serenityy said:
Thanks a lot, folks!
You guys ARE Princes Charming, I must add!!!

We know, love.

aef8234

· #10 · Mar 17, 2012

Only time I'll be serious is when something needs to be said, or I'm ridiculously bored, at your situation it's both.

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bigtex1989

· #11 · Mar 18, 2012

When I was younger, I would never be straight forward. I was so afraid of having to deal with a girl freak out, that if I stopped being interested in her, I'd just stop talking. She'd eventually get the hint. I have matured a bit since then XD

Now I'm much less prone to waste time, and if I don't see ANY future anymore, I'll say so.

As far as expressing feelings, I'll send out some feelers from me, tell my friends to ask her about me, etc. Rarely am I really upfront, but if confronted, I turn it awesome.

IDontThinkSo

· #12 · Mar 18, 2012

serenityy said:
I was wondering if you (ENTP males) would be straightforward to admit to your "former crush" that you were not into her anymore?

If you like a girl, would you always try to get connected to her regularly (cross-continental communication)....

Yup and re-yup.

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Sonny

· #13 · Mar 19, 2012

You know how there are threads around the place that decipher what a word or phrase really means for a particular MBTI or Enneagram, as in when they say yes they mean I'm agreeing with you so you go away etc? well allow me to assist...

In ENTP speak:

I don't like you = I don't like you, really
I like you = I like you, really
I love you = Either I love you, really, or I love that you love me... which can kinda be the same thing for some
I'm over you = It's finished, really

We don't tend to mince our words when we do disclose. We can be less blunt if we are;
A) manipulating situations to suit our purpose
B) believe it is in our best interests to be otherwise

Unless you can see reason for us to be lying to you for our own self interest I'd say take what we say to mean it as it's said.

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Pete The Lich

· #14 · Mar 19, 2012

Scarecrow793 said:
Uhh, I never have any idea how to talk to women. I just be myself and treat them the same way I do guys, and occasionally they're attracted to ME, but it's far too frustrating and confusing an endeavor to actively pursue someone first; It's like trying to lift an unknown heavy object in a dark room using only a toilet plunger taped to your ankle while a loop of fran drescher's laugh plays.

i can relate
sort of

William I am

· #15 · Mar 19, 2012

serenityy said:
Hi there,

This is my first post to PersonalityCafe.
I was wondering if you (ENTP males) would be straightforward to admit to your "former crush" that you were not into her anymore?
Or, would you be hiding your true feelings?
If you like a girl, would you always try to get connected to her regularly (cross-continental communication)....or you might choose to have a long break in communication (while still being attracted to her)...any clues guys?

Thanks a lot, folks!
You guys ARE Princes Charming, I must add!!!

Depends. If I want someone and either of us is unavailable, they go on "simmer" - I talk to them friendly like, but keep them distanced as acquaintances to avoid the "friend ladder" (ladder theory haha).

Basically I'll only hide my true feelings if it improves my chances of me getting what I want in the end. We frequently stop talking to people and restart later like nothing happened, and it's not an intentional ignoring that's happening.

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dirnthelord

· #16 · Mar 19, 2012

serenityy said:
Hi there,
I was wondering if you (xNTx male ^_^ ) would be straightforward to admit to your "former crush" that you were not into her anymore?

Totally!. Did it yesterday....
She was acting weird today...I yelled at her and took a break.
I wonder how she feels...when I start ignoring her.. like she is non-existent!
I should be sad but I'm angry. idk. screw her, she can't keep hurting me all the time with her BS

If you like a girl, would you always try to get connected to her regularly (cross-continental communication)....or you might choose to have a long break in communication (while still being attracted to her)...any clues guys?

I'll try to connect with her regularly, if she start giving me her BS, I'll stop.
Why the hell should I go after someone who's not worthy at all?
then I'll take a looooooooooong break.
If I still remember her I'll say HI and start talking again...as very distance friends. (with a hidden agenda in mind, of course)

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serenityy

Discussion Starter · #17 · Mar 19, 2012

William I am said:
Depends. If I want someone and either of us is unavailable, they go on "simmer" - I talk to them friendly like, but keep them distanced as acquaintances to avoid the "friend ladder" (ladder theory haha).

Basically I'll only hide my true feelings if it improves my chances of me getting what I want in the end. We frequently stop talking to people and restart later like nothing happened, and it's not an intentional ignoring that's happening.

Hi William!

I'm trying to click on the "thank" button which is not operating(?!).
Thanks to you very much for your reply. That was surely helpful!

English is my second language ...I think I'm not sure what you meant by "simmer"...did you mean "taking it easy"?
Thanks once again! Have a nice day!

serenityy

Discussion Starter · #18 · Mar 19, 2012

Sonny said:
You know how there are threads around the place that decipher what a word or phrase really means for a particular MBTI or Enneagram, as in when they say yes they mean I'm agreeing with you so you go away etc? well allow me to assist...

In ENTP speak:

I don't like you = I don't like you, really
I like you = I like you, really
I love you = Either I love you, really, or I love that you love me... which can kinda be the same thing for some
I'm over you = It's finished, really

We don't tend to mince our words when we do disclose. We can be less blunt if we are;
A) manipulating situations to suit our purpose
B) believe it is in our best interests to be otherwise

Unless you can see reason for us to be lying to you for our own self interest I'd say take what we say to mean it as it's said.

Thanks Sonny! That was really helpful!

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William I am

· #19 · Mar 19, 2012

@serenityy You might need to log in again. I'm not sure why the button wouldn't work... :/

You're welcome! Simmer is cook slowly. Like if you make soup or boil something at low heat for a long time. People also might say "put on the back burner"

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serenityy

Discussion Starter · #20 · Jun 7, 2012

Thanks indeed, William I am!
You sound clever, patient and caring!
I'm sending you a friend request right now!
Take care!

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