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Do ENTPs tend to be popular?
Well, lately I suspect I might be an ENTP. I always suspected it, though, but I'm thinking back about it.
It's just that at times I seem too depressing and not tough enough for being an ENTP. I'm in one of those days in which everything sucks, even if yesterday, I had one of the best days ever.

How do you know if you are an ENTP? Do you fall at times into "shadowed" times of ISFJ behaviour? How is it shown in you?
 

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I wouldn't say I was "popular", but I was never bullied or anything. I had a ton of good friends, all kinds (girly girls, "nerds", athletes, cheerleaders, etc), and ended up with a reliable circle with whom I caused havoc with. :crazy:

I was definitely NOT popular with the dean (and my P.E. teacher despised me, but that's only because I messed with him).

Oh, and scarygirl - you strike me as an ENFP. Obviously you know yourself better than I know you, but that's just what you "seem".
 

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Popular. I think its my wanting to include and rally other people to go along with my ideas that gets me there at times.

Work is a good example. I'm the one that likes to get everyone together for happy hour. I also don't let people off with a "no" that easily. I tell them that they're breaking my heart and the awesome factor isn't as high as it could be without them. I guess it's why I'm very well liked.
 

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I make friends depending on the context of the interactions and how competent I feel in those situations. For example, I make lots of friends with dudes from my soccer team because I'm a good player and have no problem being outgoing in that circle. At work, my peers are mostly mid-30s postdocs who are outstandingly accomplished (and exceedingly brilliant) scientists and who are therefore respected a bit more in all the spheres which we cohabitate, so I'm less social.

One thing I do enjoy is connecting with another NTP in a group of donky non-NTs, the looks of bewilderment at the double meanings, the text and subtext, the little battle of wits that frames and directs the scattered thoughts. Warms my heart.
 

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I don't like the term popular. I bond with people not because of their "lonely" or "popular" status. If I have to label myself as popular, it would be comparing about how people view me, which is paying too much attention at how others feel/think of me.

I've come to develop myself as a unique person. I fit into no molds social, personal, emotional, etc. Popular? That term cannot even be used to describe me. Doing so has allowed me to enjoy the freedom I have with myself.

Don't stress yourself about what you are. The MBTI is a labeling system. If you think/feel you're an ENTP, then do so. But don't act like one just because you think/feel you are one. If you have to act, its obvious that you're not even whatever you describe or suspect yourself to be.

Here is a little secret, the MBTI is supposed to be taken with a grain of salt :)
 

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I was never popular, and sometimes it bugged me, but usually I was ok. I only had one good friend as a freshman and sophomore in high school, even though I had a constant drive to at least be around people (I remember one time I was home sick from school for two days, and I *insisted* mom and dad let me go to the basketball game that night. I didn't know if anyone was going to be there, but I just had to get out of my hermitage). Then we moved, right before the start of my junior year, and at that school I found a group of very intelligent, clever, engaging people who I just clicked with. I had no trouble making friends with them right away. And then at college, it was like my first high school; I didn't really get too attached to anyone.

I think I have a problem with being a little pretentious, even judgmental. If I don't find you to be an engaging or instantly interesting person, I then I would rather be alone than invest a lot of energy into becoming your friend. I suppose I'm mostly extroverted in the sense that I enjoy being in crowds and I could spend every minute of my days with the friends I do have. But I'm certainly not the type who's able to make friends with everybody.
 

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I've observed two types of popularity in my environment - first one is about being someone everyone looks up to and desires to be friends with and the second one is a person who is friends with people from all cliques and easy to approach even for "unpopular" people. In our class I've been the second type of popular, we got a bunch of new people in our second year and many told that at first they thought I was one of the girls who thought they were above everyone else and only associated with each other but that they were incredibly surprised when I actually approached them and wanted to make new friends. Although I do have my haters as well but generally I'm very liked. Wasn't always so though, two and a half years ago I was sort of popular but more of the "I'm so much better than all of you" type, still embarrassed about that although thankfully most don't seem to remember.

Other ENTPs I've met have been pretty similar to me in that sense but one excludes people somewhat easily (is friendly to all but only friends with certain kind) and one is very judgmental about some. I think I have more friends though.
 

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Well, I have a good share of friends, but they all had to make the first step in our friendship.
It's not that I'm shy or anything, on the contrary, I'm quite easy to approach once you understand I'm not attacking you in any way but it's just that my way of expressing myself through tone of voice and words is screwed up, but the real problem is that very few people get my attention and I'm very likely to ignore you at first, not because I think I'm better or anything like that; it's just that I don't notice people much.
 

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I went to a very big high school and was voted the quested kid, which is kinda a weird thing cause obv the actual quietest kids aren't well known... but sounds like a title an ENTP would get, kid who gets labeled quiet but isn't actually shy and can be very talkative if you ever actually spend any time around em


after high school I think popularity isn't any longer a relevant term/thing that still exists, at least not in my existence, as far as social life, I could make friends w/ the wall ....if you cut a hole in it ;p
 

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I wouldn't say I was "popular", but I was never bullied or anything. I had a ton of good friends, all kinds (girly girls, "nerds", athletes, cheerleaders, etc), and ended up with a reliable circle with whom I caused havoc with. :crazy:
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Very similar to me. I would not call myself popular by far but I seemed to be friendly or friends with all the cliques yet did not really hang with just one. I never really was bullied and generally people were friendly to me. It's funny as I am now Facebook friends with people from high school and my closest friend from high school pointed out that the different groups still are friendly to me. Her experience was that she was in the geek girl group and the other groups did not interact with her or were mean if they did.
 

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Hmmm. I dont consider myself popular but then again I have not heard anything bad from anyone in years. Perhaps I just don't give them enough material or they consider me too intimidating ? People do like to talk to me and often give me leader-like roles @ Uni. As dracula said above, I was too the second type of popular in high school.
 

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we are the ones next to the popular kid. people describe us as "infamous" :)

I got these alot: "I don't know what your role is in this, but trust me, I will find out and there will be hell to pay" (which they never did) (of course) ('cause it wasn't me y'know) (srly) (cross my heart)
 

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I'm not popular, as in friends with many/most people, but I'm very well-liked by certain people. I can't fake interest, in either people or the subject matter, to save my life. This limits my socializing severely. I think this has more to do with my temporary social background, though.
 

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I've never been popular. As a kid I was very unpopular, mostly because I grew up in a very conservative area. But as an adult, I'm kind of a wild card. People find me a bit over the top and weird, but since I try to socialise a lot I end up making a lot of friends by default. And being nice to people helps. I'm the weird friend who pushes everyone's buttons.
 

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It seems like the consensus is that ENTPs (that grew up in semi-healthy atmospheres) were not exactly popular in high school but everyone was friendly with us and we don't seem to be often bullied. My guess is that is because we are chameleons and can easily bend our conversations to the crowd we are around, we just kind of fit enough with each group to not be threatening. Also, we don't really like to put ourselves in a box (category) so we did not have a tendency to hang in one clique. Also, I tend to be able to see something interesting and positive in everyone, when I know some of my friends who hung in specific groups, disliked the other groups as a whole so they never saw the possibilities of individuals within the groups being someone they could be friendly.

I find personally, at least in my life, popular doesn't mean crap once you get out of high school. It is really up to the individual making things happen or not. Casting a wide net though is still a useful thing (the more diverse people you know the more chances of getting good jobs and opportunities).
 
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