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I'm an ENTP, as you can see. (Just took the test for first time and got 8w7) My father is undoubtedly an ENTJ, and I am pretty confident my mother is ESFJ. I'm just interested in how personality's are created, and if there are any patterns. Based on philosophy, we are of the following: born with clean state and everything is learned, born with an operating system that guides are learning, or everything is predestined with small manipulative variables. I'm guessing most ENTP's are going to go with the operating system.

Anyway, I was just wondering if guys could post your parent's types so I can try and pick up on patterns. I'm going to continue to talk about some somewhat irrelevant things so if you don't care just go ahead and reply.

My father is a GM of about 18 car dealerships. (ENTJ). He has an incredibly infectious personality, even though he can be too directly harsh and insensitive to other's feelings. He has a very direct way of parenting that can come off as dictator-like, but there are clear signs that he cares about his children more than anything, he just assumes independence and think's he's showing it best. I am very business oriented and great at talking to anyone and everyone because of him.

My mother is ESFJ. She isn't intellectually sound or super well educated. She's very easy going and carefree except when she gets stressed, then all hell breaks lose. She was a resource room teacher (part time) until I was bout 13. Since then she has been stay-at-home, and just loves cooking, cleaning, working out, and going to the beach. She always goes out of her way for her kids and always knows where to find things with her motherly intuition (but she isn't intuitive otherwise). Overall, great parents but their personalities are starting to clash now that the kids are out of the house. Very minimal fighting before.

SIDE NOTE: 25 year old brother (ISFP) and 23 year old sister (ESFJ, ISFJ). I'm 20, and again (ENTP).
 

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Interesting!

My dad is an ENTP 8 and my mom is an ESFJ 9. I am not entirely sure about mom, because she's in such a deep denial over herself that she scores all over when taking tests. She scored ENTJ once but no fucking way is she that. ESTJ, maaaaybe.

Anyway, they run a very successful business together and my dads parenting style sounds a lot like yours, except i suspect that i had much freer reins as a youth. Basically i got no boundaries at all, but he still dictated everything by just his sheer power of presence and wrongheadedness.

Two sisters, ESFJ for sure, enneagram 2w3 or 3w2. Probably 3w2. They're twins and 13 years older than me.

I dont know what part is nurture and what is nature, but i think like my dad and we share a lot of motivations and our emotional core, i think. With my mother i share my easy going outward demeanour. I think probably my dad shaped me into an 8, but my moms influence gave me a very strong 9 wing.
 

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l pretty much chose who l was going to be influenced by in my family. l don't really subscribe to tabula rasa, l've even seen some oddly specific quirks my dad and l share and we didn't have much contact until l was a teenager.

l cherry picked some traits from my ISTJ grandma and my INTP stepdad, because l found him interesting and ''worthy'' lol.

Also look up to my ENFJ uncle who l thought was ENFP or ENTP.

All that together could result in something ENTPish, though l don't clearly remember being critical of who l looked up to until l was around 9 or 10, right around that age my mom started calling me arrogant.l think l went through a brief INTJ phase :kitteh:
 
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Interesting!

"my dads parenting style sounds a lot like yours, except i suspect that i had much freer reins as a youth. Basically i got no boundaries at all, but he still dictated everything by just his sheer power of presence and wrongheadedness."


No, no, no. I had all the free reign in the world but just like yours, they have that way about them to keep you controlled. I was allowed to drink at 16, and allowed to say whatever the hell I want in most informal places. He took me to see Wedding Crashers when I was 12. I had more free reign then any of my close friends. (not compared to other people who let their kids smoke weed in the house and shit, but with respect to good parenting, I had minimal boundaries)

But that is fucking weird. See, you have an ESFP sister, an ESFJ mother and ENTP dad. One letter difference (my dads a j and less creative). Thanks for your input man!
 

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Pretty sure my dad is an ISTJ and my mom, she's all over it seems but a pretty good guess would be INFJ or ISFJ.

Here's how the kiddies stack up
Sister INFP
Me ENTP
Sister ESFP but she likes to claim a T vibe but I ain't buying it....but she is the life of da partay
Brother INFJ maybe
Sister INFP maybe ISFP...she is so quiet but she has the same vibe as my older sister

I know right...surrounded by Feelers and the one Thinker is a workaholic who doesn't speak a lot :)
 

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ESTP, 7w8 sx/sp father, and an ISFJ, 9w8 sp/so mom. Didn't have much of a relationship with either, and people have always run to that as a reason behind my inferior Si and sociopathic nature. When really, I just held deep resentment for both of them for always making me eat my stroganoff Tuesday nights.

Those two other traits are simply anomalous.

Older bro's a 4w5 INTJ, sister's a 9w1 ISFJ.
 

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ESFJ father and INTJ mother. ESFJ and ISTJ sisters. ESFJ and INTJ grandmother and grandfather, respectively. You can see how this might have been a problematic household.
 

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I'm not really sure about my father as he has been dead for many years, but (who would have thought) my husband is very like him, and he is definitely ENFJ. My mother tested INTJ, I think that's right.
My four siblings and both my children are N types: more than would be expected by chance, i think? Although apart form that we're pretty much all over the place

INFP-INTP-ENFJ-ENTP(me)-INFP and kids ENFJ-ENFP.
 

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Dad is either an INTJ or ENTJ (Te and Ni is incredibly notable now. Unsure if Extroverted or introverted)

I have given up on figuring out my mom's type. You'd think ESFJ because she's does the whole "traditional" thing and is very work oriented, but then I remember how little amount of fucks she gives about established rules and is eccentric as all hell. Then I think "Idk, what about some type of ESxP? I mean, she notices a lot of details and is very into decorating?" then I remember how many ideas she's capable of coming up with and is incredibly creative (not that Se can't be). I consider possibly an Ne user, since she's extremely possibility oriented, that whole eccentric thing might add up with the ENFP description, but her ability to remember and notice external details also seems pretty Si . She's probably the least sensitive person on the planet, would that eliminate Fi or am I stereotyping too much? Probably not a Ne+Ti user, her brain shuts off when anything theoretical or scientific comes up. Maybe just a ESFJ with a very well developed Ne? Possibly ENFJ and I've just been overlooking the fact that Ni was present in her all along? Or maybe an ESTP with well developed Fe. ESFP with that whole J-vibe thing they sometimes have going on? So it's an ongoing dilemma.
Yup. So loud Exxx for her.
 

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there are only 15 choices.

you missed ISFJ, my mom's type.
 
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o_O I wouldn't stake your mother's judgement on whether she is into how things work and science. Many women are socialised t a kind of "learned helplessness" in which they shut off when asked to consider sciencey things as it is something they have been conditioned that they are not supposed to do. This is why my INTJ mother panics and phones my INTP brother if asked to work something out on the computer. Mind you, my Mum is 83 and generations differ.

(Before any of the women in here come and stamp on me, I am a female summa cum laude science graduate....)
 

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My dad's an ESTJ. My mom is an INFP.

This makes for an interesting contrast between practicality, and imagination. You can guess who I'd go to for certain advice. It sucked when they split. It sucked even more when they got back together. :tongue:
 

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INTP mom, ESTJ dad.
And just a bonus ESTP brother.
We aren't a super lovey dovey family (Much to my ENFP friend's confusion, since apparently it's weird to not end phone conversations with I love you), but we have a good relationship.
 

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me-ENTP
mom-ISFJ
brother-ISTP
stepdad-ESFJ

i kinda feel like we live on different planets sometimes haha. but i have a pretty good relationship with my family.
 

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Yeah, ISFJ should be added considering how many people are ISFJ in the general population.

Mom ISFJ
Dad ENFP

Oh my god how these two CLASH!!!! A very turbulent marriage, with intense fighting, coming from the ISFJ who was
always irritated by the classic ways of the super people person ENFP. My mom (parent personality) is the hermit version of ISFJ, and really doesn't like being around people much, EVEN FAMILY. My dad (child personality) has been super lonesome for over 50 years and if it weren't for the fact he had us kids living with him while we were young, he would have died of lonlieness. She moved him up into the mountains a few years ago, with almost no neighbours nearby or family within thousands of kilometres. The poor guy tries to skype with me and my brother (we have our own families now) whenever he can. So sad.
 
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