ESFJs, what is your Enneagram?

The ESFJs are few and far between on this site.

You will most likely get two maybe 3 ESFJ on here.
Even then they only come on sporadically.

Go to this link.

https://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2016/01/mbti-and-the-enneagram-2/12/

Very easy to read and your research is done.

If you need other data on ESFJ, my father is a 7w8 (728) so/sx.

My mother is ESFJ 1w2 sp/so

3w2. Haven't met many 3's in my life but it seems to fit me.

Firemoon said:

My mother is ESFJ 1w2 sp/so

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I'm wondering if I'm an ESFJ 1w2 sp/so
Could you please tell me about your mother?


You don't have to tell me anything you don't want to tell me.
You can be as detailed or as vague as you would like.

The Penguin said:

I'm wondering if I'm an ESFJ 1w2 sp/so
Could you please tell me about your mother?


You don't have to tell me anything you don't want to tell me.
You can be as detailed or as vague as you would like.

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Yeah of course. My mother is....constantly moving around doing stuff. She's rarely relaxed and tends to micromanage everything. When I asked her why, she believes she's the only one who could do things "right". At first glance, you might think she's TJ because she's kinda controlling and critical, but deep down, if you look at her motivations, my mother is insecure at the idea to be socially inadequate. She'd often correct or criticize my behaviors if she thinks I'm doing something rude or unnapropriate.

I believe she's very self-conscious about her image because she makes efforts to appear "proper". She'd go like "Stop making noise, you will disturb the neighbors", "This is a lack of respect if you do this", "Don't forget to say thanks!"

My mother is a hard worker. Like....really, I think she's sacrifing too much of her free time for that. I'd often tell her to slow down and enjoy her personal time but her excuses are "I must do this first.....I can't let this job undone......" etc. She'd be the one who finishes last because she wants to make sure everything is okay. In my opinion, she needs to chill lol.

@The Penguin

Also, while I don't really share an emotional bond with my mother, I do admire her ability to be self-disciplined. This is both her strength and weakness....her pitfall is that she could blow up at any time and complaints on how tired she feels. Especially when under stress. I'm not sure what she's so attached to her duties and responsibilities to the point of neglecting her own needs.

Sister is a 3w2 like my ex isfj who typed 2w3.

Firemoon said:

@The Penguin

Also, while I don't really share an emotional bond with my mother, I do admire her ability to be self-disciplined. This is both her strength and weakness....her pitfall is that she could blow up at any time and complaints on how tired she feels. Especially when under stress. I'm not sure what she's so attached to her duties and responsibilities to the point of neglecting her own needs.

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Wow, that doesn't really describe me.
I do speak up if I think something is inappropriate, but I'm hardly a workaholic kind of guy.

Thanks for giving me those facts.

2w3 if I'm not too late.