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I'm a little bit fascinated with ESFPs, mostly because they're so different from ISTJs but somewhat similar at the same time (from what I understand, we take information in the same way, but we process it differently). Based on what I've read, a good friend of mine from high school sounds like she might be an ESFP; we were nothing alike but seem to understand each other really well. We still communicate, 10 years later. She really knows when I need my space, and I appreciate that she gets me out of my comfort zone every now and then.

What do you guys think of ISTJs? As friends? In relationships? As family? Etc...
 

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Awesome people. My best friend is ISTJ and I have dated ISTJ before.

I enjoy the sense of humor and ISTJs can help me slow down a bit. We communicate really well - I get them revved up and they get me revved down. My auxiliary function is Fi and tertiary function is Te. So when my ISTJ friends want to debate we can debate and it's cool. (Not all ESFP would be cool with debating I don't think. But I like it.)

One of my parents was SJ and I had lots of trouble with the criticism even when it was well-meaning. Also there is a difference between subjective and objective. My parent would get stressed and start ordering me on THE right way to do something - when my view is more like there are many many "right ways" to do things. So we would clash over that. I had trouble with not feeling emotionally supported also. But now that I understand MBTI better I can rewrite the history and see how I was very cared for.

I think there can be points of tension when ESFP and ISTJ live together. SJ is about order, structure, planning and SP is about spontaneity, randomness. SP can also be much more social and get on the ISTJ's nerves. ESFP is conflict-avoidant and many ISTJ are not.

Overall I love how the personalities mesh, and the fun of these relationships outweighs the stuff I don't like so much.
 

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I adore ISTJ's. My very best childhood friend is istj. She's great!!! We have had sooo much fun during the 23 years(!!!) that we been best friends. At times we've been apart, living in different places and so on, but we have always gotten back to each other.

She's so cool and I admire her. She seems quiet and like a "safety kinda girl" but she's WILD! LOL
She has a piercing in her tounge and she sky dives and drives a bike. And I know that she is at least as crazy about sex as I am :p She's actually the only person in the world with whom I can speak completely free about ANYTHING. She never judge (despite the J) she always give real good and sensible advices.
yeah we always have a good time, and many times she just laugh at me, because I say some crazy shit to someone, or doing something clumsy :) I was allways jealous at her when we were kids, coz all the boys were in loev with her, she was the good, pretty girl and I was class clown :p Eventually I grew into a woman who has no reason to be jealous of someone else getting all the boys.

And ISTJ men.... I love them too. I love the way they are centered within themselves, and the analytic style... me looove it.
Pretty sure I was working with one istj anastethic nurse yesterday. He is great (married though), focused, controlled. We made a superb team!
 

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Your ISTJ is most definitely filled with win. =D

Edit: Oooo I hadn't realized that he was actually an ESFP O_O @Stephen, you closet feeler you!

Now what is this???? Yardiff....!!!!!! You too!!!?!?!!? ESfp?????????
what will happen next??? I will "turn out" to be an istj???? I'd love too coz that's smoking hot!! But seriously guys, this makes me doubt mbti, even more...
 

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My Dad is an ISTJ and his sister is an ESFP. They bicker constantly, but it's actually kind of hilarious. He gets peeved when she shows up late for a visit, goes on and on about the crisis that happened on the way, and accuses him of being "lame."

The best is when we "switch" for a day just to cause trouble. One day he called her "ditsy," so I taught her how to act like an INTJ just to throw him off for the day :p
 

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Thank you, @Stephen, for spreading some love to counter the ESFP hate!

We aren't all selfish alcoholics! We aren't all incapable of deep conversations! Some of us are selfish deep conversational alcoholics....
Now what is this???? Yardiff....!!!!!! You too!!!?!?!!? ESfp?????????
what will happen next??? I will "turn out" to be an istj???? I'd love too coz that's smoking hot!! But seriously guys, this makes me doubt mbti, even more...
We are spreading the love for our friendly and loveable and wonderful ESFP friends. :)
 

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