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Whack.

I've just started living with three of them. (Either that or ESTP, I don't know. I can't really tell the difference between all the ESxx types. They all seem pretty similar when they're drunk...) And I dislike them.

I don't think it's necessary to shout 24/7. What you have to say isn't that important, so just shut up every once in a while...and your jokes aren't that funny that everybody within a 50-yard radius needs to hear you laughing. And I also don't care about your draft picks in fantasy baseball, or how "fucked up as shit" you were last night, how bad Robbie is at beer pong, or about how your friend's a "faggot" for liking the 49ers. I feel like I'm becoming dumber by being around you guys. Just shut the f*** up.

...that felt really good. :tongue:

Edit: Sorry. Slandering 1/4 of the MBTI spectrum is not such a good thing to be doing. Bad state of mind... x_x
 

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My mom is a very unhealthy esfp, she indulges herself constantly...whether on food/food tv/gossiping on the ph/drugs/alcohol......and she is a horrible back-stabber.

I know another that I simply adore....she is one of my best friends and far healthier. She is also an amazing cook, she can tweek recipies and is just amazing...way more creative than I could EVER be.

My ex-husband......well, he is my ex for a reason. :wink:
 

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I have a close friend who is a ESFP.

She loves all things shiny and demands everyones full attention and will do irrational things to get it.

Like take off all her clothes because shes no longer the center of attention, demand a bubble bath, and then pose for nude pictures.

I shall never understand.
 

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I've just started living with three of them. (Either that or ESTP, I don't know. I can't really tell the difference between all the ESxx types. They all seem pretty similar when they're drunk...) And I dislike them.
Why did you move in with them then?

I have a close friend who is a ESFP.

She loves all things shiny and demands everyones full attention and will do irrational things to get it.

Like take off all her clothes because shes no longer the center of attention, demand a bubble bath, and then pose for nude pictures.

I shall never understand.
Link to pics? :laughing:
 

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Actually, I love my roommates.

Neh, well, maybe my feelings towards them are ambiguous and insubstantial.
 

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I heart my mom A LOT. Perfect mom. She is sooo caring and attentive in a selfless way. Very simple too. Great enthusiasm. But thats just my mom. I hear esfps are promiscuous and flirty.....this does NOT describe my mom ...but thats because she did not grow up here. I think if they are raised with sound values then they have the potential to be amazing human beings. But as for our culture....I'm sure they produce less than ideal esfps for the world to see. Too bad.....they are such an angelic bunch if you give them strong values.
 

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Psichlohomeo - ESFP women need to feel Irresistible. If she said you were too stand off-ish then you were not meeting one of her primary needs. I have a friend who is ISTJ. He loves me in small doses. ; )

We tend to feel the same way about our EN friends. They can talk for HOURS (one stayed at my house talking for almost 9 hours - I thought I would die). I've learned not to invite them to my place - where I'm trapped. I meet them at their place or some public place - then I can escape when I am totally drained from all the talking.

We love you EN's - but there is a limit to how much listening we can do in one day.

My INFP friends on the other hand - we tend to meet at times that are limited - my lunch hour. That way we spend quality time together - but they know it will end at a certain time - so they aren't overwhelmed by me. ; I adore them - they like having fun with me.
 

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I had an ESFP online boyfriend....and he was fun, but he stopped talking to me whenever he had a problem. >< They don't like to talk about serious stuff much - and they'd ditch you if you don't show amusement at their antics. I like ESFPs, but I have to be able to talk to someone to feel close to them, so I don't think I could have one as a *best* friend.
 

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I am a ESFP and I like to know how people see me :) Eventhough yeah it hurts to hear negative things about myself
:( They do think I am fun to be with but too indecisive sometimes. I am very tempted to go with whoever is more fun. But I do know who my real friends are and I try my best to nurture my friendship :D

Alot of growing up to do :(
 

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Whack.

I've just started living with three of them. (Either that or ESTP, I don't know. I can't really tell the difference between all the ESxx types. They all seem pretty similar when they're drunk...) And I dislike them.

I don't think it's necessary to shout 24/7. What you have to say isn't that important, so just shut up every once in a while...and your jokes aren't that funny that everybody within a 50-yard radius needs to hear you laughing. And I also don't care about your draft picks in fantasy baseball, or how "fucked up as shit" you were last night, how bad Robbie is at beer pong, or about how your friend's a "faggot" for liking the 49ers. I feel like I'm becoming dumber by being around you guys. Just shut the f*** up.

...that felt really good. :tongue:

Edit: Sorry. Slandering 1/4 of the MBTI spectrum is not such a good thing to be doing. Bad state of mind... x_x
Thank-you. Although they have their pros to them too, and they're certainly very valuable in society... man, it is hard for me to get along with them. They're just so diametically opposed to me. I honestly have no idea what to talk about with them. Same goes with most Artisans. Perhaps I'm just too stuck in my own head, but often, things in physical reality (ie: literal things, which they talk about because their communication is concrete instead of abstract) just isn't all that exciting to me... Not always true, but definitely true way too often. Plus I talk about my feelings and things like psychology and theories about the world too much to keep them interested. Apparently that kind of conversation drains them. Generally Idealists and Artisans aren't the best together anyways. So, anyway, I know what you're saying. Thank-you for saying it. :laughing:
 

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They are my social shields.

They chase the shiny, demand all the attention, and always know the best clubs.

On the flip side the drain is only bearable for a short before i have to climb into my bed and hide under the covers for a good 24 hours.
 

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Plus I talk about my feelings and things like psychology and theories about the world too much to keep them interested. Apparently that kind of conversation drains them.
What? I'm an Artisan and I LOVE Psychology. I may even major in it. (Maybe my "N" is stronger than it appears...)
 
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They annoy me. [observe personality type at left] Surprised? My polar opposite.
My older brother is one.
My grandmother is married to one.
My mother is divorced from one.
I hate all three. All of them have/ have had drug problems, are overly indulgent and lazy. Also, they are manipulative and use other people so that they don't have to pay for anything. None of them work.
I've had the urge to injure all of them more than once. It's just my older brother that I really see now. Thank god for small favors.
 
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My best friend is an ESFP. So is an ex who is also one of my closest friends now.

They are both pretty damn awesome. Tho they can tend to really drain me, when I am around them they really know how to have fun. They wear their emotions on their sleeves, and they are a lot smarter then they are given credit for.

But they do have a tendecy to get bored with me, due to my introverted nature. But whatever, we have learned to deal with that stuff.
 

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The only ESFP I know of is my little brother, and as we say in Cork, I absolutely love the bones of him :proud: he is funny, outspoken, honest, generous and caring, and I absolutely adore him. As such, my opinion of ESFPs in general may be very biased, but what the heck :tongue:

He is very witty, and he says the things I often wish I had the brass balls to say. He brings me out of my shell when I need it and encourages me and gives me the confidence to not keep everything to myself, even though I still keep most things to myself...

You always know what he thinks of something. You can rely on him to tell you if you're doing something wrong or if you're bothering him. That said, he can be incredibly stubborn, and I find it hard to understand his confrontational streak sometimes. He meets an argument head-on whereas I tend to find anyway I can of diffusing or avoiding it.
 

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I was in team with one this semester... most painful experience ever.

Man she would never shut up :frustrating:

I think it really doesn't help that they have the exact opposite personality of INTJ.
 

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INTJs are so cute. ^_^

I will let you know why you cannot stand ESFPs. You live in your mind, plotting out possibilities and planning masterful strategies. You accept real life because it's unavoidable, but you'd just as soon not deal with people who you haven't accepted into your very limited inner circle. You are subtle and keep your keen observations to yourself unless it suits you to reveal them.

ESFPs, on the other hand, live out loud and in the moment. Life is an adventure meant to be lived, and the precious downtime of an INTJ is time wasted to an ESFP. Everything that crosses the ESFP mind is usually shared right away, not because they lack tact, but because they see no reason to keep it to themselves.

It bothers you that you're quiet loyalty isn't appreciated as much as the gregarious enthusiasm of the ESFP, even though ESFPs can have a fickle nature. They just live so much in the moment that their love, while true and pure and passionate one minute....is gone the next. You're more stable, but it's harder to see your feelings. Small expressions and statements to other types are HUGE proclamations to the INTJ. It bothers you that people expect you to smile and be as open and approachable as an ESFP.

Don't lose faith that you'll never meet an ESFP you could actually like. Maturity is a constricting garment that they have to wriggle into over a good long time. It's for the best if an ESFP holds off on a serious relationship and gets all the craziness out of their system....but still gets a mate who appreciates a little spontaneity
 

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I just met what I think is an ESFP, and I really enjoyed him! He is one of the funniest people I've ever met. It was just kind of hard to tell when he was telling the truth or not, since he constantly joked.

A weird thing that happened... things kind of got hot and heavy between us, and afterward he said he loved me (this was only our second meeting..). I realized it was in a platonic sense, and I didn't get creeped out because I often wish I could tell people I loved them without them taking it the wrong way. I love most people in a platonic sense, or in one way or another. But it makes me think that maybe he's an NF? Or am I right with SF? It was actually quite nice to hear since I usually feel like telling everyone I love them, but it was also very odd because that never happens!!
 
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