Well, I don't know specifically what you want to know, but I can give you a few examples of what I do (something I think ISFP's do regardless of gender):
1. You could have the ESTJ try to rush in to conflict, but have the ISFP hold him back. Irl I tend to hold way back and see if things will sort themselves out. Te (actually doing something) only comes out when a) no one is doing anything, and things need to get moving, b) a group is moving a project we're working on in a different way than I feel is right, so I get demanding, or c) when something/someone I reeeeaally care about is threatened. I feel very passionately about one of the sides on the abortion debate, so when that topic comes up a loud, demanding side of me comes out.
Most of the time I'm very cool-headed (at least outwardly) while everyone else is freaking out. But when I have a sudden, strongly negative conviction about the way someone is behaving towards me or other people, my temper can explode all of the sudden.
2. I don't dwell on the past other than what it means to me. When people say, "if we did it x way it would have turned out better," I don't care because I would have figured it out already, and there's no point on dwelling on possibilities (especially those of the past).
3. I'm awful at planning. This has caused some problems in my relationships, so I tend to leave planning to the people who like it and are good at it (basically, J types).
4. I love when things are beautiful - I love looking outside and seeing the way the shadows are shaped, how the sun gleams across the window, how snow falls so perfectly and silently and the way it's so quite when I'm outside alone....stuff like that.
Is there anything else you want to know?