I think the big distinction in me and the others I know, for example in my music I can go on a stage be in the limelight and appreciate when people love my music. Or if I lead a project and in the end I present it and people give me credit for my work etc, I like it of course, it's testament to my work, but I never do this for my Ego and that's the thing many people can't realize, it's about what I do, not who I am basically.It's yet the true about me. But only in an elitist universe.
Wouldn't that be your case as well !?
I can also see how logic would push you to do as others, in a very elitist universe, because you want to succeed, so it makes sense to compete in this fashion, but I don't think it's Ego related still !