On one hand I have an ESTP friend that has no idea at all when someone fancies her but on the otherhand I would imagine extraverted sensing would give it away? Can you tell?
This is exactly like my friend I am amazed she can't see it. To me some guys are practically wearing "I LOVE YOU" t-shirts, there was this one guy that laughed at all her jokes all night, followed her about the bar, smiled at her constantly and when she left shouted "no please don't go" and she STILL couldn't tell!I'm totally clueless when someone is into me. Unless they are just overly obvious I miss it. I've missed it my entire life. I've had people blatantly tell me they liked me for so many months, and I respond with "Seriously?" every single time.
Now, that being said, it seems to deal with me. I'm oblivious about when someone likes me.... However, I can tell when someone likes my friend or my friend likes someone... I'm just clueless about myself. *cough* low self esteem *cough*
I was wondering this too...Is this true for the guy ESTPs too? They always seem so confident and have high self-esteem!
I think I do know if a girl likes me although sometimes I guess I don't admit it. I prefer that I get proof if I can. Such as the person admitting it. I some times manipulate situations to get it in the open. I might not make the first move but I will set it up so that the girl will usually either make the move or it will be quite obvious. It's fun and it works well for me. ESTP's come off as if they have self esteem but I think maybe it is really a front.
I can agree with this... I too manipulate situations to see if someone likes me. I hate to manipulate, but I'd rather not be blunt about being interested in someone, unless I'm almost positive the feelings are mutual.
I'm curious, is your friend a very modest person? Anytime I get a compliment about anything, my reply is almost always something to the effect of "Oh stop, I'm nothing special." I think internally (sometimes) I know when someone does like me, BUT I don't want to feel conceited by admitting it to my friend, so I play it off as nothing.This is exactly like my friend I am amazed she can't see it. To me some guys are practically wearing "I LOVE YOU" t-shirts, there was this one guy that laughed at all her jokes all night, followed her about the bar, smiled at her constantly and when she left shouted "no please don't go" and she STILL couldn't tell!
What if the person couldn't admit it, how would you find out? Try to make him/her jealous... see if she laughs at your witty repartee that kind of thing or something more obvious?
Not wanting you to devulge all your secrets.... just a couple of little hints :crazy:
Convenient memory indeed! I'm sure there will be no problem with my name next time the ESTP wants me to do something!!!! As an INFJ I live mostly in the land of future possibilities or in imaginary worlds I create to entertain myself, I like ESTPs as they are so present focused and ground me back in reality. They drag me out of the clouds and remind me that I actually need to do things. The downside of this can be a reality check as while i'm off imagining lots of scenarios involving people for me it's real so even though they are not there I could have been hanging about with them for ages in my head. Months could pass and they are still on my radar but possibly in the world of an ESTP they have moved on to other interesting opportunities in the present.Hm, some of this that they're saying may or may not be ESTP behavior in particular but personal traits. I don't know. In Keirsey Temperament Theory we're supposed to be good at remembering names, and I usually am, although I'll admit that sometimes I'm very embarrassingly bad at forgetting a few names. There's this dude that I went to a community group with for about a month but it's been about as long that I haven't been, and I work in the department next to his (now only on weekends though), and today I forgot his name, although I've said it every time I've seen him for the past couple of months... kinda weird, huh?
Artisans (SPs) can be very forgetful since we live in the moment, and obviously his name wasn't near as relevant to me anymore (I really only see him for a few seconds at work since I'm back in the bakery) but like Keirsey's son says, our type has a very convenient memory, hahaha. So that's probably the issue here.
I would quite like a guy leaping into action and finding a way to make me fall for him... it's soooo proactive/ romantic. However I would imagine I would find an ESTP hard to handle in a relationship. I'm very independant so would fit from that aspect however I get jealous easily and would probably end up a crazy woman due to the ESTPs flirtatious nature.I can't read anyone's minds like an NF evidently can. Alot of times I have a hint that someone likes me, but it's always never for sure. I have to keep reading clues and if the current clues don't match up it throws all past speculation into doubt. I'm not real good with it. What's weird is that's another thing that we're SUPPOSED to be good at, knowing just what other people are into at the moment (makes for a good salesman ) but of course that's a strength that has to be worked on from the reverse side (observation), not by being empathetic, and thus stronger yet more hidden feelings will be almost totally unobservable by us. I can't FEEL it, so I have to rely on observing and oftentimes that fails you.
Usually my gut instincts are right, though. Sometimes I think too much (go figure, right?) about it, and end up talking myself out of the idea that they like me. But I like leaping into action (some will call it taking risks) if I like her and finding some way to make her fall for me. If she likes me then that's a really good reason right there to go for her. I like pretty much all flavors and styles, so as long as you're relatively attractive you probly have a good chance. Personality is a big factor, too, though. I have to see that we'd have good chemistry.
You know, you say you like how ESTPs can keep you grounded and bring you back to reality... And I like my INTJ best friend because he keeps me grounded, reminds me that some actions have nasty consequences!
Flirtatious nature? What ever do you mean? :blushed:
I bet she has fancied you for ages!!!!hahahahahahhaha... as it turns out, an attraction has been growing between me and the girl I've been BFFs with for a really long time... not that I was clueless, at least not the past few weeks, but I guess she was more aware than I was? An ISFJ girl. I go to her house like every day pretty much, and we both miss each other alot when we don't hang out.
This is freakin CRAZY! Ok, Imma try this out and see how it works.
Years ago I met a guy for a date and he had brought his friend. We ended up kissing (for a long time) and his friend just sat there... I felt terrible.... lol well a bit bad at least.... in my defense I really fancied the guy so I didn't want to miss out on a kiss. :laughing: His friend didn't like me much after that and happily told me about all the other girls this guy was dating to wind me up.... guess I asked for it :crazy:i'm kind of on the border but i'l answer anyway. i usually can't tell if someone is interested in me unless they are really upfront about it. i'm pretty notorious for being invited out on what they think are dates but since I don't know I end up inviting other people along...oops...
also if i know the other person is into me (and i'm into them) then i kind of prefer it if they admit to me before i tell them. it's kind of a competition thing i guess, the first person to admit it is so gonna be the other person's bitch. :crazy:
I'm good at remembering names as long as I find the person interesting. if i don't then I'm not going to remember their name, face yes but name probably not.
Interesting... the male ESTPs seem better at identifying when someone fancies them (or maybe the girls are being modest).Yes, I think I can be fairly certain if someone fancies me.
If it's a stranger, I look for a collection of subtle non-verbal cues: a girl standing near me, a girl primping her hair or makeup while looking at me, a girl invading my personal space, an innocent touch during a conversation...laughing at almost anything I say, inviting me to be closer to her....
If it's not a stranger and someone I already know, I look for constant flirting from the other person. If I flirt and they flirt back and we are both single, well, you get the point.