In theory, the dynamic between us and our Te and Fe cousins should be stimulating. They can provide us structured opinions and interesting debate. However, they could also be as deadset about being right as we are.
For me, I have noticed that someone in the relationship has to submit to the other to a certain extent. With my ESTJ friend, he gave me more say about things, and valued my input highly. We could discuss things logically. He would help keep me grounded while I helped him read between the lines when it came to people and situations. As for my ESFJ friend, I gave her more say, because frankly, she cared more. Where to go, who was driving, etc. I knew she was in control but didn't mind because I enjoyed her company. However, there were times when I very consciously had to back down to avoid a fight over a petty issue. In the end, they are both my good friends, and we considered each other partners in crime. However, it was a proactive decision.
What have been your experiences with both ESTJs and ESFJs?
For me, I have noticed that someone in the relationship has to submit to the other to a certain extent. With my ESTJ friend, he gave me more say about things, and valued my input highly. We could discuss things logically. He would help keep me grounded while I helped him read between the lines when it came to people and situations. As for my ESFJ friend, I gave her more say, because frankly, she cared more. Where to go, who was driving, etc. I knew she was in control but didn't mind because I enjoyed her company. However, there were times when I very consciously had to back down to avoid a fight over a petty issue. In the end, they are both my good friends, and we considered each other partners in crime. However, it was a proactive decision.
What have been your experiences with both ESTJs and ESFJs?