I'm glad we're having this discussion

I managed to experience the full plathora of emotions I have in my arsenal in less than a few days today - and while continuing to focus on the tasks at hand, I kept my "record behaviour and inherent urge" sensors on active throughout the day.
My real rage started when we were in a group discussion project and a group of 7 kept deferring to me for things like speaking up in front of the class by calling me the "Team Leader" when no such role was assigned. Expecting me to take the notes, as well write the answers on the board - and then give the presentation as well. It was a complete repeat of my previous university and job projects. It's just always assumed that I'm the organizer, the leader of the group. Why? Just because I was the one establishing the controls and giving direction to the discussion itself?
And when I deferred to one of the members in my group to speak up in order to give everyone a fair chance to speak, he just turned around and said "you've get better language skills, you speak." There was almost a hint of contempt in his voice. My internal reaction was probably immature because I have been under a great deal of stress lately.
This filtered over to this helpless lady who's made it a habit to sit right next to me in the computer lab. I was tempted to just get up and find a different computer by the end today. I kept doing her work and that interfered with mine. I'm very altruistic, but when someone's work effects the quality of my work ---- I see red.
The way I help is realistic and based on long term assistance - not with petty things like formatting resumes o.0 That's something a person with supposedly 10 years of professional work experience should be able to do on her own.
The way I help is by suggesting that the 20 of us add each other on Facebook, create a group and post relevant job-related resources and postings for each other. I don't want to control anyone by forcing them to join ... but everyone noticed that doing our job search we were finding postings relevant to each other. So ... someone came up with the idea of taking everyone's emails .. and I made it easier by suggesting that we create a London Job Seekers club on Facebook. That way, I can get to help everyone in the background ---- at my own convenience <--- Which is sometimes important to me. And that need for space, I believe, is universal.
I can help people, and I like helping people --- but not when it's causing me to suffer in my own job o.0
That's where I stop relating to the 2. I think 2's like others to depend on them a lot more than I do. They're motivated by feeling needed. I relate to a certain degree, but not a whole lot. I'm really motivated by how I will be perceived in the end, while continuing to strive for what I feel would make me successful.
Helping people and being unconditional about it is a goal for me ... it's not a core need. That said, my goals, and ideals keep changing around. It's hard for me to remain true to a particular way of thinking but I have a very core inner compass that I keep focused on. But as you know ... I've had the problem of burying myself underneath too many different masks without every really being able to allow my true personality to manifest itself. I think others can probably see me as me, better than I can see myself.