Hmm, have you ever tried creating a mental algorithm of sorts to detect them prior to hindsight? I think it is more compatible with our typical way of thinking. Like, saying something indirect about a lunch or dinner, with no known elimination factors (e.g. boyfriend) could indicate a hint. Next step could be to account for facial expression and body language. I've noticed in my life, without using some kind of forward-moving logic, there is no rhyme or reason to social stuff in my mind.What is even more embarrassing is this isn't the first time this kind of thing has happened to me. Unless someone takes their clothes off in front of me I usually have no idea what is going on.
Even if I get another chance I'll probably ruin that one too. Only in hindsight do I realize that hints were given. I am so bad at picking up hints. Even if they are obvious.
you know what she wants/prefer/like, then you decide to be how you are and act how you want, she is important for you, you show zero effort to find a midlee point or even try her way a minimal.Oh dear. ESFJ is one of the most important people in my life and we are destined to be like water and oil. I will continue to feel smothered by her attempts to make me feel respected and liked. And she will feel continually neglected by my considerate (from my view) habit of living and let live and just discussing issues she brings up because I figure that is the point at which people want their stuff discussed. To treat each other as the other would like to be treated would leave me feeling worn out and somewhat fake and would leave her feeling insensitive and uncaring.
I really don't want advice...on this...right now. I mean thanks for the effort and all but I've been in and working on this relationship for 2-3 years along with various other problems that always seem to need attending all at once, so while I don't have a handle on everything right now, I'm sure no quick advice from a stranger will help more than what we have already learned about each other. Not that I've historically been good at taking advice (so, who knows, I may well be arrogantly passing by the advice that will fix it all for me) and to be honest I do have to fight the urge to dole out unsolicited advice myself. Many a post I have deleted before sending because upon a re-read it I realised there was no specific request for advice.you know what she wants/prefer/like, then you decide to be how you are and act how you want, she is important for you, you show zero effort to find a midlee point or even try her way a minimal.
Have you tried to still be yourself but just giving up a litle in the way you act(choosing diferent words, choosing different phrasing, a less neutral/different body languague(this one maybe need a litle less being you but could be an improve )?
From a non important,uninformed perspective your actions dont prove your words.
pd: im not an example of showing love and basically exprrees feelings and all that but i try.(and fail), also its just me " thinking loud"
Well...it doesn't take much forethought to come up with a few problems for a headboard with shelves on it! :shocked:ESFP coworker/soon-to-be roommate: I'm gonna get a headboard with shelves in it. I think that will be nice.
Me: unless there's an earthquake.
ESFP: oh my god, I am going to adjust your attitude!
No video required. you could just record it with this Vocaroo | Online voice recorder and post the link.Yep, I threatened him that I would if he snored like that again. But he said I mustn't put it on youtube. But if I film it with the light off, it would only be the sound, so nobody could identify him anyway.
you are evil people
Hahahaha XD this made me laugh. This is ridiculous. If it was me I would booby trap the crap out of my house.On an almost daily basis I am confused (and amused) by certain conversations I have with others. I suspect I'm not alone. Please post examples (and the other person's MBTI) if you have them - if not the exact words then the general gist.
Here is one from today:
ISFJ: X's house was broken into yesterday and they stole her TV. I'm sure she'll want to move now, which is such a pity cause her house is so perfect.
Me: Does she have an alarm?
ISFJ: I don't think so. Plenty of people over there don't have them. I'm sure she'll end up moving.
Me: Or she could just get an alarm...
ISFJ: But she won't want to live there now that someone's broken in. Especially because she's elderly and alone.
Me: But she is no more or less likely to get broken into when she moves than she is now.
ISFJ: It's awful and she's older and has to live by herself. I'm sure she'll move.
Me: She'll still be living by herself if she moves...
ISFJ: I can't talk to you. Why are you so difficult to talk to?
:dry: :laughing: :ninja:
I remember reading about a man whose house was broken into repeatedly. He had gotten sick of it so he set up a shotgun trap on his backdoor that would blast anyone who forcibly entered. The police saw it when they were questioning him and made him take it down as that is very illegal.Hahahaha XD this made me laugh. This is ridiculous. If it was me I would booby trap the crap out of my house.