This destroyed a "friendship" I had a few years ago with an ESFJ.>.> I get the impression that INTJs talking with ISFJs are having 2 different conversations that only seem to be about the same thing. But the context for each is completely different. You almost have to read between the lines to see the real meaning in the ISFJ side....and I think they in turn sometimes do read between the lines and find a alternate meaning in the INTJ side.
She would say things that would mean to be read into, whereas I took what she said for face value. And then she would get upset and not talk to me for weeks at a time while I had no idea what was going on. And vice versa, where I would say something that I meant for her to take for face value and she would then read into what I said and misinterpret it. :frustrating:
My one friend now is an INTP. We get along very well, even though I only get in touch with her about once a week. We don't get offended at eachother at all.