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What do you do when you have company and still want to have sex. This past weekend i had some family members for the holidays, sex remained as active as usual. Should you wait until family leaves, or should you go on as if they didn't exist ?

I have issues with people who come into my house and have expectations. There is no reason why i should have to change my sex life while they are under my roof. My sister in-law doesn't like the sound of women having a wild time in bed apparently, i say get over it, or fuck your husband. Apparently he enjoyed it which ticked her off even more :D

What about you, would you change your sex life to please guest in your home ?
 

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I'd be quieter out of respect or just wait until they're gone. It feels better after some time has passed anyway, right? ;) That's not something I would share. Every part of the act should be exclusive to me and my partner... noises included. On top of that, I don't want to hear my friends or family fucking, and I wouldn't want them to hear me fucking either *shrugs*
 

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I wouldn't pause my sex life for guests.

I think we'd probably be quieter. Fortunately, I don't have family visit pretty much....ever. And when we go visit family, we stay in a hotel. So we're safe!

I guess when my sister was living with me, we carried on as normal. But sound doesn't carry in my house too much. We have pretty good walls. Also my sister sleeps like a dead person.
 

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I'd be quieter out of respect or just wait until they're gone. It feels better after some time has passed anyway, right? ;) That's not something I would share. Every part of the act should be exclusive to me and my partner... noises included. On top of that, I don't want to hear my friends or family fucking, and I wouldn't want them to hear me fucking either *shrugs*
It always feels good, regardless if it has been only a few hours ;) My husband was out of town for a few days, i couldn't wait nor did i feel like i should. I doubt very much that it was too loud, i think sometimes people have their ears cocked in order to bitch and complain. And if they don't want to hear me fuck, then stay at a hotel, problem solved. So what your saying is when you have kids you'll automatically stop fucking ? Or maybe get a hotel in order to continue a healthy sex life? Sex can't be exclusive unless you plan on never having people in your home, including kids. Of course we don't want our family, friends or kids to hear us having sex, but .....sometimes it happens.
 
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I would be much too private to have sex while anyone else was within earshot. Also, I am naturally very quiet, so I doubt I would ever have to worry about this sort of situation. There seems to be some ambiguity about whether it is a good host's duty to accommodate the guest, or the polite guest's duty not to make demands that inconvenience the host. When in doubt, seeking compromise can be a good option. In this case, being quieter about sex, while still participating in it, would probably ease the tension a bit without requiring any unreasonable sacrifices.
 

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I would be much too private to have sex while anyone else was within earshot. Also, I am naturally very quiet, so I doubt I would ever have to worry about this sort of situation. There seems to be some ambiguity about whether it is a good host's duty to accommodate the guest, or the polite guest's duty not to make demands that inconvenience the host. When in doubt, seeking compromise can be a good option. In this case, being quieter about sex, while still participating in it, would probably ease the tension a bit without requiring any unreasonable sacrifices.
Agreed, but what if it happens in the heat of the moment ? We don't plan on how well the orgasm will be, or how intense we will feel at that very moment. Now don't get me wrong i would respect my parents, grandparents if this was the case, to the point of getting a hotel for a few hours, although this was a younger couple who are very sexual active themselves.
 
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Agreed, but what if it happens in the heat of the moment ? We don't plan on how well the orgasm will be, or how intense we will feel at that very moment. Now don't get me wrong i would respect my parents, grandparents if this was the case, to the point of getting a hotel for a few hours, although this was a younger couple who are very sexual active themselves.
Perhaps you could make a kinky game out of being quiet, or use gags to muffle yourselves. I'm not sure if sudden, intense sex could be made more exciting by restricting your sounds, but if there is a way, surely a creative person like you can come up with something.
 

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Perhaps you could make a kinky game out of being quiet, or use gags to muffle yourselves. I'm not sure if sudden, intense sex could be made more exciting by restricting your sounds, but if there is a way, surely a creative person like you can come up with something.
Well the issue isn't just with me, my husband can be quite verbal too ;) And to be honest i think it was him they heard..haha! He wouldn't stand for anyone telling him how he should behave during sex in our home. It doesn't happen often enough to be a real issue, this is probably the first time actually. We like to keep the silent sex for when we visit others, at home it just doesn't feel natural, especially if its been 4 or 5 days without any. I will keep the game thing in mind though, and yes, i'm sure i can come up with something creative if i ever have to deal with this again.
 

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What do you do when you have company and still want to have sex. This past weekend i had some family members for the holidays, sex remained as active as usual. Should you wait until family leaves, or should you go on as if they didn't exist ?

I have issues with people who come into my house and have expectations. There is no reason why i should have to change my sex life while they are under my roof. My sister in-law doesn't like the sound of women having a wild time in bed apparently, i say get over it, or fuck your husband. Apparently he enjoyed it which ticked her off even more :D

What about you, would you change your sex life to please guest in your home ?
I just don't give a shit. I've masturbated to porn in the guest room while we've had company over before. They were horrified, but I just didn't quite care.
 

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I just don't give a shit. I've masturbated to porn in the guest room while we've had company over before. They were horrified, but I just didn't quite care.
The only reason my sister in-law was pissy about it is because she wasn't having the awesome sex i was ;) It was never a concern, nor did i think it was an issue to have sex while they were in my home. It may have gotten over heated, but....too bad, next time get a room.
 

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The only reason my sister in-law was pissy about it is because she wasn't having the awesome sex i was ;) It was never a concern, nor did i think it was an issue to have sex while they were in my home. It may have gotten over heated, but....too bad, next time get a room.
Put earplugs on the guest bedroom pillows. :) For their convenience.
 

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The only reason my sister in-law was pissy about it is because she wasn't having the awesome sex i was ;) It was never a concern, nor did i think it was an issue to have sex while they were in my home. It may have gotten over heated, but....too bad, next time get a room.
If I was you, I would have really rocked my husband's world that night and been as loud as possible. I would do this in order to show her how much I was pleasing her brother, and how great the sex was between you too. But hey, maybe that's just me?
 

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If I was you, I would have really rocked my husband's world that night and been as loud as possible. I would do this in order to show her how much I was pleasing her brother, and how great the sex was between you too. But hey, maybe that's just me?

ha....of course if the S-I-L thought Mucha WASN"T giving sex, she'd be all pissed...lol


edit: i re-read that, and realized how that could sound.. @[email protected] Edited for clarity.
 
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ha....of course if the S-I-L thought Mucha WASN"T giving her brother sex, she'd be all pissed...lol
Well hey? I would want to know that my brother was getting sexed up right? Wouldn't you? But then again, if you knew MBTI you probably wouldn't worry about it to begin with because ENFP's tend to be some of the best lovers IMO.
 

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If I was you, I would have really rocked my husband's world that night and been as loud as possible. I would do this in order to show her how much I was pleasing her brother, and how great the sex was between you too. But hey, maybe that's just me?
LOL, well actually it was my brothers wife, not my husbands sister. And i'm pretty sure she got the idea about how amazing our sex life is, heck, she couldn't stop talking about it. LMAO, maybe she was secretly wishing it was her and i having sex , giggles*
 
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LOL, well actually it was my brothers wife, not my husbands sister. And i'm pretty sure she got the idea about how amazing our sex life is, heck, she couldn't stop talking about it. LMAO, maybe she was secretly wishing it was her and i having sex , giggles*
After given a proper Ti analysis, I would deem your hypothesis correct
 

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It always feels good, regardless if it has been only a few hours ;) My husband was out of town for a few days, i couldn't wait nor did i feel like i should. I doubt very much that it was too loud, i think sometimes people have their ears cocked in order to bitch and complain. And if they don't want to hear me fuck, then stay at a hotel, problem solved. So what your saying is when you have kids you'll automatically stop fucking ? Or maybe get a hotel in order to continue a healthy sex life? Sex can't be exclusive unless you plan on never having people in your home, including kids. Of course we don't want our family, friends or kids to hear us having sex, but .....sometimes it happens.
EXACTLY. They're getting a free room and very likely, food. They can shut the fuck up themselves.

 

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Sounds like something that's specific to each person...

Personally, I wouldn't want to hear my parents, that's for sure.
And I definitely don't want to hear my grandparents struggling.
Frankly, I think there's just some people I don't wanna see in a certain light. Or sound, whatever.

But if it's friends, then idgaf... they should know what to expect.
 

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Put earplugs on the guest bedroom pillows. :) For their convenience.
I'd even give them the complimentary mint on their pillows as well.
 
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