How on earth does a guy like Armando get banned? I thought he was cute as pie.
I think empathy is when you see someone suffering and their pain becomes your pain, such that you are moved to help them (yes, I am basing that on Star Trek). However, the extent to which people feel pain varies greatly. I can't empathize with a person if they're feeling pain over something which I consider trivial. It's not empathy unless you actually feel the pain as acutely as the other person. Personally I don't usually feel pain for anything other than a physical injury, torture of people or animals, or the untimely death of someone special. Stuff like that.I don't really seem to be able to pull off real empathy at all. The absolute best I can do is a general, very brief feeling of "Huh, that would suck".