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MOTM Feb 2012
ISTJ 9w1
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Hello, Personality Cafe! We're lucky enough to have a new Member Spotlight nomination this month, and it's a good one! This member has contributed thousands of posts in just a year and a half, and consistently brings interesting thoughts to the table. So without further ado, let's take a moment to get to know:

What's your real name?

Clyde (surprise).

How old are you?


What country are you situated in?

Canada. I'm in the middle of immigrating to the United States, however.

Are you single, dating, or married?

I'm married. I've been married since 2014 and I've been with my wife since 2011.

Do you have any kids?

Nope, and I don't plan on having any either. I really don't like them. I mean, to each their own of course, but it's not for me.

How would you describe yourself in one word?

Empathetic, perhaps.

What is your favorite place to travel to?

Wherever it is that my wife is. I mean, there are certainly some incredibly breathtaking places in the world (and I've been to scarcely any), but it's the people that make it magical. At least, it's that way for me.

What is your favorite color?


What is your favorite weather?

I generally enjoy rain. Thunderstorms are very lovely too. Humid rainfall or thunderstorms are perhaps the best experiences as far as weather is concerned.

What are your favorite books, movies, tv shows, and video games?

Books: "1984" by George Orwell, "The Metamorphosis" by Franz Kafka, "The Whisperer in Darkness" and "The Dunwich Horror" by H.P. Lovecraft, and "Chuang Tzu" as translated by Burton Watson.

Movies: I have an IMDB list here.

TV Shows: The Mentalist, House M.D., Fringe, Sherlock, Revolution, Lie to Me, Code Geass, Supernatural, The Walking Dead, Sons of Anarchy, Dexter, Breaking Bad, Monster, Luther, White Collar, Wilfred, Psych, Full Metal Alchemist: Brotherhood, Prison Break, Bates Motel, Real Humans.

Video Games: I don't have any particular favorites, but I've lately been playing Age of Empires II, Plague Inc: Evolved, XCOM: Enemy Within, Ori and the Blind Forest, and Fallout 4.

What are your favorite foods and beverages?

Hm, I'm not entirely sure what I enjoy for food, as absurd as the might sound. Well, I enjoy food, surely, but I can't think of any favorites. There are lots of tasty things available. For treats though, I enjoy oreos, snap-pea crisps, seaweed, and swedish fish. Outside of that, I enjoy various grain-products and fruit. As far as beverages go, I certainly consume an awful lot of flavored carbonated water, but I love my teas as well. I'm particularly fond of spiced teas.

What is your favorite animal?

I'm fond of lemurs. Traditionally, I've had a fondness for penguins. I do care for all animals though.

What kind of music do you enjoy?

Rap music is pretty much my staple. Beyond that, I enjoy an assortment of indie music, hard rock, metalcore, trip hop, and gypsy punk. Additionally, I don't listen to these genres of music exclusively in English either. I'm very fond of many of these genres in other languages - my favorite being Russian and Swedish.

Do you play or follow any sports?

Nope, not at all. Sports are unenjoyable for me to watch or play.

What are your favorite websites to visit?

Honestly, I don't spend time spread out over a variety of websites. The ones I frequent most are this forum and Youtube (I'm subscribed to +200 channels). Beyond that, there are sites that I enjoy, but I don't frequent them. I make use of IMDB,, duolingo, khanacademy, wikiversity, and other sorts of resources, but it's not something I consistently keep up with.

What is your greatest weakness?

I have the capacity to be idealistic. I'm generally guided by my ideals and able to translate them into my life quite pragmatically, but absent external information and people to speak with, I can lose sight of what's realistic. I've been better about this with regard to my career, education, and similar areas in the last few years. I still have the tendency to idealize relationships though and that can sometimes lead me to have unrealistic expectations, either in myself or in others. Most of my life is realistic, but I certainly live by the charm of fairy-tales when it comes to my relationships. That's probably pretty vague, but if anyone's interested in knowing more, they're free to ask me.

What is your greatest strength?

It's either the way that I treat others or my self-awareness. Generally, I'm very empathetic, understanding, and accepting of people. I think I'm typically pleasant and comforting to talk to, so I'd point to that as one of my better qualities. On the more individual level though, I have a pretty solid understanding of who I am as a person and I'm very comfortable in my own skin. I live my life relatively gracefully and peacefully even when things get tumultuous, so perhaps that is another strength of mine.

What motivates you?

My motivations are threefold. Paramountly, I am motivated by my wife. I care for her and love her phenomenally and my core motivation is to take care of her and support her. Beyond all else, I want to make sure she is the happiest person in the world that I can possibly make her. I want her to be able to be happy, to have fun, to grow, to explore, and to have a really wonderful life. I dedicate myself wholeheartedly to that objective. I am, secondarily, motivated by an immense passion for learning and an insatiable curiosity. I desperately wish to understand the world. This has led me to develop strong interests in areas of philosophy, psychology, sociology, history, literature, religious studies, political science, and so many other subjects. I mean, I can develop interests in a lot of other areas too (I'm usually able to find something interesting about every field), but those are some of the subjects dearest to me. It can be crippling at times, where I feel spread too thin between my interests, but that mainly comes down to a matter of prioritizing. Tertiary to this, but more realistically somewhere between my first and second motivator, I really care for people. Just generally, I want to see people happy and do well. I have immense compassion for people and so I do my best to bring happiness into the lives of those around me.

What is your philosophy?

That's not such an easy question, for there are many beliefs that I have about the world that cannot so easily be unified into one particular philosophy. With that said, a recurring theme throughout much of my beliefs is the respect and compassion for sentient beings. I accept, embrace, and have compassion for people from all walks of life. I do not support retributive justice or similar forms of punishment. No matter what a person has done, I believe they should receive the best life possible so long as it does not infringe upon the well-being of others. I'm a vegan too. I do not support the slaughter or use of animals because, as I do with people, I recognize their capacity to experience both pain and pleasure. That's largely what it comes down to for me throughout much of my beliefs. I seek to maximize the well-being of sentient beings and I adjust my beliefs to suit that orientation.

Another thing that is equally as important to me is truth. Particularly, I care greatly for aligning my beliefs to what is true based on the evidence that is presented. Many of my ideological positions are founded upon a respect for evidence. In regards to evidence, I generally admit empirical evidence and the rules of logic as far as arguments are concerned, but we could certainly get into a discussion that would last all day about what qualifies as truth, evidence, knowledge, and so forth, so I'd rather keep this brief. Very shortly, I have a great respect for evidence, logic, and truth, which found many of my ideological positions.

Briefly put, compassion for sentient beings and a respect for truth guide me to many of the positions that I hold.

What are you passionate about?

This really falls down to my three motivators. I am passionate about caring for my wife, about learning all I can about our world, and about making other people happy. That's pretty much what it comes down to.

(Phrased differently: I am passionate about my motivators and motivated by my passions.)

What kinds of jobs have you had?

I worked for about a year as a portrait photographer, and then I've most recently worked as a cashier in an arts and crafts store. At the moment though, I'm pursuing a Bachelor of Arts degree in Political Science.

What are your pet peeves?

Dishonesty and insincerity. Those are perhaps the things that bother me the most. If people are like that, it typically doesn't unseat me, but I'm not fond of those qualities. I also frown upon the act of going out of one's way to hurt others. That bothers me too.

What are your fears?

Losing my wife. That would absolutely devastate me. When people hurt/upset my wife though, or when she's having a hard time, that's also hard on me. I just want to see her happy, so anything that interferes with that is something that bothers me. Losing her though, by far, would crush me.

Who do you look up to?

My wife, really. I think she taught me how to be a good person. It's through her that I learned how to love, how to properly care for others, how to be healthy, and all of that. I mean, before her, I certainly always meant well, but I was awful at expressing it. Whatever good I have these days, I really owe it to her. Beyond that though, I don't really look up to anyone. I mean, there are totally some great people out there. There are some really, admirable people. There are many people that I respect. I don't have a particular role model though. I just try to be the best person that I can be and acknowledge the good in others.

Do you have any pets?

I do not, no. My wife's family has a cat that we adore and my grandmother has a precious old dog, but I don't have any pets that I care for currently. "Care for" as in take care of, not as in that I have compassion for (I have compassion for all creatures).

What do you do for fun and relaxation?

There are a handful of things, but I particularly enjoy going out with my wife and adventuring. She's a very fun and humorous person, and so it's really enjoyable just to be out in the world, walking around, and discovering whatever it is that we discover. We've had some really great adventures. Outside of that, it's always great having conversations with people here on PerC. There are so many wonderful people and I love hearing their life-stories, their thoughts, their feelings, and just what's going on with them. Connecting to people is great. When I'm on my own though or having some down-time, I enjoy debating on these forums, watching movies or TV shows, discovering music, playing games, or reading. Those are generally the staples of my relaxation time. Outside of being with my wife or having intimate conversations with others, I enjoy very quiet and solitary activities.

How did you get involved with personality typing?

I didn't, really, at all. I have relatively no interest in personality typing.

What is your Myers Briggs personality type?

I'm an INTJ.

What is your Enneagram type?

I'm a 4w5.

So what's it like being an INTJ and a Enneagram type 4w5?

I'm probably not the most qualified to speak on this matter, merely because my understanding of typology is not developed to the extent that I can adequately declare where the INTJ part of me ends and the 4w5 part of me begins, but I will attempt to relay my experiences to the best of my abilities. As far as the INTJ part of personality is concerned, I tend to be very logical (or I would like to think so) and I'm very open-minded and will certainly align myself with whatever the evidence supports. I value honesty and open-communication, even to the point of bluntness. I don't particularly attempt to create social harmony by abiding by social norms and I similarly tend to have a blatant disregard for authority figures. I'm very organized, abstracting, goal-oriented, and so on. This is generally how I am in every part of my life, from education, to work, to relationships, and whatever else might be left. Oh, and in addition to this, I have a wide range of intellectual interests of which I am very deeply passionate about.

On the Four side of things, that has caused me a lot of problems in the past. I used to really, really care about having a unique identity which separated me from everyone else. I kind of fell into the cliche pitfalls of unhealthy Fourness where I would attempt to cultivate a fantasy self in order to seem unique and appealing to others, and it definitely was to mask shame and self-loathing. I was also intensely plagued by the instability of my emotions and so I went through that process of discarding some emotions while determining that others emotions were "me." Identity crises have been a staple throughout much of my life, but I have found stability and health in the last number of years. I've come to accept myself as a person and love myself for both my good and bad qualities. It doesn't mean that I don't try to improve upon myself, but I embrace who I am, even the changes in my feelings. I now realize that I don't have to have to always feel the same way to be a person. I also don't pursue any such idealizations of myself anymore like I used to. One of the best ways I've found to deal with this is to simply accept who I am and turn my attention outward into the world. I mean, don't get me wrong, I certainly am very deeply involved with my own feelings and internal worlds, but I am much less preoccupied with creating an identity these days. I am who I am, whoever I am, however I am, and that's okay. Similarly, on this Four note, I am also incredibly creative and artistic. Writing is a staple of my life and, in one form or another, I am always looking to express myself. Whether it's through my writing or in my conversations with others, a key component to my existence as a person is translating my experiences and my emotions into some form of self-expression. This certainly doesn't cover everything off, but it's a bit of a look into the Four side of me.

The two converge in an interesting blend of logic and feeling as well as organization and meaning. Being a four has allowed me to really work on developing my connection with my feelings and it has become a very intimate part of who I am. I feel like the time that I have spent working on myself has allowed me to develop a phenomenal self-awareness that guides me in nearly everything I do. Furthermore, I often use my abilities in logic, decisiveness, and abstraction to develop personal philosophies and principles which have become very meaningful in my life. I also use my intellectual passions and my quest for knowledge as a way of connecting myself to the beauty in the universe, in this world, and in those around me. Learning is a way of creating meaning within my life. Every new thing I learn is a beacon which I can connect to all of the other wonderful things I've learned, thus ultimately adding to this grand, unified, and beautiful whole picture of the universe. I live very much within this mystical space between emotional spiritualism and intellectual passion, and I believe this is the true synthesis between the INTJ and the Four in me. I don't make the error of extrapolating my subjective experiences to the world external to me. I realize that, although I experience this immense beauty and depth in the world, it does not mean that others experience the world this way or that there is any objective, external sacred reality. It is merely a subjective experience that gives me profound meaning. I suppose I take an existentialist approach in this regard, insofar as we create our own meanings in this world. Existence is fundamentally absurd and so it is up to us to forge our own meaning. This is just what gives me meaning and beauty. Another synthesis between my INTJness and my Fourness is my ethical codes. With my developed feelings, I have developed ethical codes that are based chiefly upon a concern for the pleasure and suffering of sentient creatures. With my logic, I follow this ethical code to its logical conclusion, even if I don't initially like the conclusion that comes from it. For example, if I have compassion for others based on their capacity to experience pleasure and pain, then it does not make sense for me to draw the line based on what species you are. This is why I'm a vegan. Ethically, it was the logical conclusion of my compassion. I'm not here to preach, but this is just me. Anyway, I'm sure there are tons of other ways in which my INTJness and Fourness combine, but I've described a few of them at least.

In any case, there you have it. I'm not well-versed in typology and so I can't give you very specific details on what it means exactly to be an INTJ or a Four and how those exactly combine together, but I've at least relayed my experiences. Hopefully that provides you with some insight into that aspect of who I am.

Do you think the different personality theories give an accurate description of you?

From what I've read, they seem to. Furthermore, I connect and relate very well to the boards of my respective types, so it seems to indicate that.

Which personality theory do you prefer, and why?

I don't have a preference at all, really. I'm a little more familiar with MBTI typology over Enneagram, but I have little interest in typology to begin with. As such, I don't have a preference.

Do you use personality typing in the real world?

It's interesting to know what a person's type is, but no, I really don't use typology in my life.

Has personality typing helped you in any way?

It has allowed me to connect with like-minded individuals, and that has actually been pretty positive. Outside of that though, typology has not provided me with any other benefits.

Do you prefer to associate yourself with certain types, and why?

Nope. I'm happy talking with whomever.

How did you initially find your way to PersonalityCafe?

The Debate Forum. I hadn't debated with anyone or had intellectual conversations in a really, really long time, and it was giving me a mental itch that just needed to be scratched. So, I think I searched for an INTJ forum, or something to that effect, which I could connect to like-minded individuals and debate with. It was really just a way to start that process. My wife is an ISFP and doesn't have the same interest in abstract ideas, theories, philosophizing, and debating that I do, so I really needed that kind of intellectual stimulation elsewhere. I figured starting with my personality type would be a good way to connect with like-minded people who I could philosophize with or share intellectually-stimulating conversations with. I stumbled upon this forum and pretty much spent most of my time in the debate forum for the first handful of months that I was here. I've branched out a lot since then though.

What made you join us?

My previous response will also suffice for this question.

Why did you choose "Clyme" as your username?

It's a one-letter difference from my actual name. I just swapped a letter out and figured it'd suffice nicely.

What is the significance of your current avatar?

There's no particular significance. I just appreciate the aesthetics of it. I had this particular avatar awhile ago as well. During the time of my most recent avatar, I believe @Miles O mentioned that he really enjoyed the avatar (my current one) that I had before, and so it was under that pretext that I decided to change it. I, too, was fond of it. It was either that, or I had sought to change it anyway, changed it, and he remarked that he was really glad I changed it back, and so I kept it. I can't recall exactly, but that's essentially why I've brought it back and kept it.

How about your signature?

Well, as far as the actual image goes, Molang is absolutely adorable and I had to include them on that account alone. The aesthetics are wonderful. As far as the quote goes, it's from a Ukranian song that I've really been enjoying lately. The song is В Темноте by Женя Мильковский. The lyric, "Я могу терпеть эту сладкую боль" roughly translates to: I can tolerate this sweet pain. I was recently undergoing a lot of stress and so, for me, that lyric serves as a reminder to be positive and see beauty even in the hard times. The fact that pain is described as sweet really appeals to that mentality, because it's all about making the most of even the worst things. So, that was just highly applicable to what I was going through last week. I'm in a much better mood now, but I still think it's a lovely lyric and it applies to my approach to life.

As far as Amor Fati goes, that very much describes my approach to life. I suppose this would have sufficed for the question on what my philosophy is. Anyhow, it translates roughly to "love your fate." It represents a perspective on your life where you see beauty and good in the way your life has gone. It is to accept both the good and the bad in your life and to embrace them fully. For the sake of brevity, I'd merely refer people to the work of Friedrich Nietzsche if you wish to know more, or you could alternatively contact me and ask me to divulge my lengthy perspectives on the matter.

If you had to choose your favorite forum on PerC, which would it be?

I don't have one that I can narrow it down to, but I enjoy the INTJ board, General Psychology, Critical Thinking & Philosophy, The Debate Forum, General Chat, Entertainment Plaza, and Mafia. Those are the places I frequent most.

What do you like most about PersonalityCafe?

The people are pretty much what make PerC worthwhile.

What do you dislike most about PersonalityCafe?

I have no complaints.

What is the most important thing you've learned here?

I don't really know if I've learned anything incredibly important on the forum. I've learned a few things in my debates with others and I've modified my position to fit the evidence, but there hasn't been anything life-changing that I've learned. With that said, I've met some amazing people and had some amazing conversations with them. That's what it's all about for me.

Do you have any advice for the community of PersonalityCafe?

Just be good to one another. That's all, really. Accept one another, treat each other with sincerity, assume the best of people, and be kind and compassionate unconditionally. You clearly needn't take my advice, as you're your own person and have your own path to carve in this world, but we all come by our positions honestly and there is no need to inflict unnecessary suffering. The world is a better place when we afford this kind of respect to ourselves and to others. Live not with presumptions and bitterness but with love and compassion.

If you could have any super power, what would it be?

Hah. Realistically, I would wish to have the capacity to make someone happy without fail. If I could bring happiness to the world, that'd be pretty worthwhile to me. We only have a limited time on this Earth, so what's important is making the most of it. I recognize that there are other beings out there who have the capacity for pain and pleasure, and so I think one of the most worthwhile things for me to do is to attempt to bring some happiness into their lives. If I had a super-power to facilitate that, well, that'd be pretty lovely.

What do you know now that you wish you'd known five years ago?

Merely that everything would be okay. My life was a total mess years ago, but I met the most amazing person in the world and I've done a lot of work to become healthy and happy. Even the worst circumstances bear potential future fortunes. So, I suppose I'd wish for that knowledge, but even then, I don't even really wish that. See, I'm happy with the way my life has gone, good and bad. I wouldn't change anything about it.

What do you believe is your greatest accomplishment at this point?

Making my wife happy.

Tell us something about yourself that we don't already know.
I haven't a clue, really. If anyone needs a friend or wants someone to talk with, I'm always happy to be here. Just shoot me a private message and I'll get back to you as soon as possible. Beyond that, if you have any questions about me personally, feel free to ask. I'm very open about nearly everything, so yeah, just ask away. That's all, really. I don't think there's more I can really add.

What is next for you? What are your plans and goals for the future?

I'll immigrate to the United States and then just keep growing and learning as a person. Hopefully I'll be able to bring some positive vibes into the world and enjoy my time learning while I'm at it. That's all really.

Give us your parting words.

Honestly, I really have to thank both @Gossip Goat and @confused girl28 for voting for me, as well as anyone else who might have. They, however, are the only two that I'm aware of. Anyway, thank you so much you two. Hooray, I have a colored post-rank now.

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Congratulations! While I am not a vegetarian, your posts on vegetarianism/veganism I enjoyed a lot. Kudos for vegans especially the ones doing for ethical reasons. I enjoy meat too much myself so haha :)

MOTM June 2015
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Enjoyed reading your interview. I was really touched by the way you spoke so lovingly about your wife and the positives she has brought to your life. I'm sure she feels the same way about you.

I always appreciate your very balanced and positive approach, you are a definite asset to the PerC community. You are one of the kindest people I have had the privilege of interacting with on this forum.

Well deserved recognition!


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I am so happy to see this honor bestowed on such an authentic and empathetic soul. Your presence on the forum is a joy and irreplaceable.

Thank you for giving all of us the chance to get to know and grow with you.

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Yay, you deserve it! :proud:

PerC Mermaid
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CONGRATULATIONS!!! You made it!! :)
Interesting interview, thanks for letting us to get to know you better.

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Congrats Clyme !
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