I have tested ENFP/ESFP most of my life, and my therapist heavily believes I am ENFP. Anyways, I was wondering if anybody else struggles with reading social cues from people who aren't considered good friends; acquaintances, coworkers, managers, classmates, or anybody else you can think of. I know there are some people in the world I feel like I click with instantly, but then it seems like there is a large majority that gives me a vibe telling me 'You are a total whackjob, wtf are you even looking at me??' I know I tend to be pretty innocent in most situations, I don't really gossip, I strive to do my best in school/work, I try to be friendly... But I still always feel awkward with most of these people.
My therapist says I don't use eye contact enough; he states that I usually get stuck in my own world while I'm thinking. So while I am listening to what another person is saying, they believe I am not paying attention to them. My good friends know this behavior is totally harmless, but I can see where this could turn other people off. If another person did this to me, I wouldn't notice because I don't think anything of it. So another awkward point is I don't really pay attention well if somebody isn't interested in me.
I also feel like I trip over my words a lot and make mistakes around these people, especially the more I think about how awkward I feel. I believe the people around me must think I am just plain stupid.
What do I say/do differently so I don't present myself in this light? Am I over-reading their cues, and if I'm not, how can I not be so awkward?
And is this an ENFP thing, or does this sound like another type?
My therapist says I don't use eye contact enough; he states that I usually get stuck in my own world while I'm thinking. So while I am listening to what another person is saying, they believe I am not paying attention to them. My good friends know this behavior is totally harmless, but I can see where this could turn other people off. If another person did this to me, I wouldn't notice because I don't think anything of it. So another awkward point is I don't really pay attention well if somebody isn't interested in me.
I also feel like I trip over my words a lot and make mistakes around these people, especially the more I think about how awkward I feel. I believe the people around me must think I am just plain stupid.
What do I say/do differently so I don't present myself in this light? Am I over-reading their cues, and if I'm not, how can I not be so awkward?
And is this an ENFP thing, or does this sound like another type?