good advice vel, thanks.
i'm just dealing with the ending of a relationship in which we're both INFJs and possibly failed to see reality in many parts of the relationship. on one hand i keep getting memory flashes followed by Ni finding some new meaning to it, but on the other hand i realize these moments are over, were what they were, and i just go on and accept them. despite the feeling inside that if i just find the right connection this whole experience will make sense, i know there are far too many factors to accurately weigh any situation, not to mention one i can't even remember all the details to. i think i'm just feeding Ni while ignoring some of my other functions, but i'm slowly getting out of this. crazy what the mind can do if you really want to believe something. i could find an elephant in my drinking cup if i hoped hard enough.
i've been slowly feeling the confidence come back in certain aspects of me, which is a nice feeling. thinking of the future definitely helps, though my future suddenly looks drastically different. in some ways this is better because i can now start to dream of what only i want and not have to factor in another, which opens up a new world of possibility.
i wish i didn't have to ignore the part of me that believes she still might be the one, but even if she is, i need to come back to reality to look at her and myself realistically. i believe all the experiences i went through were real because we both went through them, but there's something to be said for NF's abilities to live in a shared imagination for a while.
i'm just dealing with the ending of a relationship in which we're both INFJs and possibly failed to see reality in many parts of the relationship. on one hand i keep getting memory flashes followed by Ni finding some new meaning to it, but on the other hand i realize these moments are over, were what they were, and i just go on and accept them. despite the feeling inside that if i just find the right connection this whole experience will make sense, i know there are far too many factors to accurately weigh any situation, not to mention one i can't even remember all the details to. i think i'm just feeding Ni while ignoring some of my other functions, but i'm slowly getting out of this. crazy what the mind can do if you really want to believe something. i could find an elephant in my drinking cup if i hoped hard enough.
i've been slowly feeling the confidence come back in certain aspects of me, which is a nice feeling. thinking of the future definitely helps, though my future suddenly looks drastically different. in some ways this is better because i can now start to dream of what only i want and not have to factor in another, which opens up a new world of possibility.
i wish i didn't have to ignore the part of me that believes she still might be the one, but even if she is, i need to come back to reality to look at her and myself realistically. i believe all the experiences i went through were real because we both went through them, but there's something to be said for NF's abilities to live in a shared imagination for a while.
