I’m separated and planning to divorce my wife after 15 years. She’s INTJ. She promised to change things about herself, and I believed her. But she didn’t change. I think I resented her for years but wouldn’t allow myself to believe it. Now I feel used. I moved in with my ESFJ mom. I’m grateful for a place to stay, but she can be overly caretaking, asking if there’s anything she can get me.