This was all beautiful and I relate very much so with it. Gee, i'm glad there is one fellow INFP 9w8 that I have gotten a glimpse of.I don't know why I became a 9w8, just because I think I've always been one. I knew I wasn't like others because other people don't seem to have such a dichotomy within themselves. There's the part of me that wants to get along and chill out, but there's the part that wants to act and do with passion and conviction. And then there's my morals and stuff that cause me to side with either side throughout the day because one is more right than the other, though I desire to do one more than the other.
As a kid, I didn't think of it too much. I got along with others and had lots of friends, but I was also very independent. If I felt like doing something, someone would come along with me, generally. Or maybe I went with them. It's blurry, but I always did what I liked to do and had company.
My home life was never bad. I was pretty obedient, usually doing the right thing because it was the right thing to do, and adults would be happy with me.
I definitely acted like a 9w8 in my teens, but it didn't feel empowering or beneficial until I had matured. It only troubled me because I fought with the underdeveloped sides of each. As I got older I realized I was able to be a bit of a chameleon when others needed it; People would be stuck in inaction, so I would step up and take care of business. No matter how much I don't like something I need to do, I can step up and do it to the best of my ability. (Part of the reason for my username) I got on top of my 9w8 and turned it into something beneficial to others and myself.
It empowers me now to be 9w8 because I have two parts of me, the 9 and the 8, that I can switch between when the situation requires it. I can stand back and assess and think, and I can also act on my thinking and make positive changes. It opens up a lot of possibilities for me, and I also want to open those possibilities for other people.
I'm glad you have as much fun as meThis was all beautiful and I relate very much so with it. Gee, i'm glad there is one fellow INFP 9w8 that I have gotten a glimpse of.
The reason is because patterns can be observed from environment, unlike MBTI. It's frequent enough to be noticeable that 9s can often have a 9 parent and one who comes across as quite strong or domineering. I do wonder if preference in each triad may be inherent though and the one that's pushed forward the one with the is reinforced by environment.It's hard for me to believe that one can change their "core" and become another type