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I have had arguments over wanting to have more sex with my two of my former lovers, I know most INFJ have high drives, so has this been a problem for you as well. The only time I haven't had this problem was when I was with an ENFP, he was just as amorous as me.
 

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I am not an INFJ but am dating one and I can tell you the potential sexual things between the high sex drive INFJ and ENFP is endless, both have deeply rooted sexual drives and if I can make a ball park throw, ENFPs and INFJs are likely the biggest sexual deviants out of all the personalities.

Both are focused on life-long relationships and have a deeply rooted sexual desire, INFJs love the feeling of being touched and being close with the person they are with along with giving pleasure to their mate while ENFPs love sex in general and love coming up with new spontaneous things to do and to be close with their mate.
 

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I really think that sex drive has more to due with biology and less with type.
Could very much be true but also I find how sex is approached is different in a more general way from type to type, which may or may not have to do with sexual drive. After all type is just a label for a person's behavior (or general behavior as a person is formed from their life experiences), and sex can be linked to one's behavior so types can be accounted a bit for how one approaches sex to an extent, but everyone is different.

Sex is also a biological thing but how you feel about sex is a behavioral thing. Thus saying INFJ and ENFP are likely the biggest sexual deviants wouldn't be too off the mark. There are other types with a much broader range of sex also though, typically speaking INFJs and ENFPs are very committed to whoever they're with in most cases. Though ENFPs also live in the world of possibilities but their moral code on such things keep them in control most of the time. INFPs on the other hand are perfectionist who work to make the perfect relationship and focus on their mate while feeling lots of love and due to how passionate they are can be quite passionate in sex as well. I'm speaking in generalities of course but with such discussion generalities are a must.
 

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I don't like my high sex drive

It sometimes makes me feel a tad counterfeit when considering possible relationships

Out of my current demons, lust has so far been the easiest to control, but the most prevalent. I'm afraid that when I have sex once, I'll get lost in it like some sort of psychadelic drug, and it may ruin the purity of mind I'm trying to achieve

I find a lot of sexual acts to be dirty and completely repulsive anyhow. Not saying I'm a decided abstinent, but I'm not as interested in it as the rest of the human race seems to be
 

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I really think that sex drive has more to due with biology and less with type.
I would agree with this.

Then again, I've had a very ugly disagreement with someone in personalitycafe who insists that you can tell type based on facial features. Which I naturally think is BS.

I think the approach to romance and sex can be loosely tied to type. Sex drive is more hormonal and biological in nature.

I do not think testerone levels can be tied to whether I get energy from people (E) or whether I get energy being alone (I). And for that matter, any of the other letters.
 

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Sexual deviants I am not sure about that statement as INFJ are more romantic in their attitudes towards sex in a monogamous way. There was another thread a while back where INFJ's all talked about their high drives and that they had to be within a relationship for it to come out, I believe this to be true. Facial features or even body shape telling a person what type you are? No I really don't think so. If I'm with you I want to touch and show you in a physical way my feelings, it's just another way to express caring and love. I would have said it was biology a persons sex drive, before having read the other thread, but now I think both affect the sex drive. In taking to some another friends on the board my answer my lay in the other person feeling inadequate to fulfill my sexual desires, the reason for the discourse.
 

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I have had arguments over wanting to have more sex with my two of my former lovers, I know most INFJ have high drives, so has this been a problem for you as well. The only time I haven't had this problem was when I was with an ENFP, he was just as amorous as me.
INFJ's have high sex drives too? Hmmm....This gives me ideas.....
 

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Yeah I've had this issue. I had a this talk with my girl friend of mine that is either ENFP or ENTP and she has had a similar problem. Guys have just been weird with us for some reason it seems.
 

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Yeah I've had this issue. I had a this talk with my girl friend of mine that is either ENFP or ENTP and she has had a similar problem. Guys have just been weird with us for some reason it seems.
It's funny I always had thought guys wanted more sex then girls but I think it does depend on the type. I am a very attractive girl so it was a frustrating situation. I now ask a lot a questions about sex before anything starts, it is better not to get involved if their drive is low or they are uptight about sex in anyway. I don’t sleep around, I’ve only had three partners, so I expect to be able to show my love and affection in a sexual way to my lover.
 

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protein, lots of protein

meanwhile, less sexed people are eating crow ha
Uhm, this is a PG forum - but there are soooo many ways you could turn any part of this into a double, triple, heck even a quadruple entendre. I'm enjoying myself just reading it. And by enjoying I mean in the more pedestrian mental state and not enjoyment as a euphemism for enjoyment.

And by pedestrian I mean ordinary and not...

Oh jeex. The problems of a reference-disentangled vocabulary combined with a dirty mind ;-)
 

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It's funny I always had thought guys wanted more sex then girls but I think it does depend on the type. I am a very attractive girl so it was a frustrating situation. I now ask a lot a questions about sex before anything starts, it is better not to get involved if their drive is low or they are uptight about sex in anyway. I don’t sleep around, I’ve only had three partners, so I expect to be able to show my love and affection in a sexual way to my lover.
This whole paragraph makes me feel like I'm under Jekyll's Hyde.
 

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This whole paragraph makes me feel like I'm under Jekyll's Hyde.
I am confused by your statement, what do you mean by "This whole paragraph makes me feel like I'm under Jekyll's Hyde"?
 

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I am confused by your statement, what do you mean by "This whole paragraph makes me feel like I'm under Jekyll's Hyde"?
It's just a play on words. First the discussion brings out my inner Mr. Hyde.

ESTP Mr. Hyde is everything INFJ Dr. Jekyll is not. He's bad. Part of me is good. But when I'm bad I'm better.

The second play on words is about something getting under your skin or under your hide. As in something that is an itch you just can't scratch. But of course if you are Jekyll and it's under your Hyde, which are you - an innocent artist who transforms into a barbarian - or a barbarian that transforms into a gentle artist.

I really do believe sometimes that I am quite insane. Have you ever gotten the feeling that somebody on here was just a first class nut? I mean truly half a bubble off the plumb?

There is a tug of war inside me. It isn't good vs. bad. --- It is good vs. evil. It is sanity vs. insanity. It is the gentle moral man vs. the Beast.

True dat.

But uhm all kidding aside I was kidding.
 
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