[InternalWonderous]

Hello my fellow Fi Dom cousins! If you'd be so kind to give me your two cents on the matter...
I've known this girl for a while through a mutual friend through work. I have strong reasons to believe she has ISFP prfrences. I met here at a party. We hit it off well, but when the time came to ask for her number, I pretty much chickened out. :blushed: Fast forward about six weeks. By chance, I bump into her at the library of the Tech College I go to. She made eye contact with me a few times, so I go over there and start talking to her. She was very shy (as she was at first last time we talked). I get her number without a problem. The only thing that has me a bit concerned is that she seemed very nervous talking to me, and had trouble keeping eye contact. Now, I'm no Danny Devito, but I also don't consider myself a Brad Pitt either. This girl is HOT. I have a hard time accepting that she was so nervous, because, "I'm such a stud." I can't help but to think something else must be going on... Or am I just being paranoid? What are your thoughts on this? How Do ya'll show it if you 'like' someone? If you were ever shy, how old were you when you grew out of it, or have you yet? Thanks in advance...

 

[Mitsuko]

Maybe you do look that good, to her at least. Or maybe she's evaluated you & sees another layer (And maybe you give off a weird vibe that makes her nervous... like a death stare? Haha I wouldn't know.)
By giving her number, I'd say you've got a good chance of interest right there. (I'm as cagey as fuck, anyway... she may not be so isolated).
I'm shy. Socialization is something I do when I have enough energy to force myself to "just go." Just open my mouth & words come out... I don't have much advice on that note. Just talk, and she should talk back at least some of the time. =P

I'd say have some text conversations & hangouts and see what goes. Relationships are strange, hope you get lucky (and I don't mean just the physical/romantic sense). Friends are always nice. Good luck

 

[uncertain]

I dunno.. I think she's just being shy. I'm a VERY quiet person. There are lots of awkward silence even when I'm with my close friend. I tend to do things for the person I'm currently liking because I'm too shy to say things. The enormous amount of feeling that I have toward the person makes me over-think about myself, like I would be a horrible partner. I mean I really believe that. Then I becomes even more hesitant speaking up and talking. The whole feeling-overthinking spiral is so tiring that I actually have started to retreat from interaction with that person. The whole process is totally silly, I know.

Since I'm so shy that I carefully choose what I do. I usually offer help, excessively, if he needs it, so that it's not too obvious that I'm liking him. I makes it pretty hard for anyone to sense it, but that's just the way I am.

 

[Dark NiTe]

If she seems overtly nervous, don't worry, that is normal. You should see some of the brief displays of excitement my ISFP love gives when I tell her something sweet, and sometimes when I approach her I can see the physical manifestation of the butterflies. The best is when she makes that deep, unwavering eye contact that pierces your soul and leaves you feeling completely vulnerable.

Tonight I get to find out the truth, I am going to lay it on the line, and forgive her and hope that she forgives me. I'm going to tell her exactly how I feel about her. It will either be the beginning of the end, or the beginning of something wonderful. Either way I'm okay with it, at least for now

 

[Absolute Foodie]

Hello my fellow Fi Dom cousins! If you'd be so kind to give me your two cents on the matter...
I've known this girl for a while through a mutual friend through work. I have strong reasons to believe she has ISFP prfrences. I met here at a party. We hit it off well, but when the time came to ask for her number, I pretty much chickened out. :blushed: Fast forward about six weeks. By chance, I bump into her at the library of the Tech College I go to. She made eye contact with me a few times, so I go over there and start talking to her. She was very shy (as she was at first last time we talked). I get her number without a problem. The only thing that has me a bit concerned is that she seemed very nervous talking to me, and had trouble keeping eye contact. Now, I'm no Danny Devito, but I also don't consider myself a Brad Pitt either. This girl is HOT. I have a hard time accepting that she was so nervous, because, "I'm such a stud." I can't help but to think something else must be going on... Or am I just being paranoid? What are your thoughts on this? How Do ya'll show it if you 'like' someone? If you were ever shy, how old were you when you grew out of it, or have you yet? Thanks in advance...

Right, as @Mitsuko said it, if you were able to get her phone# you might have a good chance with this girl. She could be taking her time, from experience, I do not rush into anything. Have you considered she could be nervous about showing too much interest and could be waiting for you to take the first step? I have difficulty making prolonged eye contact with someone I am attracted to. Because being a Sx dom, I normally stare:laughing:. I have never outgrown shyness being generation X it means the chances of it happening are pretty slim:kitteh::laughing: You can detect a lot from phone texting as well and see where things might be heading. Best 2u!

 

[Skum]

@benr3600 What ended up happening??
I laid it on the line to my ISFP as well. He didn't respond to me for 2 days (Fi decision buffering!). But now things are going swimmingly.

OP, for what it's worth this same man admitted he never does the chasing and he doesn't confess his feelings. Now add some societal gender expectations and you've got a pretty good case for the ISFP simply being shy. Don't misconstrue it as an automatic sign of affection (not that you are) but yeah, just send out some signs.
It's been a few days. Updates from the OP as well?

 

[InternalWonderous]

@benr3600 What ended up happening??
I laid it on the line to my ISFP as well. He didn't respond to me for 2 days (Fi decision buffering!). But now things are going swimmingly.

OP, for what it's worth this same man admitted he never does the chasing and he doesn't confess his feelings. Now add some societal gender expectations and you've got a pretty good case for the ISFP simply being shy. Don't misconstrue it as an automatic sign of affection (not that you are) but yeah, just send out some signs.
It's been a few days. Updates from the OP as well?

She gave me a false number. Long story short, she took gossip at face value. I hate it when my intuition is right, which time and time again has been (I don't recall it ever being wrong about these kinid of things), and I ignore it because I don't want to be cynical. :frustrating:

 

[Skum]

She gave me a false number. Long story short, she took gossip at face value. I hate it when my intuition is right, which time and time again has been (I don't recall it ever being wrong about these kinid of things), and I ignore it because I don't want to be cynical. :frustrating:

I'm sorry to hear that man you deserve someone better anyway, someone who knows how to discern what's truth and what people rattle off for the sake of gossip.
Hopefully you'll meet someone soon who doesn't set your intuition off with warning bells.

 

[InternalWonderous]

I'm sorry to hear that man you deserve someone better anyway, someone who knows how to discern what's truth and what people rattle off for the sake of gossip.
Hopefully you'll meet someone soon who doesn't set your intuition off with warning bells.

Thanks for that after taking time to wallow in my sorrow, I remain hopeful, and forgive, not only her, but mainly myself for ingoring my insticts. Burns me every time...