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Friends with Benefits compared to Relationships

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I have trouble with the distinction between friends with benefits and sexual relationships. As I understand it a relationship is when 2 ( lets stick with 2) individuals enjoy each others company, spend time together, and get romantic.

A friend with benefits is someone who is a friend, whom you get romantic with.

I thought being friends was the same thing as enjoying each others company and spending time together. In addition, either a relationship or a friends with benefits situation can be monogamous or polyamorous so I don't see why the number of people involved in that sense would matter.

Am I the only one a little confused here? If you are friends with someone and get romantic with them, how (or why) are you not just dating? Is friends with benefits just a label for people who are acquaintances (friends lite), who get horney and/or drunk and hook-up to absolve themselves of any emotional or personal responsibility? I am obviously not somebody who is into casual encounters, and people's personal decisions are their own business, but I am awfully curious how about people reconcile what appears to be this descrepancy. I am guessing everyone defines these things a little differently, but maybe not.
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A relationship is generally understood to be exclusive. Furthermore, there is at least the potential intentention of maybe making it a long-term thing. "Friends with benefits" sounds like neither. Plus, quite often, the person you are in a relationship with turns out not to be so friendly after all - but that's a separate story :wink:

As for me, I go for serious relationships only. Fits nicely in a traditional pattern I suppose.
I find one person in my life more than enough, thank you.
This makes me curious what the overlap of "friends" and "love", but no sex would be. A platonic relationship, I suppose. Life would be so much easier without a sex drive. And so much more dull...
Well, the picture you showed implies to me that this deals with romantic love. I certainly don't love my friends like that. I do care for them a great deal. Which may be semantics. Or maybe not.
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