Do you ENFPs prefer ESFPs as friends or romantic partners?
Ah! And there's my problem. I always feel things so very deeply. I crave human connection, yet socializing terrifies me. I don't mind being alone, but being lonely is the greatest fear I can think of. I've always been emotional; it's not difficult for me to cry when I'm feeling my own pain or someone else's, as I unintentionally absorb their emotions and take them on as my own. (and don't even get me started on sad movies. I was a leaky faucet during Marley & Me!!! :sadI like gentle and lushy.... but first comes some other stuff that I think other ENFP girls would agree with:
Those two are about equally important to me, I think. I could never be with someone who didn't match my mind/couldn't understand my thoughts/couldn't contribute to ideas.
You should have had us choose between "gentle and lushy" or "tough and rough" LOL You'd get a clear opinion there. The other dilemma with the poll is that we count ourselves as spazzes. And for sure most of us choose other N's, right? I'm not saying that the guy couldn't work very hard at winning me over, though. I mean.... I don't want to rule out S's completely for any of us, especially if the ESFP in question is anything like my friend and cousin.Ah! And there's my problem. I always feel things so very deeply. I crave human connection, yet socializing terrifies me. I don't mind being alone, but being lonely is the greatest fear I can think of. I've always been emotional; it's not difficult for me to cry when I'm feeling my own pain or someone else's, as I unintentionally absorb their emotions and take them on as my own. (and don't even get me started on sad movies. I was a leaky faucet during Marley & Me!!! :sad
Oh, dear. It would appear I made this post all about me. :blushed:
(Oh, and, *looks at poll* you forgot to choose an option)
Oh my gosh don’t be sorry! It was doomed from the start for so many reasons. I would’ve never dated him if I had a clear head at the time. I’m an ENFP (at least that’s what I’ve been testing as lately). It was nothing serious either and a while ago. And I’m very happy now. 🙂@artofbalance Very interesting. I've heard that ESFPs are a bit like how you described: hyperactive and unintentionally flirty. Sorry it didn't work out for you. Mind if I ask what your MBTI type is?
And thank you for your response! <img src="http://personalitycafe.com/images/smilies/1/proud.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Proud" class="inlineimg" />
I've said it before; for me to feel truly happy naturally, I need to find an intuitive-feeler, but at the very least another N. I just don't see getting that depth with a sensing type, and I imagine most ENFPs would agree. Statistically speaking, for a healthy relationship to blossom naturally, i think the two middle MBTI letters should ideally be identical (i.e. xNFx-xNFx, xNTx-xNTx, xSFx-xSFx, ect), and the outer letters ideally to be opposite (i.e. introverts paired with extroverts, judgers with perceivers). That's not to say other matches wouldn't work, because they absolutely would--you're a P paired with a P after all. It just may take more effort over the course of a lifetime than finding someone of your opposite. Though, I don't want to make it seems like I'm placing great emphasis in MBTI, because all types can work if they're willing to put forth the effort. It's just no secret that some types mesh better than others, and my preferences above are what I feel would work best for me.And for sure most of us choose other N's, right?
Honestly, I don't remember in my lifetime ever clicking as well with anyone as I do with her. It's nothing short of magical.Okay, so I like that this thread has become about you. Tell me this, you feel you understand your ENFP, right? You keep up with her brain/can follow her brain?
Ha! That's not actually as intriguing to most people as you may think. Though, I do believe ENFPs are most likely to be readers of books than most types due to their brain and creativity patterns. Other types, such as my ESFP cousin, hates to read. I read that intuitive types are more creative, whereas sensor types are my inventive (scientifically). It makes sense because a lot of the NFs I know of are very artsy people.Then you're fine! What would you worry about? You've written a BOOK for Pete's sake? You've got plenty to contribute to a conversation.
I can answer that in a single word: Rejection. That's gotta be the worst feeling--loving someone who doesn't equally reciprocate. I know that's a fear for every type, but INFJs feel it on a much deeper level. We're all or nothing type of people. If we're willing to give you our all, then it's going to be every part of us for all eternity. It's scary being that vulnerable. And there's an unsettling solace about living in our heads, dreaming up the fantasy we're too afraid to bring to reality. It's easier, and nearly as fulfilling (not really, but we convince ourselves of that) to imagine the world we desire instead of taking the chance on making it happen for real. I remember you saying recently that ENFPs feel as if they'll never be good enough for their potential partner. I can say that's pretty much how I feel.So let me ask you more then... In what way are you worried?
There might not be that much experience with this type out there.... also there are a lot less ENFPs on here than INFJs. This wasn't such a bad turn-out. However, I'd keep it open one more weekend if you want....That's it? Only 7 voters? :sad: