My wife's an INFP and she frequently calls me an insensitive asshole and jokingly says "you're so emotionally mean to me", when I'm just being myself. And this woman has known me for over 15 years. Hell, my mom's also an INFP and she doesn't really understand that I'm not being mean. She'll see me with one of my cats and say "oh, look, you do have a heart".I don't know, but I wonder if gentle poeple have thought I was bieng mean to them when I was just being me. I can be a bit direct, and sometimes insensitive. Are gentle people necessarily sensitive types as well?