I'm new here so please forgive me if this is the wrong area to post this. If so, please point me in the right direction, thank you! Anyway, I met this guy a year ago and fell for him pretty hard. When I met him he had just fallen out with his friends (a massive argument over an ex both of them had seen - it's complicated) and had moved out of the house they had shared. He basically had no one to turn to about his problems, concerns. I felt this connection with him like no one else I had ever met and he said he felt like he could be his true self around me. We hung out a ton over the next few months (always me initiating) and he always accepted (in hindsight it's probably because he had no one else to hang with really even though he did enjoy my company). He shared his thoughts, concerns, aspirations, and worries with me, etc. (My friend basically said later that I was his emotional support and helped him out of a dark place in his life; plus he is the friend to never plan or initiate get-togethers she said). I thought that maybe he had feelings for me but wasn't sharing them or was confused because he still had feelings for his ex. So I was left in a lurch of emotions, not knowing what exactly was going on and then at the beginning of the year he told me he didn't have any romantic feelings towards me but he still treasured our friendship and that he hoped we could still be friends. I continued to hang out with him occasionally, plus he was in one of my lectures. And then in May he told me that he was seeing a mutual friend. I was still hurting and decided to avoid hanging out with him to help myself move on, though I never said this to him. I have not seen or talked to him since the end of May and I feel as though I have fully accepted the situation and moved on from him. However, as I treasure all my good friendships, I feel horrible for dropping off the face of the planet. I feel as though I can be friends with him and want to hang out again because I enjoyed the time we spent together. He's never indicated otherwise, but he may still be seeing this mutual friend. I really thought I would bump into him at a neutral gathering before now but it's been three months. Should I reach out to him out of the blue and ask if he wants to catch up at a really neutral place? Wait for it to happen organically through a neutral big gathering? Should I explain my behavior for the last three months? I really want to be friends with him still (I think he thinks that I've completely shut him out now - like an INFJ doorslam), but I don't know how to go about re-connecting with him? Any advice? Thank you in advance!