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Hello! I need a little advice on something.

I'm going on a little "camping" trip ( I say camping yet we are staying in a cabin with air conditioning ;) ) next week for a few days.

The thing is, on these camping trips, we stay out late, watch the sunsets and play in the lake, etc.

Now, here's my issue. Sunsets make me extremely depressed. From about 1 pm all the way until the sun sets at 8 pm, it makes my mood really really bad. I don't show it, but I just want to go inside and lock myself in a dark room with a lamp on and distract myself.

I remember last time we went, my uncle took us out on his boat, we went way far out in the lake and watched the sunset. I was having fun, but then all of a sudden, this heavy wave of deep sadness just hits me.

I've tried distracting myself during one of those times. We went tubing on the boat, which with what we were doing, requires concentration, so I was distracted, but just the time made me very stressed and deeply troubled.

I also notice that in these moments, I stress more about my future and all of my responsibilities. I mean, I do it all the time, but it gets worse in the afternoon.

Is there anything I can do to stop feeling this way, and just enjoy myself? This is my first and last vacation before school starts and I would really like to have a good time without being stressed.

Thank you!
 

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Yeah. First figure out what's causing the sadness, why does it happen? Because seven hours of consistent daily sadness is something you should get addressed, quick.

Has this been the case all the time for years? Sunset connected to any memories? Pretty bizarre from my perspective. So crazy how people get affected on such a deep level by things I've never noticed myself.

I can suggest meditation but it's one of those things that may or may not relieve your issues. You kinda have to develop it as a skill.
 

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I'm with @UberY0shi on this. What's causing the sadness?

I'm struggling with this particularly because sunsets have been one of my favorite things over the last few years.

What about sunrises? Perhaps start your day early. Then at some point in the afternoon go in and read if you have a good book, letting the others do their thing and you do yours. Wish you well.
 

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Throughout time the sun has been symbolic for the sustainer of life, or life itself. So in the absence of it we could say it represents death. Your stress and anxiety could come from the associated apprehension of dying due to the setting sun before you could complete anything meaningful, hence why you feel most sad in the afternoon; the peak is met and the descent into the night begins. The desire to disappear when the sun sets into a room with lamp on could be an attempt to emulate or reestablish this dynamic with life.

Your enneagram marrys this idea well, as enneagram 6 passes through paradigms in between it can remain in extreme doubt. Day and night represents the paradigms

Try this configuration:

Stay indoors during the day and go out at night

Work ---> play as apposed to Play ---> work
 

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Throughout time the sun has been symbolic for the sustainer of life, or life itself. So in the absence of it we could say it represents death. Your stress and anxiety could come from the associated apprehension of dying due to the setting sun before you could complete anything meaningful, hence why you feel most sad in the afternoon; the peak is met and the descent into the night begins. The desire to disappear when the sun sets into a room with lamp on could be an attempt to emulate or reestablish this dynamic with life.

Your enneagram marrys this idea well, as enneagram 6 passes through paradigms in between it can remain in extreme doubt. Day and night represents the paradigms

Try this configuration:

Stay indoors during the day and go out at night

Work ---> play as apposed to Play ---> work
That is so accurate! Oh my gosh! Thank you so much!
 

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I'm with @UberY0shi on this. What's causing the sadness?

I'm struggling with this particularly because sunsets have been one of my favorite things over the last few years.

What about sunrises? Perhaps start your day early. Then at some point in the afternoon go in and read if you have a good book, letting the others do their thing and you do yours. Wish you well.
I'm not quite sure what's causing the sadness. I notice that during this time I think about how pointless life feels to me.
Sunrises are beautiful to me, I love getting up early. I do that sometimes.

I'm not sure about going in during the afternoon. My family will think i'm being lazy and they'll start drama. (Yes, they're one of those families.)

Thank you so much :)
 

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Has this been the case all the time for years?
Yes, this has been going on for a long time, even when I was a child.


I'm not sure what causes it. We can't afford therapy, nor potential medication.
 
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