My first and only love ive ever had was with an ESFP.
You could have based a film plot on our characters, if im honest. She was the typical very outgoing, bubbly, smiley, friendly, slightly-naive ESFP girl that worked in a bar as well as going to theater school. Very, very attractive, I think she even got scouted for Hollister at one point. Used to A LOT of attention, guys hitting on her like crazy (she had a bar job, go figure). I was the quiet, stoic guy that that no one really knew much about. They knew of me, because I dated her, and she was a huge social butterfly. But other guys didnt know me. Some were scared of me, some were just "unsure" of me, some completely despised me for some unknown reasons.
She didnt care though because for a while she was completely besotted by me. Her other girl friends were always quite motherly towards me. It was just the guys... they hated me.
Long story short - first couple of months were perfect, but other people butting into our business is what caused the relationship to stop working. She could be very stubborn and not very good at seeing things from my point of view. Took any sort of criticize extremely personally and could be a moody, sassy demon at times. Ugh.
I got stressed, entered a Ti/Ni loop because if it, became very boring and rigid. She got bored, she wanted it to end. It ended.
Less than two weeks later she was seeing a new guy. I was hurt at the time, but that's just how ESFP's roll.
To get an ESFP, just make her laugh. Appear exciting, dangerous, spontaneous, physical. They love that. They also love putting all the effort in, even if some of them deny it on here. They love doing the chasing and the idea of love and romance.
If you start getting comfortable and 'boring' though, they will leave and move onto someone new in a split second.