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Hello, people. I am an INFJ and for quite some time i ve been hanging with this ESFJ girl. When i think of her, I do love her a lot, but, she doesnt make my type(her values are not strong, and she seems a bit too normal for me). SO my idea is to make our friendship turn into something like lovers, not necessarily a long term relationship. I know she wants it (I see it all LOL). BUt she is very afraid. how to turn this?
 

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Interesting .. So you don't want 'long term relationship' but you do want 'lovers'.

Why not just ask her straight out if you can be friends with benefits?

She can only tell you NO.

Lol .. Yeah, good luck with that. Don't like your chances.
 

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Well, i would hopefully not ask but make it happen:). And i was thinking if i was capable to change her mind so fuckingly fucking and make her love me with my Ni. aehueahueahuaehuae.; have to think about it.
 

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Well, i would hopefully not ask but make it happen:). And i was thinking if i was capable to change her mind so fuckingly fucking and make her love me with my Ni. aehueahueahuaehuae.; have to think about it.
you're asking for the impossible. What next?

It's either you ask or you don't and she never knows. Hints exactly don't work for me. Tell her straight out how you're feeling and see if she agrees to it. It's at least worth a try right? Give it a go.
 

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ESFJs aren't really the type to knowingly get involved in a relationship that will certainly end...
it depends. A lot of relationships end so it's normal to assume that the relationships(friendships or what not) im in right now will be a short term. Depends on who's holding it, no one knows. Long term or short term, I could go with either way.
 

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Well, i would hopefully not ask but make it happen:). And i was thinking if i was capable to change her mind so fuckingly fucking and make her love me with my Ni. aehueahueahuaehuae.; have to think about it.
Sounds like manipulation to me .. I am not going to ask but make it happen.

She wants it .. Good, i hope she also bites it off .. That's karma for you.
 

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MOchi. Yeah. Sometimes i wish everybody is intuitive as I am.About making her love me. Well, i was able to change a lot her conceptions about me. The hard time is that the esfjs girls i dated want things happen, and I really am the lazy guy who lets things happen. only with time i take some positions. Meantime the possibility of relationship fades...
 

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MOchi. Yeah. Sometimes i wish everybody is intuitive as I am.About making her love me. Well, i was able to change a lot her conceptions about me. The hard time is that the esfjs girls i dated want things happen, and I really am the lazy guy who lets things happen. only with time i take some positions. Meantime the possibility of relationship fades...
you're funny :mellow:

don't need to be a potato couch here. :crazy:
 

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calysco. Yeap. Totally real. Why?:)LOL. Mochi. what abou the potato couch? EAHUEAHuEAHUE. didnt get it:>:crazy:
 

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cause i am confused. And. SOme existencial thoughts that my companion would have to question with me. Are far too heavy for most girls. SO, no:>
 

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well. never asked to be simple. BUt she is the one who abandoned the thought of having something real first. Not my fault. And I do am complicated, still i like to make her feel good and i like to rearrange her life with me..:)
 

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well. never asked to be simple. BUt she is the one who abandoned the thought of having something real first. Not my fault. And I do am complicated, still i like to make her feel good and i like to rearrange her life with me..:)
lmao. Whatever. I didn't really understand what you said but good luck buddy!
 

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dasch. u very nice answering all of it. Putting it into good words. I wont play the social role to have her. She knows that. And i wont cause she wont value it enough for me. But i still maker her life better and she knows it. And thats how it will be?
 
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