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I was just wondering if any of you INTJs out there frequently run into the problem of not being appreciated for trying to help others by giving advice? As someone with a lot of knowledge on a wide variety of subjects, I find myself holding back sometimes in fear of not being appreciated.
When I give advice, it's because I want to help the other person and see them better off. However, many times people do not see this intent. They make weird judgments like I have some ulterior motive, or that I am trying to be critical of others..or that I'm trying to act superior in someway because of my intellect. I don't get it. A lot of times they say it has to do with my tone. My passion is misconstrued as anger somehow lol. Is it because it's a weird thing to see an INTJ trying to be altruistic because people assume we are cold and distant? Maybe other "warmer" types have it easier because it is expected of them.
I'm just trying to figure out a way to convey knowledge appropriately. Sometimes I am afraid to speak up on issues not because I don't know enough but because I actually know a ton, but don't want to come across as a "know it all". Which is unfair because I live life to accumulate knowledge and wisdom, and I think I am entitled to show a small aspect of the fruits of my labor to society. Do any of you guys often keep quiet despite knowing a lot more than others about a topic? I mean I try to be as humble as possible but I must be doing something wrong. Any advice or shared sentiments?
When I give advice, it's because I want to help the other person and see them better off. However, many times people do not see this intent. They make weird judgments like I have some ulterior motive, or that I am trying to be critical of others..or that I'm trying to act superior in someway because of my intellect. I don't get it. A lot of times they say it has to do with my tone. My passion is misconstrued as anger somehow lol. Is it because it's a weird thing to see an INTJ trying to be altruistic because people assume we are cold and distant? Maybe other "warmer" types have it easier because it is expected of them.
I'm just trying to figure out a way to convey knowledge appropriately. Sometimes I am afraid to speak up on issues not because I don't know enough but because I actually know a ton, but don't want to come across as a "know it all". Which is unfair because I live life to accumulate knowledge and wisdom, and I think I am entitled to show a small aspect of the fruits of my labor to society. Do any of you guys often keep quiet despite knowing a lot more than others about a topic? I mean I try to be as humble as possible but I must be doing something wrong. Any advice or shared sentiments?