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My friend linked me last night a forum where men go and rate brothels and prostitutes, sort of like a yelp for the depraved. What was really fascinating about it, was how the majority of the comments I read were obviously written by older, educated men, who have this blase "I had nothing to do, so" attitude. The majority of comments were very explicit and some vulgar, but most were like reports, like amazon reviews. It seems like these men see it more as a thing to do in your spare time and try lots of different places and women, just for the fun of it, to talk about it later with anonymous friends on the internet, and gossip and compare, rather than an activity who's main purpose is to satisfy your libido. The number of comments on how the foreplay with x girl wasn't enough, or how many commented on the time she spent afterwards talking (or not) to them, or "the girlfriend experience", was surprising. It's confusing as to why most men go to brothels/hire escorts. I thought the general impression is that it's because they want to either bang that hot girl that is too much work getting irl, or because they don't get any. Apparently it's more complex than that. What say you?
 

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I don't know about brothels (I don't think I would feel great about taking a number and waiting my turn), but I've entertained (And offered, and was declined, but like, whatever) the possibility of paying friends (a couple) for sex, and I will say that the transaction was a big part of the fantasy, it's about feeling like I own them for that night, if they simply did it without money it wouldn't fulfill the same fantasy.
 

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So, my thoughts. The highest appeal of the brothel is for the dry intellectuals and creatives who bond more intimately with others of similar mind but don't find such satisfaction in sex for some variety of reasons. Some writers, for example, would rather treat sex like a bi-weekly haircut that they can see on the calendar and focus on their work the remaining 13 days. Depending on the sex-worker, the interaction can serve other functions as well. Historically speaking, paying for sex served a different purpose than getting laid in the real world and there were many who highly preferred transactional sex to non-transactional sex for many reasons regardless of what they're sexually capable of, just as there are many who prefer to have sex with a specific gender or demographic though they could have great success elsewhere. It's only because of legality and health issues that we see the brothel as a last resort for the desperate today.
 
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My friend linked me last night a forum where men go and rate brothels and prostitutes, sort of like a yelp for the depraved. What was really fascinating about it, was how the majority of the comments I read were obviously written by older, educated men, who have this blase "I had nothing to do, so" attitude. The majority of comments were very explicit and some vulgar, but most were like reports, like amazon reviews. It seems like these men see it more as a thing to do in your spare time and try lots of different places and women, just for the fun of it, to talk about it later with anonymous friends on the internet, and gossip and compare, rather than an activity who's main purpose is to satisfy your libido. The number of comments on how the foreplay with x girl wasn't enough, or how many commented on the time she spent afterwards talking (or not) to them, or "the girlfriend experience", was surprising. It's confusing as to why most men go to brothels/hire escorts. I thought the general impression is that it's because they want to either bang that hot girl that is too much work getting irl, or because they don't get any. Apparently it's more complex than that. What say you?
You mean one of these websites?

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?board=18.0
 

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When I moved from Scotland to Germany, I was surprised to find websites here where women can just sell sex direct online. A surprisingly large number do it here in Berlin - often it's students looking for easy money and you can switch your profile on/off as you like.

I may be naive, but I was genuinely shocked at the number of sellers who all appear genuine.

https://www.kaufmich.com/

The meta title even includes the term "Hobby whores" - 10/10

I had a look around to sate my curiousity, but I genuinely could never pay for sex. I'm all about authenticity - I hate shallow pretence and insincerity. Either you want to sleep with me or you don't - I'm fine either way, but I won't pay to feel attractive or satisfied.
 

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I think it's a fear of intimacy. They are paying for intimacy as much if not more than sex. Obviously it's not real intimacy, which makes it "safe" from an emotional standpoint. The detached nature with which they discuss it reveals that, as does wanting "girlfriend experiences". I'm sure their surface explanation is something like not wanting the "drama" or "hassle" of a real relationship. But it's fear. Emotional stinginess is from fear, as is the need to control it as a transaction (no vulnerability). They want to be emotionally stingy & not be vulnerable but they still naturally crave some human intimacy (which is more than just satisfying sexual urges).
 

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It depends- if you ever go to Amsterdam, everything liberal that they sell there such as prostitution and drugs, has such a degree of maturity and healthy attitude about it. People born and raised in Amsterdam are among the most emotionally BALANCED and mature people I've ever met (the vast majority do NOT use the readily available drug or sexual services available there, in fact I'd say it's not far off the proportions you'd see in any other country- though I can't quote any stats on that I confess), in fact I would put it forward as THE MOST MATURE city in the world. OK, I'm not saying I'm an expert, there may be a level of shady stuff behind the scenes that I am naive about (you can say that about almost anything though), but that is my awareness as it is my 2nd favourite city in the world, and that atmosphere of healthy maturity is a big part of that. The big problem with prostitution comes when it is illegal to my knowledge, when women who are vulnerable are manipulated into the life, etc. but as I understand it, in Amsterdam it is heavily monitored and the sex workers are heavily protected by many layers of government regulations and stuff.

I would highly recommend visiting Amsterdam for anyone, and you will very quickly realise how unintelligent and narrow the perspectives of most of the world are.

The big problem in that city are the FOREIGNERS, that's the fucking irony.
 

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sort of like a yelp for the depraved. What was really fascinating about it, was how the majority of the comments I read were obviously written by older, educated men, who have this blase "I had nothing to do, so" attitude.
Depraved, how? as for the rest, is true. I have info to share about it.

Apparently it's more complex than that. What say you?
I'm a man, hetero, and yes this is complex. And this is one of my favorites topics to discuss with my friends (female), they have all sorts of ideas about those places they never been to (They Never Been There = TNBT.) At first they insist on "how they work" (even that TNBT) when I tell them about they explain the things that must happen there (still, TNBT), you get the idea on how strong the preconceived idea is.

I've been there, wanna hear? you might not believe or like what I'm about to share but I was as surprised as you might be when you read this.
 

I saw a few of those places while driving and my opinion was negative, but still was curious. My curiosity grew over time but didn't dare to go in. My idea (yes as a guy) was drunk not so friendly folks, drugs, mafia, etc. My interest vanished but the curiosity remained. Then we have a reunion with friends, mostly coworkers and some suggested going to one of this places, well, let's try. One of the top places at the time was picked, it was a popular place, like a new disco.

First security check, it felt like going underground. Then, surprise!! nothing was as expected. There was music (not loud), bar, tables, chairs, all clean and pretty. Most men were... talking Zzzz. Some prostitutes were at the bar, some were talking and laughing with the guys at some table, some were at the sides talking with each other, all of them dressed pretty, most of them fully dressed, very few showed a bit of their breasts from time to time. Some tables had men alone, drinking but not drunk. Some other tables had men talking, group talk, not drunk.

Honestly to my taste it was way better of what I expected. We ended on a sort of living room talking, laughing, healthy stuff actually. Some women walked around and then one of the guys said he was going in. Trust me this gets better. The older guy told him "don't", well the guy didn't listen. Then the older guy said "poor X, he is going for sex but he wants something else, as usual he will come out with a smile, then laughing, then serious and then he will leave...", actually that happened. The guy was in the process of divorce, got out, laughed, then got serious, then left the place. No I didn't go in with any prostitute.


I went to a few more places like that out of curiosity with friends. What we saw was surprising, there was music, people talking, some laughs, etc. In some places there were men alone, serious, like thinking. In other places there were men also alone CRYING... in very few places there were drunk men, there are policies for that, encouraged to drink and get women but not to get drunk, they are usually invited to LEAVE.


At first I thought it was sin city :) I was wrong, those are mostly places to chill out. Drinks are expensive, you are not forced to have sex, I mean you can go in and stay for a long as you like. There is heavy security all around, and no, I never saw no drugs over any place. Some of those places offer shows, dancing, one was quite artistic actually, others were... funny, inviting men from the public to make fun of them, some men are invited to dance, and sometimes they do this contests where you can win money, drinks or some time with X woman. Not what I expected. I accidentally found the BF of a friend there, I was in a relationship so it was fun to see each other and make the sign of "we are not here", and no, nobody had sex. I also saw a woman who worked at a bank, I got her number, never called.


My favorite topic? yes, because not a single woman I know as a friend believes this, they have strong denial on how irrelevant the description is, yes, a place to chill out. Then technology evolved and small cameras appeared (you are safety checked for this, is not a game, and cell phone use is monitored, no video allowed), the thing is some dudes managed to record video and uploaded it to the web, local places, it was fun to watch. So I shared this to some female friends, it matched everything I told them about the places, it was difficult for them to believe it.

Places vary on budget, lower budget? drunk people start to appear. That's it, believe it or not.






 

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I knew of a guy who was rich as fuck but had a really high sex drive and would take a month off and just go on brothel tours through Europe, South America, Asia, ect. He was a pretty crazy guy. And he didn't have trouble attracting women, he just had a really large appetite for fucking.
 

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I don't consider it depraved, really, especially when you visit countries that are liberal about prostitution. What's depraved is going to a 3rd world country and taking advantage of poor women and girls with the help of local pimps. There are too many older western men that support the underage sex traffic trade.
 

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