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How nice another UK INFJ, as always I look forward to any potential chats that may be shared.
 

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As an INFJ living in the UK (you can share which region if you wish) do you ever find INFJ qualities make being understood difficult or find being a deep thinking challenging when so much of UK encourages surface level thinking and socialising?
 
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As an INFJ living in the UK (you can share which region if you wish) do you ever find INFJ qualities make being understood difficult or find being a deep thinking challenging when so much of UK encourages surface level thinking and socialising?
Hi there. I live in Hampshire, south coast. Good question. I feel that it is difficult, especially when I was younger as I was very misunderstood. I would constantly get end of school reports saying that I'm 'too quiet' and 'not confident' and don't 'believe' in my own ability, etc. I don't think people realized or understood that, no I wasn't extroverted or outgoing or loud but everything I was hearing and being taught, I was taking in. People, for some reason, seem to think introverts and shy people are rude and arrogant - I don't understand that.

But yes, I feel that my type can be often overlooked in society in general but a lot of people in the UK are quiet also as I think we're not an overly outgoing nation - at least the people I've been into contact with aren't? I think INFJ and similar types are misunderstood in general because a lot of people aren't willing to look deeper into someones personality these days, sadly.

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Hi there. I live in Hampshire, south coast. Good question. I feel that it is difficult, especially when I was younger as I was very misunderstood. I would constantly get end of school reports saying that I'm 'too quiet' and 'not confident' and don't 'believe' in my own ability, etc. I don't think people realized or understood that, no I wasn't extroverted or outgoing or loud but everything I was hearing and being taught, I was taking in. People, for some reason, seem to think introverts and shy people are rude and arrogant - I don't understand that.

But yes, I feel that my type can be often overlooked in society in general but a lot of people in the UK are quiet also as I think we're not an overly outgoing nation - at least the people I've been into contact with aren't? I think INFJ and similar types are misunderstood in general because a lot of people aren't willing to look deeper into someones personality these days, sadly.

Thank you for the welcomes! :)
Fascinating, if you'd been born male your quiet descriptors might have been 'signs of autism' or some social emotional issue, instead society still assigns gender accepted behaviours with alpha mindsets for males and social harmoniser (chameleon?) roles to girls... personally I choose not to play to gender expectations* (what is one to do when 'quiet and contemplative predispositions' are still seen as subservience, incapability or 'strong silent type' depending upon perspective).

*Feeling a man should know sewing, cooking, cleaning, health issues present in both genders and a little about womens fashion and styles, and vice versa for 'male passions'.
 
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Fascinating, if you'd been born male your quiet descriptors might have been 'signs of autism' or some social emotional issue, instead society still assigns gender accepted behaviours with alpha mindsets for males and social harmoniser (chameleon?) roles to girls... personally I choose not to play to gender expectations* (what is one to do when 'quiet and contemplative predispositions' are still seen as subservience, incapability or 'strong silent type' depending upon perspective).

*Feeling a man should know sewing, cooking, cleaning, health issues present in both genders and a little about womens fashion and styles, and vice versa for 'male passions'.
You make a good point there. I feel nowadays that teachers/professionals label too many children on the autistic spectrum and don't bother to look into their personalities as individuals, so therefore place them due to stereotypes. Looking through my reports, I did wonder how they didn't find my behaviour odd or worrying as I was always very socially anxious, had trouble making friends and on one report it had said I had limited vocabulary when I was spoken to or asked a question but always very good at communicating otherwise, such as in literacy and creative writing.

But looking more into personality types, I realize that my 'type' isn't as rare as I thought and that other people sometimes do have trouble making sense of the world where they live like I have always done. That gives me a huge sense of relief.
 

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But looking more into personality types, I realize that my 'type' isn't as rare as I thought and that other people sometimes do have trouble making sense of the world where they live like I have always done. That gives me a huge sense of relief.
Even as someone 3 years older than yourself, at times I still find it hard to tell if 'type' and 'rarity' are societally defined when it seems most meet others at work, in education, as a friend of a friend or in hobbies rather than more organic unabridged social settings as things used to be before the the 20+ age range.
 
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