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Does this sound accurate to you, 7s?

A substantial part of 7 psychology is constantly staying active and occupied to avoid confronting a nagging feeling of guilt that lurks deep inside. 7s are connected to 1s, after all, and while they're not superego types and they do prioritize enjoyment and pleasure, there's always a mostly-ignored voice deep within nipping at their heels, saying "you know you should take things more seriously/you know you could do better/you know you're not doing what you should be doing", and this self-judgment is a major driving factor behind their race to constantly find new, exciting things to do that can drown out that voice.
I suspect tritype and wing would affect how prominent this voice is (7w6 and 1 fixed 7s will probably feel it more strongly than 8 fixed/wing, for example) but this does make a lot of sense, at least from my perspective as a 1. It would also partially explain some of the intense reactions I've seen from 7s to criticism from others for their "irresponsibility"; while nobody likes to be judged, 7s seem especially sensitive to that sort of criticism, which would make sense if it mirrors things they've said to themselves before.

Any 7s have thoughts on guilt?
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Yes, this sounds right to me. Granted, I am a 7w6 (sx/so).

There have been times in my life, especially in childhood, where I was wracked with guilt and self-doubt over my moral capacity, in a really deep and irrational sense.

But mostly, this is a background feeling that I'm barely conscious of. It surfaces once in awhile, and it's hard to feel like it isn't warranted. I tend to feel guilty about the things that a 7 probably should feel guilty for:

- Enjoying life when there is so much suffering in the world
- Not "caring" enough about other people's feelings and plights/not being able to emotionally engage when they're hurting
- Not taking care of my health, which could negatively affect my son and my significant other
- Filling my time with festivities and mindless buzzing, instead of something truly meaningful or lasting, when life is short
- Focusing more on my needs than my child's needs
- Blaming myself for staying late at work (too slow, breaks too long, waste time on details)
- Buying time for exciting experiences by cutting corners when it comes to my responsibilities.
- Failing myself when it comes to controlling my cravings, which is mostly always

I was raised by a 2/1, so maybe that gives me more awareness of how selfless a person can be, and I see myself against that backdrop.
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That's like feeling guilty for looking after your health when there are so many unhealthy people in the world. The more healthy people there are, the better for everyone, and that includes emotional health. Being and spreading joy in the darkness is the Seven's gift to the world, don't be ashamed of it. :happy:
Thanks for the affirmation, CR. I have historically been kind of oblivious to other peoples' suffering, and I am usually oblivious on a day-to-day basis. In the last several years, I have been noticing how certain less fortunate people react to me; with a touch of hurt, envy, and resentment. It kind of makes me sober up and check myself before parading around noisily, flaunting all my positivity and gratitude for all the fun I figure out a way to have, and all the nice things that seem to frequently happen to me.
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