I am insecure on average compared to others (Ni-Fe thing) but if you give me good reasons to change my opinion I will. What use is there sticking to something that doesn't work?
What about other people in your life?I am insecure on average compared to others (Ni-Fe thing) but if you give me good reasons to change my opinion I will. What use is there sticking to something that doesn't work?
I suppose I should go a little more into detail by what I mean by stubborn. For the most part, I am not referring to personal opinions about the following politics , religion, or science. I mean it's more of just an unwilling to compromise on small things that really don't matter. Like, where we go out to eat, how to do something, or not compromising or sacrificing something for some one because they feel insecure about it. I sacrifice things for people all the time when I don't want to and I feel that I deserve the same . It's more small things. It's normally subtle. It also seems to stem from an non intentional self centeredness. Almost like team work isn't beneficial and only what they want goes. Is it maybe because they are insecure and aren't confident to trust something different? Again, I need to mention that these people hid it and it can be hard to notice.Usually insecure people call me stubborn, because they cannot accept that they are wrong. My disagreement/insistence on my own opinions must be a character flaw, and not the logical flaw in their argument I pointed out in detail five times already.
Security means you can change your mind if you need to, upon seeing valid data. Being right means you don't have to. A reputation for stubbornness may the insecure kind or simply be other people being threatened. It all depends.
....insecure about where to eat? Or about themselves?
Defensiveness in the face of perceived criticism maybe. Or a standard introvert thing - hundreds of invisible (because you didn't state your contrary opinion/need) compromises being made, and the ones you don't make (which are noted because you actually say/do something) being resented. The stubbornness of "goddamnit, the one time I actually cared enough to state my opinion out loud - I let them decide the rest of the time!" perhaps? Plus an awareness that certain tiring things, things that take more effort, social things, are bigger compromises for one party and factorig that into account. Not an SP though, so I'll leave the rest of the speculating to them.
I feel your pain. :crazy:Okay, I can definitely see the defensiveness in the face of perceived criticism.