So there's a thread about an ENFJ who has a jealous boyfriend. She's trying to come up with something she can do that will make him change his behavior.
So this begs the question: has anyone EVER gotten someone to change their behavior?
I don't think it's possible. You can get someone to want to change. But they have to be willing and open to change themselves. First they have to see their behavior as damaging, but even if they're willing, they might not have the skills or the will to change.
So did you get your significant other to pick up after themselves, stop spending money on stupid crap, stop putting you down, stop taking you for granted, or any of the behavior you saw as clear signs of trouble at the beginning of the relationship but were hoping they would change before it broke you up?
If they didn't change, how long was it before you stopped trying and broke up?
So this begs the question: has anyone EVER gotten someone to change their behavior?
I don't think it's possible. You can get someone to want to change. But they have to be willing and open to change themselves. First they have to see their behavior as damaging, but even if they're willing, they might not have the skills or the will to change.
So did you get your significant other to pick up after themselves, stop spending money on stupid crap, stop putting you down, stop taking you for granted, or any of the behavior you saw as clear signs of trouble at the beginning of the relationship but were hoping they would change before it broke you up?
If they didn't change, how long was it before you stopped trying and broke up?