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The common belief around porn seems to be that it negatively affects sexuality, for both men and women by giving an unrealistic expectation of what their partner’s body should look like, and how they should perform in bed.

There are however studies showing that viewing of pornography makes little if any difference to ones sexuality, or that it can even be a positive tool that can better ones sex life.

Would you say that viewing of pornography has impacted your sexuality? If so, has it been positive or negative?
 

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In my case; I learned a whole lot about sex, especially about those niche topics (rimming, gagging, etc.) I used it and learned all those strange things you don't learn in textbooks. Although, one has to be smart and realize it's all pretend; but still... you see some strange things walking down good ol' Porn Street.
 

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There are also studies (arguably even more) that come to the exact opposite conclusion.
That is true, but studies can easily be skewed. For this subject in particular, there are many conflicting studies. So I am curious what actual people have to say about what their experience with porn has been. I would suspect as with most things, that the truth lies somewhere in the middle!
 

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That's a pretty generic pizza/picture of a pizza to be called "food porn," IMO.
Weird, I thought it was cheesier than regular pizza. Pepperoni happens to be one of my favorites along with Stoner's Pie (there were no good pictures of it, though). Maybe I've been eating unsatisfying pizza.

Wait, does it need to be in a bikini to be food porn? I could GIMP that in.

*For those who are wondering, Stoner's Pie is this great concoction of pizza that contains mozzarella sticks, pepperoni, french fries, bacon, and extra cheese. It's one of the most horrible things for your body, but it's amazing.
 

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l'd say learning from porn is the issue. More so for men who need to learn to perform, but l guess young girls are also affected bod image wise, among other things.

l think that certain ''trends'' that have become seemingly standard are directly inspired by porn and l'm glad l didn't have to deal with that as a younger person.

My age group wasn't really as directly affected by it as Gen z IMO, l didn't really watch much porn until my mid 20's but l've never seemed to have issues with it :wink:
 
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I have no problem with porn, I enjoy it sometimes myself and my wife gets to enjoy the the after effects. I can't say it's harmed me at all, or my sexuality. If anything, it has helped me to acknowledge that I am a very sexual person and that it is a possitive form of foreplay, when used in moderation. We only watch the lesbian porns, made by, and for lesbians, not the girls pretending to be lesbians...

I would prefer my son, when he is of age, does not watch a lot of it(hetero porn, he's straight), because it shows women faking it, and it is a male based fantasy. In other words, it would show him exactly what men seem to think women want, but what they actually don't want. I know of no women who want a man in their rear and another in their hoo-ha at the same time, pounding as hard as they can....It's unsanitary and unsafe for a male to go from your anus to your vagina(like they show), unless you want an infection, and they show oral sex being given to a woman like the man is having a tongue/clit beating match(just ow!)So, on those premises, I would not want my son to watch it much because it would give him an unrealistic idea of what a good lover is/ what women want. For general jack off material, I have no problems with it. Again, as long as he realizes it's a fantasy only.
 

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Porn has had more negative consequences on my sexuality than positive ones. I developed some unrealistic expectations about sex. I also feel shame sometimes after looking at porn. It can be an escape. I also think it promotes immediate gratification, and so now I tend to get off as quickly as possible.

I have not come across too many studies that show where porn is beneficial. I think it is one of those things that yes it can have some good consequences, but there it does far more damage than it does good. Porn tends to promote men as being powerful, objectifies women, and can teach men to undervalue or hate women (hetero porn). Parents need to be the people educating their children about sex rather than porn. Unfortunately many parents or adults don't step up to the plate. Mostly I see porn as a drain on society versus being a benefit to society. I don't think that banning porn is the answer, but I think it does show that society has a lot of issues when it comes to sex. We need to somehow start addressing these issues instead of sweeping them under the carpet.
 
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no. i still doesn't measure up to the real thing. i mean, at a certain point it has to hit home that it's just pixels... that at a certain point, it's just body parts (and god awful, terrible acting).

if you're going to compare your partner's body to the body of someone in a flick, that isn't porn's fault, but your own... and you're most likely not getting what you could get from sex because you are unable to do otherwise.

edit: in other words--porn isn't making you this way, more like it's taking advantage of a "lack of growth in one way", or of another issue. it's not magic.
 

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I think it greatly depends on the person as well as the content they are consuming. In the sense that there is a lot of unrealistic porn out there and if the person does consider that as the reality then they are making quite a big mistake.

Most porn does provide very unrealistic expectations of both men and women. This relates to time, what works and what doesn't work, how it should be done how it shouldn't, the physical interaction overall etc.

They also provide a clean and structured environment that is almost never what actually happens in reality.

In terms of whether it has effected me I guess in my early teenage years I did consume a bit too much and there where instances where I maybe should have taken a subjective look at what I was trying to achieve in reality, it was quite a quick learning process for me and I quickly stopped consuming large amounts of it.

The thing that has to be remembered is people in general are influenced by what they see and hear. In this case mostly porn that is fully focused on the instant gratification and dominance ideologies.

But there is also porn out there that has a certain sense of realism and doesn't consist of fake moans and cumshots. As well as good erotic literature.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that yes it can be beneficial but the overwhelming amount of superficial and fake porn that really has no place in reality poses a huge problem to this effect.
 

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There are however studies showing that viewing of pornography makes little if any difference to ones sexuality, or that it can even be a positive tool that can better ones sex life.
I'm very interested in seeing a study that shows how it can better ones sex life. Links?
 

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I'm indifferent to it. It's not good enough when I know I can easily get the real thing with an interactive partner any time even when I was single. Was always pointless for me.
 
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I would definitely say it's been positive for me. However, I think it really depends on the person, their age/maturity, and what type of porn they're watching. There's a huge difference between watching a video of someone masturbating or of a couple's home sex video compared with professional porn stars with fake tits being choked and impaled with dicks in every hole.
So I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with using visual stimulation and I think it can be healthy, but I think the porn industry is very messed up.
 
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