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It's hard to explain. Such as, you feel it pulling you to them and you can't seem to control it. It's as if you are metal being pulled to a magnet. Not exactly sexual or physical attraction, something deeper that you can't put into words and somehow you get the feeling that they feel it too.

It's a very strange and strong feeling of attraction, almost feels supernatural. You feel hyper-aware of their presence, encounter coincidences and synchronicities out of your control that seem to drawn you together, immediate kinship/affinity and deep connection, shared sense of familiarity/recognition and ease/comfort, and almost an intuitive feeling of predestination - that you were meant to cross pathes with this person.

It's something spiritual to where there is some sort of energy similarity between your souls and that energy is trying to reunite itself, which it obviously can't do since it is being expressed through too many different souls.

Anyone have any similar experiences to share?
Is there a name for this?
 

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It's hard to explain. Such as, you feel it pulling you to them and you can't seem to control it. It's as if you are metal being pulled to a magnet. Not exactly sexual or physical attraction, something deeper that you can't put into words and somehow you get the feeling that they feel it too.

It's a very strange and strong feeling of attraction, almost feels supernatural. You feel hyper-aware of their presence, encounter coincidences and synchronicities out of your control that seem to drawn you together, immediate kinship/affinity and deep connection, shared sense of familiarity/recognition and ease/comfort, and almost an intuitive feeling of predestination - that you were meant to cross pathes with this person.

It's something spiritual to where there is some sort of energy similarity between your souls and that energy is trying to reunite itself, which it obviously can't do since it is being expressed through too many different souls.
YES. Oh my gosh, yes. I'm not even sure how to expand upon this, but yes. You described it perfectly. (Gosh, it's threads like this that make me love this forum. :p) It's a feeling that I kind of describe as "I need to know you completely", except the feeling is more as though I already know the person and what I want to do is learn every little thing about them and share every little part of myself in return -- with the sense that we almost wouldn't have to explain any of it because the connection would be so strong... like connecting on another level of consciousness or something. The term "kindred spirits" comes to mind, although it feels like even more than that. Soulmates, possibly? (Although there are several different definitions of what 'soulmate' means.) I don't get it very often, but when I do, it's very intense and can be overwhelming. I've learnt to trust this sense somewhat, because I've never been totally off-base with it when I've gotten to know someone better. The most significant experience with this so far ended up breaking my heart; not because I was wrong but because I'll likely never get to be as close to this person as I want to be, for a handful of reasons. It's still painful to think about, especially because I have some degree of contact with the person in question. I dunno, maybe some is better than none and I should feel grateful for even knowing her at all... but damn, it hurts. I want to have so much more with her than will ever be possible...

Anyway, I hear ya. It's awesome to know I'm not alone in this feeling. :)
 

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That definitely happens to me. In fact, when I've made friends with someone I haven't felt this way about, I become very confused. "This is not how relationships work."

I tend to have an instinct for, "This is a person I will get along with." I always give everyone a chance! And I am very frequently surprised, and that is always incredibly pleasant~ I'm normally just not paying enough attention to notice someone unless I notice something about them that makes me think, "You're like me."
 

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I have this feeling with my long distance gf. It took me 44 years to find her and its like a great many things that happened in my life somehow seem to have been in preparation for this.
Through a series of coincidences we both ended up at the same time and place on an internet forum(that had nothing whatsoever to do with dating) and on the exact moment that we were both ready to begin a relationship.

After a little bit of smalltalk we suddenly crossed a threshold in our conversation and it felt like we were going from zero to warp 10 in an instant.
 

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Absolutely. I have felt *immediate* and I DO mean immediate connection with people and immediate disgust. It depends but it really makes me think more on the validity of past lives. And no, I can't control my feelings about these people. There is a lady at work, within seconds I liked her &I years later we still continue our friendship. There is no explaining with these people, it's like you've been together for 100s of lifetimes.
 

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My grandfather and I have always had a very special relationship. We always had an unspoken bond and could relate in ways that went beyond any other relationship I've had with another person.

He has cancer now and it's very hard. I look into his eyes and I can feel his pain. He looks at me and I know he doesn't care for himself at all, he only wishes he could be there for me longer. It's weird, but we don't have to communicate verbally, it's like we telepathically connect to each other.
 

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Insane. I thought I might be defunked or broken for feeling this way. The persons I've ever resonated like this with have always been in passing. Like I would just rest my sight on them and know there is something about them that kind of transcends where we are at the time, rarely is there a connection to where I have to meet them, but for the times that I've felt it I never acted on it. The two times that this had happened to me were first in Illinois when I were riding the bus with my g-ma, and these two dudes came on the bus. One with an afro with a massive beaded rosary intertwined along his arm, and the other standing without a care in the world, both harnessing massive backpacks so I can only guess they were traveling monks or some such in a very urban way.

Second time was this horrific acid trip that I won't get into. This guy there, an infp, I had once encountered years earlier with less than stellar results (I am severely fragmented it turns out). But once again he shows up at a pivotal moment in life, this time a breakdown, but his demeanor was something far beyond everyone else present. For whatever reason though it might've been the acid, I had the strongest urge to meet him as in some predestined way. Oh wells. Hopefully this phenomenon happens again to where I can actually enact on it than sit by the sidelines.
 

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There are two similar experiences I can relate to this, except they both happened with people I already knew. The most recent one happened last October when a girl from the U.S. came to live in Brazil and she came to visit us for a few days. We didn't talk much, but when she left I did feel this magnetic pull on me - probably my past calling out to me. And ever since she said she loved to hear "Moves Like Jagger", that song reminds me of her.

And there was this time a few years ago when one of my best friends came to visit me too, although she still lives in America. After a long time of having only "acquaintance-ships" and not actually getting to talk with my true friends, I near-instantly felt a deep connection with her. It's probably that I'm just re-feeling the same strong bond we've always shared together.

These instances make me wonder what I'm doing with my life...:rolleyes:
 

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Definitely had that 'don't I already know you?' feeling with someone I just met. And also had the magnetic pull feeling, where you absolutely need to meet that person and talk to them.

Two INFPs come to mind who I met at the crisis line. Both people, when I looked into their eyes, I felt a kinship. It was weird. It felt like we were looking into each other's minds and we didn't need to bullshit our way into a conversation. it just naturally unfolded.
 

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I think I have something like this...

But I have a feeling that it's just me being horny. (men :rolleyes:)


But yeah, I kinda feel bad that I have never felt something like this (or at least acted on it :frustrating:)
Okay, revisiting this;

I was definitely horny when I was thinking about it, and now that it's out of my system I don't feel too much attraction to her.

Also in comparison I have not felt attraction like the other posters in this forum are, but I guess that's because I spend too much time looking out the window to see the person sitting next to me (not to mention not wanting to creep them out...). The closest I have is a girl that I talk to occasionally, but it's more like a good friends type thing than spiritual connection; the only reason why is that I have a blast talking to her on the rare occasion that I do and I always want more. But unfortunately she's sick/has habits that cause us to rarely cross paths (not to mention immense shyness on my part :unsure:).
 

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I've had this one person. It is more a series of strange coincidences or synchronicities... My husband works with a man who is kind of a friend. He often says the things I'm thinking, almost every time we are together. We also have very similar tastes in just about everything. Actually, one time, I sang a particular song to my husband and he informed me afterward that this friend sang to him the same song only a day before. I have talked to my husband about these coincidences and he agrees that it is rather uncanny how similar we are.

The odd thing is, objectively I think this person is attractive, but I am not attracted to him. I have no idea what any of this means. We re both painfully shy until we get comfortable, and tha has not yet happened for both of us.
 

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Well, ENFP here (I seem to be doing lots of wanderings in the INFP forums as of late ^^'), and I can say with certainty, yes, I have had this instant magnetic connection with somebody. No, it wasn't romantic. It isn't romantic.

My first interactions with her were through stories. Her stories. Short stories. And then I got to become friends with her, because there was something in her stories that I instantly clicked with. When I got to know her, I just felt like we understood each other. We live far apart and although we don't communicate much, a strong bond is there. I wouldn't call it a "sisterly" connection, or a "friend" connection, but it is friendly.

It is understanding at a core level.
 

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....yes, definetly.... happened to me at a summer camp and i couldn't stop crying when he left.... and no it wasnt romantic attraction...sometimes it happens when i look at people when i'm in a car, and i see a drivers face, and that feeling just happens...it's so weird....but i think i've relyed on it so much that i won't make friends unless i have it...
 

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I thought I was crazy for thinking this! This happens a lot with passing strangers, but i've unfortunately never had the opportunity to talk to them. Sometimes I see the same stranger on more than one occasion, and it freaks me out because I feel so connected to them, it's as if fate has just given us a little push towards eachother. These people always reciprocate the recognition, so it really does make me wonder. I always get this overwhelming urge to talk to them, for a reason I can't put my finger on. I would never go up to someone I don't know and talk to them, but I feel as if I have known them before and feel so at ease around them. Sometimes I'd like to think we are soulmates or kindered spirits in some past life:)
 

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Well, ENFP here (I seem to be doing lots of wanderings in the INFP forums as of late ^^'), and I can say with certainty, yes, I have had this instant magnetic connection with somebody. No, it wasn't romantic. It isn't romantic.

My first interactions with her were through stories. Her stories. Short stories. And then I got to become friends with her, because there was something in her stories that I instantly clicked with. When I got to know her, I just felt like we understood each other. We live far apart and although we don't communicate much, a strong bond is there. I wouldn't call it a "sisterly" connection, or a "friend" connection, but it is friendly.

It is understanding at a core level.
That reminds me very much of the interaction I have with and the connection I feel to the person I mentioned in my first post in this thread. She lives quite far away and I also got to know a lot about her first through things she'd written; I almost felt like I was being a bit of a creeper or something just because I knew way more about her than she did about me when we began actually interacting, haha. She picked up on the strong connection super quickly once that direct interaction was established though, so it all worked out in the end. :)

(Well... not totally. There's the part where my heart got broken because of the inability to have as full and intense of a relationship as I would have ideally liked to have with her -- more about that here -- but at least I still get to have her in my life to some degree. It's better than before we had any sort of interaction, when my need to get to know her was overwhelming me and driving me crazy.)

Edit: @Julia Bell - This person is an ENFP, like you. :) I really like ENFPs -- the xNFP part seems to make us very similar, while the extroversion draws me out of my shell.
 

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That reminds me very much of the interaction I have with and the connection I feel to the person I mentioned in my first post in this thread. She lives quite far away and I also got to know a lot about her first through things she'd written; I almost felt like I was being a bit of a creeper or something just because I knew way more about her than she did about me when we began actually interacting, haha. She picked up on the strong connection super quickly once that direct interaction was established though, so it all worked out in the end. :)

(Well... not totally. There's the part where my heart got broken because of the inability to have as full and intense of a relationship as I would have ideally liked to have with her -- more about that here -- but at least I still get to have her in my life to some degree. It's better than before we had any sort of interaction, when my need to get to know her was overwhelming me and driving me crazy.)
That is eerily similar. ^^ I'm glad it worked out for you in the end, despite broken hearts. :) I'm going to meet with my friend I mentioned over the summer, which I'm definitely looking forward to.

EDIT: Oh, wow! Thank you! I adore INFPs. Well, that's not to say I idolize the type, but you guys are certainly fascinating and startlingly similar.
 

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That is eerily similar. ^^ I'm glad it worked out for you in the end, despite broken hearts. :) I'm going to meet with my friend I mentioned over the summer, which I'm definitely looking forward to.
Aww, that's awesome! I hope you have a wonderful time. :)

I nearly spent $800+ on a plane ticket last autumn to spend a weekend together with my friend, and she called it off at the last minute because she was offered double pay to work a long holiday weekend and decided she needed the money. I was really sad (and kinda pissed, haha) because we'd been talking really excitedly about all the things we were going to do... *sigh* We still haven't gotten round to making any more plans, unfortunately. :( She's also not the best at keeping up regular contact, despite the fact that she's a great communicator when she does manage to get round to it. Bleh, I hate long distances...
 
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