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You assume that reconciling is about being or feeling sexy enough?
You don't understand the social pressure of how "being the woman" in a relationship is like having an extra job.
Maybe it is makeup among other things (for some women) but maybe not. I won't go so "feminist" as to say this is a patriarchal conspiracy but I don't think you @drmiller100 can comprehend the choices women have to make. The guy is still just the guy after he gets married, he's the same, judged by society on the same criteria, whether married or single.
Sometimes, if a woman is a supermodel she can marry a guy who has a life, and stands on his own two feet, with her only having to do a few trophy appearances here and there; hire a nanny (or a cook), whatever. Married couples can easily get caught up in a lot of activity that they just do because it is what married people do, and most of the mindless grunt labor to make these activities happen - will fall on the woman. When you are single, so what if you eat ramen while being in artist la la land, pushing a deadline for your design project and being higher than high - without drugs, because the project is challenging.
When married, you have to think about how the spouse needs to prove or compensate for whatever they need to compensate for - the man needing to prove manhood by showing his Dad he has a long enough driveway (for example) - and the woman is expected to be available as a full time ego prop.
smiles, and sent with humor............
Well that certainly escalated quickly! Strangely enough, there are guys who don't really give a shit about society's expectations, who don't want or need a lady to compensate for him, who don't mind making dinner and spending weeks with the kids while she gets her project done.
The cool thing is the great ladies who are smart and interesting learn to camouflage in making them damn near impossible to identify. It takes a hell of a maturity level to decide to shed society's expectations, and market as you truly are.