Have you ever felt that you have better control over other people's lives?
Have you ever felt that you have better control over other people's lives, especially close friends', than your own?
I can almost always predict other people's decisions,choices, and the possible outcomes of those..I know what will happen if they follow my advice, and know what will happen if they don't, the latter usually resulting in the I TOLD YOU! effect.
But I cant say the same for my own...I feel like my life is slipping out my hands, or maybe I never even had any real control to begin with. I can easily play the fortune-teller for anyone, or guide them, but I can't guide myself. I always make the worst possible decisons, and my expectations never align with reality(If you've seen the movie 500 days of Summer then that scene sums me up pretty well). It's like I'm everyone's "budget-psychologist" but my own.
And if there are any psychologists here, can you always guide yourself the same way you treat your patients? Or do you need counseling yourself?
Wow, it's harder to explain this than I thought:O Probably a lot more on my mind, this is just what I could say for now with a bad hangover^^
So my questions is, do you ever feel this way? Do you ever stop yourself and think, you're wasting an unhealthy ammount of energy on other people's lives and asking nothing in return?
Have you ever felt that you have better control over other people's lives, especially close friends', than your own?
I can almost always predict other people's decisions,choices, and the possible outcomes of those..I know what will happen if they follow my advice, and know what will happen if they don't, the latter usually resulting in the I TOLD YOU! effect.
But I cant say the same for my own...I feel like my life is slipping out my hands, or maybe I never even had any real control to begin with. I can easily play the fortune-teller for anyone, or guide them, but I can't guide myself. I always make the worst possible decisons, and my expectations never align with reality(If you've seen the movie 500 days of Summer then that scene sums me up pretty well). It's like I'm everyone's "budget-psychologist" but my own.
And if there are any psychologists here, can you always guide yourself the same way you treat your patients? Or do you need counseling yourself?
Wow, it's harder to explain this than I thought:O Probably a lot more on my mind, this is just what I could say for now with a bad hangover^^
So my questions is, do you ever feel this way? Do you ever stop yourself and think, you're wasting an unhealthy ammount of energy on other people's lives and asking nothing in return?